There is a difference between being shallow and being selective. Selective is having standards which everyone should have. Shallow is when you dismiss a large percentage of men or women as not being worthy of dating because they aren’t good enough. I am selective and have standards. My standards are a woman who takes care of herself doesn’t look like she just got out of bed not overweight well spoken etc. A shallow person will be like I won’t dare someone if they don’t look like a cover model have an ounce of fat. Or anybody who doesn’t have six pack abs isn’t good enough or they don’t drive a Mercedes make six figures etc. So selective and shallow are similar but shallow people have impossible standards and are impossible to please.