In my opinion, we absolutely MUST learn to discipline or educate ourselves on introspection and emotional intelligence. We must stop looking at things as First, Second, Third, so on. To those people who have reached self-actualization, you want other to succeed, more so than they do themselves. Self-actualizing means to see and call things as they are without influence from an ego. When you release the burdens of who to be and how to feel and how to act and what to believe in --- along with natural internal struggle between your "gut" brain and conscience brain (from years of repressing your natural self, as conditioned through public aducation and religion) your left with something that can't be fully described... an inner-peace that is compounded and rewarded by offering what you can to those who can never repay you.