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So I was visiting home with my sister and her friend about a week ago. I mostly hung out with our girlfriends and just talked for hours about this and that. We got to sex and orgasms and everyone said they are a “one and done” kinda girl. If they are feeling particularly feisty they might go another round in like an hour. And I'm just like.... ugh... like I don't stop, maybe a 10 minute breather, but yeah.... And everyone looked at me like I had 10 heads. So basically I explained my sexual routine for the last few years. If I'm tired and it's the end of the day, sure a nice romp in the hay will put me to sleep, but generally it's the opposite. The big 'O' really pumps me up. And each time is better than the last. In the last few years I always wear out my partner, and I could keep going. The one guy I have been banging the most consistently keeps up with me better than anyone else has but I still wear him out. I mean he's never complained and he has really great stamina but we always end things with him out of breath, sweaty and desperate for water, and I'm just like “Oh, you're done? Cuz I could keep going...” And if it's just me and I'm messing around with myself, like I will easily have 5 or 6 orgasms in like an hour. Which everyone there thought was insane. It's never even like I was done, I could keep going I just figured I wasted enough time playing with myself and should get back to doing something productive.

I use to never have orgasms. I went though a very shitty phase that lasted a several years were I just couldn't enjoy sex even if I wanted to. I was so numb and disconnected from my body and it hurt me so much. The thought of having sex would stress me out. The partners I had then put a lot of pressure on me to orgasm so they could feel good about themselves which only of course exacerbated the whole issue. I thought there was something wrong with me and I might never enjoy sex even though I really wanted to.

Then after a breakup with a boyfriend who wanted it to be his personal quest to be the first man to make me cum (which he failed completely at – go figure!) after some time decided to reclaim my body. I masturbated a ton, it was really difficult to orgasm at first, but this time I didn't put any pressure on myself. I guess after all that practice my hooha is very well trained and now I fuck like the energizer bunny. But yeah, my friends seemed to think that was pretty unusual and haven't experienced anything like it. So where do you guys all stand? Am I really all that odd and extreme? I'm curios to know about other people's experiences.
 

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Sex wears me out when it lasts for more than 40 minutes... or when I'm expected to be a power bottom. Uhg, I hate it when guys are like, "Why aren't you moving your hips in rhythm with mine from missionary while grabbing me with your thighs?" Umm because I'm not a wrestling champion lol!! Basically asking me to completely suspend myself from my thighs and match your movements while you have me completely pinned down...??? I don't know what kind of porn these guys are watching but they're insane.

I think it's all about how you do it, what positions, etc. With good teamwork and a good pace it shouldn't be too tiring, assuming you're young and in shape. But if you're talking about being able to orgasm a lot... that's normal for women. A large number of women in the US and western cultures don't know how to orgasm, but studies have shown that all women are capable of orgasm. It's more likely just a problem of repression and poorly taught men. When your ex tried to make you orgasm, did he go down on you? Did he listen to your body and try to understand your natural rhythm? It's hard to find men who are good at sex, and I completely blame our culture for that. They don't realise that female orgasm is dependent on the man understanding her body. Sex is a whole new world once you find a man who understands how to actually listen and learn.
 

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@devoid I guess when I say “wear's me out” I mean like when it's good I don't really feel like I'm finished or spent. I can stop and usually still feel satisfied but I'd rather keep going. My friends all said one is enough and they couldn't possibly keep things going with out an hour break. They looked at me like I had some sort of super power, but I didn't think it was that strange.

As for that one ex... well for one thing his cock was waaaay too big for me, so in that sense sex with him would wear me out – and very quickly. But for another, he just sucked. I'll chalk it up to that being one of my first real relationships so live and learn. But yeah, the first time we had sex I was in a lot of pain but he was too busy patting himself on the back for having such a huge shlong. I should have know better, but before him so many of my sexual experiences were totally duds. I guess I just have a thing for shy, awkward guys when I'm confident and sexually forward. Most guys couldn't work up the nerve to really make a move and when I would they would get all soft on me. So this guy was one of the first guys to really come along and 'fuck me'. And at the time it really meant a lot to me. I didn't want to be a boner shrinker. I guess I just convinced myself that this is what it must be like to get laid by a 'real man' and not those shy dweebs I kept going after. I wasn't very sexually experienced at the time and he used that to try and convince me that I didn't know my own body but he was gonna show me. Even then I begged to differ, but I stayed with him for a time anyway. Hind sight is 20/20. and sex got a lot better for me AFTER he and I were done.

For a male there is a period between each ejaculation where one cannot ejaculation, lasting anywhere from minutes to days.
I knew guys can't spring right back into action after cumming, but really a day? I guess that would explain this one guy I was seeing. He refused to have sex with me more than once a day. I would get so frustrated with him, because I just want it all the time. All he would ever tell me was that he would just do it once and no more. Now I feel kinda bad because I would make a big stink of him not doing me more.... ah well it wasn't meant to be. We're still good friends, but I need a guy with a libido that can keep up with mine.
 

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@devoid I guess when I say “wear's me out” I mean like when it's good I don't really feel like I'm finished or spent. I can stop and usually still feel satisfied but I'd rather keep going. My friends all said one is enough and they couldn't possibly keep things going with out an hour break. They looked at me like I had some sort of super power, but I didn't think it was that strange.

As for that one ex... well for one thing his cock was waaaay too big for me, so in that sense sex with him would wear me out – and very quickly. But for another, he just sucked. I'll chalk it up to that being one of my first real relationships so live and learn. But yeah, the first time we had sex I was in a lot of pain but he was too busy patting himself on the back for having such a huge shlong. I should have know better, but before him so many of my sexual experiences were totally duds. I guess I just have a thing for shy, awkward guys when I'm confident and sexually forward. Most guys couldn't work up the nerve to really make a move and when I would they would get all soft on me. So this guy was one of the first guys to really come along and 'fuck me'. And at the time it really meant a lot to me. I didn't want to be a boner shrinker. I guess I just convinced myself that this is what it must be like to get laid by a 'real man' and not those shy dweebs I kept going after. I wasn't very sexually experienced at the time and he used that to try and convince me that I didn't know my own body but he was gonna show me. Even then I begged to differ, but I stayed with him for a time anyway. Hind sight is 20/20. and sex got a lot better for me AFTER he and I were done.



I knew guys can't spring right back into action after cumming, but really a day? I guess that would explain this one guy I was seeing. He refused to have sex with me more than once I day. I would get so frustrated with him, because I just want it all the time. All he would ever tell me was that he that he would just do it once and no more. Now I feel kinda bad because I would make a big stink of him not doing me more.... ah well it wasn't meant to be. We're still good friends, but I need a guy with a libido that can keep up with mine.
It's usually much more exciting after several days. I have much time on hands to experiment.
 

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40 mins and one orgasm is usually enough for me. Sometimes I'm up for another round or 3, but not on a regular basis. I find orgasms get less intense after the first one.
 

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I can go for hours. I'll get physically tired, yes, but I can also keep going for as long as I like, or other times you just want to finish quickly. I pride myself on my self control. I don't know if it's common for a man, but I know how to have an orgasm without ejaculating. I haven't dared to try it with a partner without protection though. The brain is really the most important sexual tool that we have, in my opinion.
 

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Some women get a burst of energy when they orgasm, whereas men generally get tired. It's not unusual, plenty of women can and do have multiple orgasms and can keep going.
 
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So where do you guys all stand? Am I really all that odd and extreme? I'm curios to know about other people's experiences.
I think guys need time to recharge. No doubt some have more reserve and more stamina than others. I've been involved with a couple of different women who could never get enough sex. It's really a problem. As soon as I was spent, they were cruising for someone else. How are you doing with establishing a good, stable relationship? Do you want that?
 

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I think guys need time to recharge. No doubt some have more reserve and more stamina than others. I've been involved with a couple of different women who could never get enough sex. It's really a problem. As soon as I was spent, they were cruising for someone else. How are you doing with establishing a good, stable relationship? Do you want that?
Yes I do in fact, but it's hard for me. I never cheated on anyone if that's what you might be asking. I'm very loyal. I'm pretty picky, and I actually haven't slept with that many guys. I tend to mess around with my ex's. I keep going back and forth with this one guy. And out of everyone he's hands down the most compatible in bed. He's got a lot of stamina and likes to go at it as much as I do. Even when he cums he's never down for the count for very long. We're just FWB, but he sends some weird signals a lot of the time and I often wonder if he has real feelings for me. I wish he did, I do like him a lot. But don't get me started with that...

I don't know how well I could form a relationship with someone who couldn't keep up with me in bed. Because for me it's not just something I like to do, it's so much of personality and how I express myself, especially if I really care about that person. Sex is chance to bond for me. If someone I was with didn't want it as often as I do, I don't think I would feel very connected to them.
 

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Some women get a burst of energy when they orgasm, whereas men generally get tired. It's not unusual, plenty of women can and do have multiple orgasms and can keep going.
That's what I thought, my friend's were acting like I had a super power or something.
 

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I usually have multiple orgasms, but if it lasts too long it becomes tiring indeed. I prefer it to be short and sweet (1-2 O's) than too long that will eventually make me unable to orgasm again and we'll have to stop abruptly, and I won't enjoy his orgasm as much. Plus, it's so wet down there I barely feel anything after that long.
 

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Yes I do in fact, but it's hard for me. I never cheated on anyone if that's what you might be asking. I'm very loyal. I'm pretty picky, and I actually haven't slept with that many guys. I tend to mess around with my ex's. I keep going back and forth with this one guy. And out of everyone he's hands down the most compatible in bed. He's got a lot of stamina and likes to go at it as much as I do. Even when he cums he's never down for the count for very long. We're just FWB, but he sends some weird signals a lot of the time and I often wonder if he has real feelings for me. I wish he did, I do like him a lot. But don't get me started with that...

I don't know how well I could form a relationship with someone who couldn't keep up with me in bed. Because for me it's not just something I like to do, it's so much of personality and how I express myself, especially if I really care about that person. Sex is chance to bond for me. If someone I was with didn't want it as often as I do, I don't think I would feel very connected to them.
Are there any older women you confide in, to get their perspective? You might want to think ahead a little. That's gonna wear out.
 

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Sex wears me out when it lasts for more than 40 minutes... or when I'm expected to be a power bottom. Uhg, I hate it when guys are like, "Why aren't you moving your hips in rhythm with mine from missionary while grabbing me with your thighs?" Umm because I'm not a wrestling champion lol!! Basically asking me to completely suspend myself from my thighs and match your movements while you have me completely pinned down...??? I don't know what kind of porn these guys are watching but they're insane.

I think it's all about how you do it, what positions, etc. With good teamwork and a good pace it shouldn't be too tiring, assuming you're young and in shape. But if you're talking about being able to orgasm a lot... that's normal for women. A large number of women in the US and western cultures don't know how to orgasm, but studies have shown that all women are capable of orgasm. It's more likely just a problem of repression and poorly taught men. When your ex tried to make you orgasm, did he go down on you? Did he listen to your body and try to understand your natural rhythm? It's hard to find men who are good at sex, and I completely blame our culture for that. They don't realise that female orgasm is dependent on the man understanding her body. Sex is a whole new world once you find a man who understands how to actually listen and learn.
It's hard to find men who are good at sex. But it's equally as hard to find women. The blame should be equal, and if a man doesnt understand her body well maybe she should learn to communicate her understanding.

Most women suck at getting men off too, you know. Sure we come most of the time, but there's a hell of a lot of difference between meh sex and good sex and it is a lot about the skills of the woman.
 
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