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Triggers to becoming self-aware of your blind spots
  • Recognize that you are more intense and robust than most other people. Tone down ‘your volume’ so that you do not intimidate others.
  • When you feel the warmth of anger rise in your belly area, focus on your breathing to prevent yourself from having an outburst which you may later regret.
  • You need not be responsible for everyone. Empower others by encouraging them to learn to take care of themselves.
  • People are not always intent on tripping you up. When you start seeing ‘enemies’, rein yourself back and consider that you may be creating the ‘spooks’ in your own mind.
  • It is okay to show your vulnerable side to others. When you are sufficiently relaxed to do this people will open up to you and you will gain their trust.
How we can bring out the best in Type Eights
  • Because Type Eights are tough, they enjoy being challenged with truth and conviction.
  • Underneath the tough exterior they have a marshmallow heart. Appeal to their soft side by giving them positive feedback.
  • Resist speaking about Type Eights behind their back. They can take robust feedback but their anger will be aroused if they believe that others have been disloyal to them.
  • Don’t take things too personally when they do their straight-talking. If you need to confront them, do so when they are relaxed and preferably alone.
Source: Kingma, Lee. What's Your Tribe?: An Enneagram Guide to Human Types at Work and Play. Claremont, South Africa: Double Storey, 2010.
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Why no 9's and 1's? I was just wondering why you didn't mention these...
 

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Thank you for a helpful post!
 

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Thank you. It is really important we have this. I am diagnosed with OCPD and it should be mentioned. Self-Awareness is crucial.
 

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Being told to tone it down, not get angry, and that I’m responsible for others are all triggers for me in themselves lol I love how in modern society we are required to be tolerant of any and all emotional issues that people have, except anger. Someone can cry and whine at you all day and you better suck it up and play nice, but someone gets mad and all hell breaks loose.
 
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