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My tritype is 649.. as said: very sensitive, skeptical, and doubting myself (and others). I feel incredibly lost and frustrated AND restless because I can't find a way to make myself feel better, to be motivated to get up in the morning, to be interested in what I used to love to do once again... etc. :frustrating:

I don't trust my own judgement anymore, which is extremely scary. I've had a psychologist (who has no knowledge about enneagrams) tell me I have "destructive thinking". I can't decide whether I'm wayyyyyyy out or what I say and think is reasonable!!

It's been about 3 weeks, where I've been waking up everyday and feeling miserable. I've had on and off depression for a couple years. In the meantime I've had an 8 friend help me analyze what has been going wrong. We got to the conclusion that I "collapsed" when I started doubting myself. I feel that I've been drained of all the strength I used to have to fight anxiety and guilt trips -- so they take over.

I'm not sure what I'm expecting from posting. Maybe another 6 who can relate to me? I don't have a close 6 friend.. I think I'm seeking one who understands.. :unsure: ?
 

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Start by making a list of things you are sure of in your life. I know for probably have a good life, job, work, etc. List them and think about where you stand especially if they're in good graces.

And now, once you know you have a handful of sure fire awesome things go indulge yourself in things you do like.

I find when I start having those feelings I am in heavy need of a change of scenery. A vacation for even a few days to someplace that is new certainly helps the situation.
 

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Have you tried doing a "retreat" in order to distance yourself from the problems? It often helps to gain a more general/objective view, psichological distance. The answers usually come by themselves when we do this. I don't know what works for you, maybe being surrounded by nature for a few days, some quiet and visually pleasing place?

You need to reconnect with yourself, introverts in general need this. I know I need it every once in a while. At first it can be boring, I advise not stressing over it.
 

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I don't really know what to tell you...
For me, it's like having a bundle of nervous energy that compels me to screw up.
But because of my temperament, it's hard to stay 'down' for too long. Usually a good night's sleep... or a few days of being away from what ever it is that caused my funk, clears me up right away.

But I do know the feeling of waking up morning after morning wondering what the heck you're supposed to do when you're not even sure what you can do...

I think the main thing to keep yourself from getting to/staying at that point, is to keep yourself occupied with other things - anything that absorbs all your focus and concentration, and hopefully that will help you get through it. Even doing something you've never done, or something you love doing but aren't that great at can help. Just something to make you smile, really.
 

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I'm a 469, so I can relate to self-doubt. I'm so sorry you have been depressed:( I'm bipolar and need medication, which helps a lot. I had destructive thinking when I was depressed, too. I think it's natural when you are already feeling so bad... I agree that making a list of things that you know are true might help make you feel more grounded.
 

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Sometimes I fall into the trap of self-doubt and I know the feeling, it leads to a spiral of questioning and feelings of helplessness...When I was having trouble with this, I had to consciously decide to listen to my inner voice or whatever you wanna call it. Your question also made me think of this video that explains a bit about how when you act inauthentically, you'll sense it because it makes you feel icky (scientific term). That's one of the ways you know what not to do.

Gabrielle Bernstein: How to Be More Authentic

I think for 6s, sometimes it takes effort to learn to recognize and act from your authentic self (like 9s do). For me, I listen to my 1 side, since that's the gut/body part of my tritype, and for you it might be your 9 side. The good news is that you already have that part of yourself there, you just have to figure out how to listen to it. =)

For me, I like to set little goals for myself when I'm having trouble with motivation. Like, sometimes things just seem really hard or impossible, but if you break it down into little parts it feels more manageable. And then if you say, I'm going to accomplish X by this date, or this week I'm going to focus on Y, you can take little steps that rebuild your confidence in yourself as you accomplish them. For me, I wrestle with my perfectionistic 1 side and I have to compromise with myself. Like, the 1 side just wants everything to be done like, yesterday. But thinking that way is just frustrating and makes you feel like whatever you do isn't good enough, and that's not going to help you be more productive, lol. You have to compromise with yourself and take baby steps, and then congratulate yourself when you accomplish something! You deserve it! You are awesome! :proud:
 
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