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How can you tell if you feel sexual attraction towards someone? To be honest, I'm confused. :confused2: People say that you just *know* if you do, but their descriptions are too vague and it makes me even more confused. Thank you!
 

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- When you want to sleep with that person, or at least fantasize about it. I'm sort of the stereotypical ISTJ that hates hook-ups and casual sex to begin with, so I have to define it as someone who makes me physically feel hot, and not necessarily if I would act on the urge at the moment.
 

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Well, you'll feel certain tissues swell with blood making it slightly weird or difficult to walk all while you entertain the uncontrollable fantasy of claiming said affection physically. You WILL crave intimate physical connection with that person.
 

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u can't get the thought of fucking them out of your head.
 
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Agreed. When you evaluate (whatever that means to you) what sexual contact with this person would be like (scenarios and such). If you can "see" yourself with them.

- When you want to sleep with that person, or at least fantasize about it. I'm sort of the stereotypical ISTJ that hates hook-ups and casual sex to begin with, so I have to define it as someone who makes me physically feel hot, and not necessarily if I would act on the urge at the moment.
 

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What everyone else said.

Those people who told you that you just know are either prissy or very repressed... hang on, that's the same isn't it? All you need to do is take the word sexual literally and be honest. If you have strong sexual feelings, you will definitely feel them in your sexual organs or lower abdomen. You will also experience them involuntarily.
Also, if you feel dizzy and stupid when you interact with the person, that's a clear indicator.
It might feel as if there is some kind of haze or fog in the air between you and that person. You will also not be able to control your behaviour that well. E.g. you will use any excuse to be close to them, e.g. go to pick something up even though you don't really need it, so that you can walk past the person.

A romantic yearning for emotional closeness (with a potential sexual component) will be higher up in your body, somewhere in the belly/heart region, closer to the heart than the belly. It's a sad feeling and feels like something inside you is pulling. If it's mainly emotional, it won't be accompanied by fantasies although the potential for a sexual connection may be there.

If it's a feeling of more or less platonic love, it will be *only* in your heart and it's a happy feeling that makes you feel cozy and confident. .. unless your platonic "friend" hates you. Your brain won't be confused.

You can have only one, two or all three of these feelings for a person either at the same time or one at a time.

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