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These were a part of one of my many different searches about women/relationships and whatnot, so, here is the information:

[EDIT] Also, I just realized that this is all to use on women, but, I'm assuming that people could also use this on men as well? I would assume so, but don't quote me on that. [/EDIT]

Massaging your partner or girl is a wonderful way to explore her body and get to know her on a more profound and deeper level.
It’s one of the most loving acts one can conduct. Everyone likes getting a massage. And even more so if it’s done by a person whom they trust, since a massage can be a very intimate thing.
But a great massage is better than a good massage, and that’s exactly what you will learn today. There is more to a massage than the type of strokes that you use. It’s not just technique. It’s the complete experience…

In some ways, a lot of ways actually, a massage relates to sex. And just as great sex (often) requires some kind of foreplay, so does a great massage.
Foreplay to massage

The best kind of foreplay starts in the mind.
If you’re hanging out at your place one day, walk up behind her, gently massage her neck for a few seconds, and whisper in her ear: “do you enjoy this?”
She’ll most likely moan a little and say yes. Then you simply stop, and walk away.
Plant the seed in her mind
Over the course of a day (or a couple!), do this a few times. Plant the seed in her mind. You may even say: “honey, when you get home from work on Friday, I’ll give you a long, well earned, massage.”
There’s nothing she can do but to look forward to it.
Of course a massage doesn’t have to be a big event or a planned thing; it can just as well be quick and spontaneous. But for the sake of this article, let’s just keep it as an ‘event’.
When the “big day” comes, make sure that you have prepared. You’ll need a couple of things:

  • Time. Make sure that you both have at least half an hour. I would recommend more, but that’s the bare minimum.
  • Massage oil. Massage oil is used for decreasing friction on the skin, and for the warming effect. It’s pure sexiness. Make sure to warm it in your hand before applying it to the skin though, since it can be a pretty cold and unpleasant experience otherwise.
  • Candles. The environment is a big part of the massage. Make sure the room is absolutely dark. Light some candles – they’ll help by warming the room and making the experience even more intimate.
  • Music. Music can help soothe and relax her. This is a very individual thing. Try to get a hold of some “mediation music” or similar, preferably without any vocal performance. The most popular choice is the simple sound of the ocean and the waves. I personally like Asian inspired stuff too, like monks chanting (which is actually a vocal performance, but you get my point… no singing) or some traditional drums. African music also works well But don’t digress if you don’t have this stuff lying around – any kind of soft music will work, and in reality, it’s not even that important. It’s just one of many ways to set the mood.
  • Towels. Used to hold the body warm and to wipe off excess massage oil.
  • The massage itself

    So you’re ready to give your massage. But what about the actual movements? Instead of writing 10 pages with clumsy descriptions, I’ll forward you to some videos which will give you some pointers on what to do. But as always, experiment and find out what works for you and your partner.
Source => also has some other links at the bottom of the page with videos and whatnot.

Source # 2

As all of you know I never have a guest poster on the blog but today I just could not resist.
A friend of mines girlfriend thought that this would be an awesome blog for all the men and women.
So she took the time to write this up for all of you.
So straight from her mouth to all of you here is the unknown massage therapist.
Thanks David and hello all of his readers.
Here is how to give an amazing erotic massage that will drive her crazy.
The only thing that tops a massage is an EROTIC sensual massage, and that is where we are going to go with this today. Erotic pleasure brought on by the sensations one feels when their skin is center focus. Your skin is the largest organ of the body with thousands of nerve endings and the touch stimulates all of your senses.
Before we get into the steamy specifics there are some important things that need to be tended to. I will keep the details short and to the point on this part?:
#1. Please make sure your nails have no jagged edges that can ruin your efforts to please.
#2. Have your massage oil warming in a warm bowl of water so it is a pleasurable sensation (Oil is a MUST for a great massage. Water based oils are preferred, containing NO Nonoxynol-9 which can be an irritant to the skin). Keep it close by at all times because you will need it for continual lubrication for a smooth massage.
#3. You may want some “edible” oil for later on your tongue can work massaging erogenous zones.
#4. When you are giving a massage of any type, IMPORTANT: NEVER break contact with your partner’s skin. Once you have started the massage, keep that connection with your partner at all times.
#5. Create a sensual environment from the start. Light some candles, maybe some erotic incense of your choice or some Lavender oil heating in a burner (very sensuous and very relaxing).
#6. Turn the phone off. Draw the blinds. Lock the door. NO DISTRACTIONS!
#7. Last but surely not least – MUSIC! You can purchase soothing spa CDs at any music store. Try to make sure it will continually play. You certainly don’t want to have to get up to take care of the music flaws.
#8. TAKE YOUR TIME and BE GENTLE! So important! This is meant to be a slow process that builds into such uncontrollable sexual desire for both of you the end result will leave you both breathless.
#9. You should both have a glass of water, wine, or something sweet to sip.
Lets get started shall we?
Men, your first task is to have your partner strip to her birthday suit. Have her lay on the floor face down. Put a soft blanket down. You need to be able to eventually reach every part of her body without effort. Place a sheet over her back. It is very sensual as you move down in the massage, to slide the sheet down as you work your way down. NO body part will be left untouched.
Now, take your warm oil and oil yourself up to begin with, where she can watch! You will be using your hands yes, but you will be wanting your arms and chest oiled up nicely. That alone is a turn on, so you are off to a great start only to get better as you go!
Take a good amount of oil in your hands. Rub them together to further warm it. Gently, start by gliding with smooth strokes using your whole hand, over the neck and shoulders, down and up the arms. Make your movements rhythmic in motion working together in a continual synchronization. Remember not to lose contact at any time.
Work your way down the back, now moving into longer deeper strokes. Continue this method using you body for pressure and not the strength of your sexy arms we love to see all oiled up! Lightly press your chest up against her back, letting other parts of your body lightly skim against her.
The sensations of your skin brushing against her are so stimulating! Kiss her jaw lightly then her neck working down her back soft and slow. You can lick the lower back in circular motion, moving up a you lightly breath your warm breath up her spine until you get to her ear lobe where you can kiss lightly to drive her wild.
By this time, I guarantee she is HOT and you are getting there if you haven’t gotten to that point yet. Haven’t lost contact yet have you? Nice!! Move back down, only now you are massaging her butt. Make sure her legs are open where you can lightly skim up and down her inner thighs. You want her squirming? Inner thighs touched sensuously will cause just that reaction. It is an involuntarily reaction of pure pleasure and stimulation!

Time to roll her over onto her back. Make sure you keep a hand on her. Is the oil plentiful? If not, grab it with one hand and lubricate her chest in between her breasts. Gently massage her shoulders working down her arms and back up. Skim over her breasts with the palm of you hand only with plenty of oil. You can stop there for a few circular motions over her already erect nipples.
Does she love it? Move on then.
OOHH why did you leave there! Now is when she is feeling sensations in her nipples that are dying for stimulation, as well as her vaginal area. It is feeling hot, certainly wet and yearning for you to penetrate at this point, BUT not quite yet. She is more than likely breathing hard and gasping every time you kiss her stomach down to her inner thighs. Now you should know where that G-Spot is—yes?
Good, because while you have her leg up on your shoulder kissing the inner thigh, you are going to massage the outer lips of her vagina—lightly skimming. Go in and gently massage her G-spot. Now, whew it is almost more than a woman can bear! Find just the hood of her clit and GENTLY move it side to side.
Experiment and watch her reactions as to where and how what you are doing is working. When you get that gasp of pleasure, stay there for awhile. Glide that other hand up to stimulate her nipples that are SOOOO in need of attention.
By now she NEEDS and WANTS and HAS TO HAVE the feeling of your erection. Just tease in and out a LITTLE in and out. Okay! Enough! Please take her hips and turn her over on her knees. Kiss her back, and fondle her nipple as you enter her vagina slowly. Keep teasing.
Right now, you are hitting that G-spot again with your penis as long as you don’t go too far in. OKAY! No more teasing! You should know how to take it from here…
Alright, so now I gave you these tips, but here’s the deal:
Most men screw up somewhere from point one to point nine. Don’t be that guy.
Do you want to know how to develop that mind set so you actually believe you’re the best lover for her and you get her coming back for more?
And the last one, source:
Men - do you want a great way to get her "ready and receptive"? Learn to give a great massage!
Touching her with strength and finesse says so many things about you - like you’re going to spend some time on her - you’re not going to just get in, get off and bolt. Not only will a great massage relax her, but it will help her get in the mood for more.
If you want to be the guy she has to see again - give a great massage.

* Prepare the Area
You want to be in a private, quiet place when you give a sensual massage. Make sure that the phone is off the hook, and that you’re not going to be bothered by the door, kids, animals, etc. Select some soothing music and turn off the lights except for lighting some candles - preferably scented. What, you don’t have these at your place? This might be a good time to invest in a "Massage Kit".
You’re also going to need a couple of sheets - one to cover your work area, (you don’t want massage oil staining your couch!), and another to cover her. If she feels "exposed" or cold she isn’t going to relax and let you, ah, work - yeah work! So, as you work, uncover only the area you want to massage. Then, cover it again to keep the area warm. As you massage the skin, blood flows into that area. This blood causes the area to redden and to warm. You don’t want this to turn to chill, so be sure to cover your finished areas.
Finally, you should also have some water available. Many people feel thirsty after a massage. This is because working muscles causes all sorts of chemicals to be released into the body.

* Massage Methods
You’ve probably heard of all types of massage techniques - Shiatsu, Swedish, Rolfing, etc., are all different types of massage with different goals. Don’t worry about all of this. You don’t need to focus on the type of massage - only the goal. Your goal should be to sooth and relax your er, victim!
In the next sections, we’ll explore this in greater detail. When you give a massage keep in mind the following points:
1) Massage muscle - not skin, bone or organs
2) Work large muscle groups
3) Use firm, even pressure, not hard, deep pressure
4) Stay away from overly hard or overly soft areas of the body - unless she specifically asks
5) Always use a lubricant (see below)
6) Know when to quit
Now, let’s explore each of these points:

* Massage Muscle, Not Skin
Try this: rub your fingers gently over the skin of your arm. Now, press harder and move the skin without dragging your fingers across it. This is the difference between caressing and a massage. Remember that massages are for muscles below the skin - not for the skin itself.
You want a deep, penetrating effect - not something superficial. This is because the nerves in the skin tire very quickly. Further, many people are ticklish - not just on their feet, but all over their bodies! You want a massage to be relaxing and focused - not an irritant!
As well, you want to stay away from bones. By pressing hard on the skin just over a bone, you’re going to cause pain - not pleasure (well, to some, pain IS pleasure - but that’s another article!). Unless you know your human anatomy you’re probably not going to know where your woman’s bones are; so, before you begin rubbing an area, make sure that the tissue below the skin is soft. In fact, use the relatively softness to determine how hard to press.
For example, press your fingers into your relaxed stomach. This softness tells you that there are no bones below your fingers - only organs. You don’t want to press into an area like this very hard. On the other hand, when you press your fingers into your thigh, you can feel how firm the tissue feels here. This is because of the underlying bone.
When you’re massaging a woman’s back, shoulders, legs or arms, look for this firmness as a good place to work.

* Work on Large Muscle Groups
There are only a few of them in the body - mostly in the neck, back, shoulders and legs. By concentrating on the large muscle groups, not only is your massage more efficient - you are getting the largest source of body tension - but you’re also preventing damage.
On either side of the spine are large muscle groups (called "Latissimus Dorsi" if you care to know). These are the long, strong muscles that keep you standing up - and are great places to work. Again, you have to be careful here, because just underneath these muscles are the ribs - and you know how ticklish some people are here!

* Use Firm, Even Pressure
Pressure that is too light or inconsistent (light, heavy and light again), can be as uncomfortable as too much pressure. Be sure to use an even amount - not too hard, and not too light when giving a massage. In fact, it is better to start out somewhat lightly and ask if she wants more. Gently increase your strength until she indicates that it is enough.

* Use a Lubricant
You should never try anything but the most minor of massages without lubricating the skin. For example, if you want to rub her shoulders that’s one thing. If you’re going to give a skin-to-skin massage, always use a lubricant. Lubes help to both prepare the skin and to protect it.
Don’t use Vaseline or Wesson oil to massage her - you want the lubricant to be absorbed by the skin. You should also stay away from lubes that are absorbed too quickly like hand lotions. Why not pick up lightly scented massage oil - you’ll definitely use it!

* Just Follow the Numbers
Ok, so how do you progress? First, your lady should be undressed (oh - you dog you!) and lying on her stomach. Make sure her hair is out of the way of your "work area". Next, pick up the lubricant or oil you have selected and squeeze some onto your palm. Don’t drip it directly on her skin - it may be cold. You can rub your hands together to warm both the oil and your skin. Even on a hot evening, try to make sure your hands are warmer than the air. This difference helps remind her to relax.
Next follow these steps:
1) Start with her shoulders
Grab the muscles mid-way between the curve of her shoulder and her neck with both hands (gently!). Knead these muscles and gently pull them toward you. This is a great place to start as most people carry a lot of tension here.
2) Work across her shoulders to her neck
Use your thumbs and the tips of your fingers to work from these muscles across and down her upper back. Be sure to watch that your nails don’t dig into her skin!
3) Down her arms to her hands
With both hands cupped on the curve where her shoulders turn into her arms, gently lift her shoulders a few times to stretch the muscles in front. Work down each arm separately finding the muscle groups in the front and back and kneading them gently. When you get to her hands, use your thumbs to work her palms. Don’t forget the other arm!
4) Mid-back
Now, return to her upper back and work downwards to her mid-back. This is another area many people store tension. Use your thumbs and fingertips to work from the center out and to push upward.
5) Lower-back
Continue to work down her back to her hips and just above her ass. Again, another tension-storage area!
6) Upper thighs
Working the muscles of her upper thighs is a great place to spend some time (if she’ll allow this!) After you’ve worked the back of her legs and down her calves (next), you can have her turn over to work the fronts.
7) Calves
The calves are very strong muscles and get a workout every day. These are great places to spend some time kneading each one separately with both hands.
Remember, once you start the massage, her skin will absorb the oil or lotion you applied to your hands. So, continue to re-lube regularly. Also, humans are "bilateral" - that is we have a balance between the right and left. Don’t neglect one side for the other - keep things balanced.

* The Master’s Massage
Ready to graduate? Learn to give a great foot massage!
When you’re massaging someone’s feet, you’ve got to be careful, as many women are ticklish here. If you drag your fingers over the feet lightly, she’s liable to flinch - negating the work you’ve already done in getting her relaxed. When you work the feet remember that there are many areas - each with their own needs. So, start with the heel. Firmly grab her heel and push it up toward her leg, pull it down and work it side to side. The heel contains a number of very small, very strong muscles.
Next, work your thumbs on the under side (called the "plantar" side) of her foot (in general, or unless she asks, avoid the top of the feet). Again, use deep slow pressure with the tips of your thumbs - don’t do it too gently or it’s going to feel like you’re tickling her. Work the balls of her feet and in between her toes. Also, pull on each toe for about 10 seconds - don’t jerk, just give a smooth, strong tug.
In general the feet of even small women are very strong. They can take a much more intense massage than the rest of her, but be sure to watch her reactions. Further, ask her what she likes, and follow her directions!

* The Ending - The Beginning
Once you’ve completed the massage, get a soft towel to wipe her body down. This is just to remove any remaining lotion or oil, and to let her know that the massage is over.

* What’s That - She’s Drooling??
Actually, professional massage therapists use sleep or even drooling as a sign they’ve done their job well. Don’t take it as an insult - just realize she’s really into what you’re doing.

Questions? Thoughts? Concerns? Answers? More information?

Also, no, I have yet to actually use any of this knowledge as of yet, but, if there are any takers...

:wink: call me :tongue:
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