So, I know this isn't really an ENFJ thing but I like to think of you guys as folks who know how I think, so why not ask these sort of questions here!
What are your typical expectations of intimacy, in terms of frequency per week?
If you aren't getting enough, how do you approach the problem?
My personal answer would be 3-4 times a week. After reading around online, it so happens that's actually a pretty smack dab in the middle expectation. Most couples who live together actually end up around 150 times a year.
I've been going through a rather sexless relationship now for several months, and despite trying a lot of things I feel like progress is being made, but rather glacially.
I'm wondering at what point do I give up and move on, or keep trying to move things closer to where I'd be happy. It's not uncommon for me to go as long as 8 to 10 days sometimes with my partner, and having originally approached it with a negative response I unsurprisingly made things worse.
I'm trying to be patient, and understanding, but it's really hard to be when my needs aren't being met and the other person doesn't understand the frustration I'm going through.
Any advice would help. I feel like I've had to become a different person just to cope. Don't really feel like myself anymore because when I am I just make things worse.
What are your typical expectations of intimacy, in terms of frequency per week?
If you aren't getting enough, how do you approach the problem?
My personal answer would be 3-4 times a week. After reading around online, it so happens that's actually a pretty smack dab in the middle expectation. Most couples who live together actually end up around 150 times a year.
I've been going through a rather sexless relationship now for several months, and despite trying a lot of things I feel like progress is being made, but rather glacially.
I'm wondering at what point do I give up and move on, or keep trying to move things closer to where I'd be happy. It's not uncommon for me to go as long as 8 to 10 days sometimes with my partner, and having originally approached it with a negative response I unsurprisingly made things worse.
I'm trying to be patient, and understanding, but it's really hard to be when my needs aren't being met and the other person doesn't understand the frustration I'm going through.
Any advice would help. I feel like I've had to become a different person just to cope. Don't really feel like myself anymore because when I am I just make things worse.