After. Even without the religion, my choice would not be different. What can I say, I am a hopeless romantic. If I succeed I have everything to gain. If I were to compromise, that would negate my purpose. In other words, that would be just as useless as failing completely. But I believe God has a destiny, so long-term failure is not a possibility to begin with.
And should you believe in God and in 'holy matrimony', do you really believe God needs an intermediary to sign off on the bond between two of His subjects?
There are no specifications in the bible. You do need to be married, but its not a requirement to follow tradition or even have a holy man marry you. First marriage in the bible:
Gen. 2:18, 21-24
The Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him'...and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man.' For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh
That being said, I do see a ritual as important, as this commitment a very serious thing, and should be brought out under everyone's eyes, not just two people. I will just go through with the traditional marriage. Will make things less complicated with the SJs. But wedding will have some crazy twist to it (see Bam's wedding).