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I thought we could share some insights on lifestyle choices which each has made that has improved their life/seems so far to have done so until proven other. I can start:

1. Getting rid of ipad/smartphone from the bedroom. That blue light emitted from them is killing at least my sleep. Using an electronic device for example to replace a old fassion paper book is not a good idea.
2. Going to sleep way earlier then before. Between 9-10 pm. Read a book. It will make you fall asleep. This way you can get up early and have a slow morning. It's not panic and mayhem as soon as the alarm wakes you.
3. Shower before bed. It will make you catch sleep better.

Those have been probably the biggest three thing lately that has been good for me. What about you?
 

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One thing I've learned to do is to always pack my backpack and lay out my clothes the night before. It's relaxing and calming (like a bedtime ritual) and it takes very little effort in the evening. In the morning when I wake up, sometimes sleepy and forgetful, I don't have any decisions to make about what to wear. I know exactly where my wallet, keys and whatever items I need for the day are located. It's a wonderful feeling.
 

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Finding a hobby that I was really passionate about helped me improve my attitude tremendously. I started reading and getting into collecting comic books about six months ago. Every Wednesday, I drive to my local comic shop (which is thirty minutes away) to buy them. Because of the hobby, I go outside more than I used to and I met some really great people (The owners of the shop are extremely friendly so that is also a plus). I also have something to look forward to throughout the week so it makes it easier for me to deal with a crappy day.

Also exercising seems to really improve attitude and self worth. At least, from my expericence anyways.
 

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If possible

- Deleting Facebook / Twitter and all the other social media crap
- Not wasting your time with people that not take initiative to learn to know you better (basically 90 percent of everyone)
- Try to avoid keeping up with the news
- Try to avoid sodas like cola and lemonade, drink water.
- Try to avoid meat as much as possible
- Run a bit every two days (Walking is also fine) - choose for nature, but try to variate your routes if possible
- Show the people you love that you love them, by giving them a non-material gift or surprise them
- Try to show appreciation and make other people feel good. You need to do it consciously and it needs to come from the heart.
- Make time for relaxation/meditation. What relaxation/meditation is for you, is something you need to find out, but it has a huge range (douching myself is relaxation too! - because of the warm water touching your body (it's like the best massage you could ever have... )

Sleep advice:
- No electronic devices in your sleep room! (because of distraction/radiation)
- Try to keep it dark in your room
- Sleep on your side
- Don't try to play your life/day again or think on what you should do and what you need to do. Use fantasy when you need to fall asleep. Don't worry about something, you need to worry the next day, and you need to have sleep time!
- Try to keep your room cold and ventilate it a lot.
 

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My major lifestyle choices:

No illegal drugs.
No alcohol.
No killing my fellow human beings.
No texting while driving.
No driving drunk or high.
No speeding my car.
No beating my husband.
No stealing from others.

Not doing these things has greatly improved my well-being.
 

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One thing I've learned to do is to always pack my backpack and lay out my clothes the night before. It's relaxing and calming (like a bedtime ritual) and it takes very little effort in the evening. In the morning when I wake up, sometimes sleepy and forgetful, I don't have any decisions to make about what to wear. I know exactly where my wallet, keys and whatever items I need for the day are located. It's a wonderful feeling.
Following the above thought.....

I keep anything that I might absent-mindedly forget by the front door because I hate having to go back into the house once I've decided to leave. In terms of preparing the night before, I just make sure everything is by the front door.

I come downstairs in just tee shirt in the morning and select the shirt I will wear outside from where I keep them hanging on the first floor.

I love living an unorthodox lifestyle that accommodates my absent-minded ways. I'm usually very deep in thought to not do ordinary things on auto-pilot.
 

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Hmm, well sort-of recently, I've become vegan. I was scared of plunging in previously because of what others might think of me or if I'd find it too difficult. But really, it's been fine for most part and it aligns with my values better, caring about animals and the environment so passionately, so I feel happier about myself. I did get some flak from some, but I largely ignore it. I don't know anyone that's vegan irl, but the closest people to me are supportive and that's what matters most. Plus I found there's tons of places I can eat out at with my husband or friends without problems, since they can have what they want and I've got accommodations. Win-win!

So I'd say, do something for yourself, something that aligns with your values. It'll probably make you feel great.
 

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My major lifestyle choices:

No illegal drugs.
No alcohol.
No killing my fellow human beings.
No texting while driving.
No driving drunk or high.
No speeding my car.
No beating my husband.
No stealing from others.

Not doing these things has greatly improved my well-being.
what where you like when younger? :shocked:

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Someone wrote about coffee, and I still drink it, but much less when I do, and not so strong. It reduced panic attacks by appreciably 60% or so I think (and another 37% by learning about breathing, so now they are very rare).

Painting my room warm yellow/orange. Colours affect my mood a lot, it make me feel so much better than if I was in say a gray room.

Living where there is nature close and garden etc. I was not made for the city, I feel trapped there.

Deciding I don't have to keep up with all the news, just the ones I want to and find important enough.

Starting to live with cats, improves my mood so much (even if I worry about them quite alot).

Living with other people, all in all I really like sharing home with other people, despite all the downsides over the years.

just a few of the top of my head.
 

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what where you like when younger? :shocked:
Haha.. I should have been clearer, because the way I wrote those words, it does look like I did those things, but now I don't.

The things in green I did experiment with briefly in my 20s, the things in red I never did. :happy:

No illegal drugs.
No alcohol.
No killing my fellow human beings.
No texting while driving.
No driving drunk or high.
No speeding my car.
No beating my husband.
No stealing from others. (took books and food)


 

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what where you like when younger? :shocked:

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Someone wrote about coffee, and I still drink it, but much less when I do, and not so strong. It reduced panic attacks by appreciably 60% or so I think (and another 37% by learning about breathing, so now they are very rare).

Painting my room warm yellow/orange. Colours affect my mood a lot, it make me feel so much better than if I was in say a gray room.

Living where there is nature close and garden etc. I was not made for the city, I feel trapped there.

Deciding I don't have to keep up with all the news, just the ones I want to and find important enough.

Starting to live with cats, improves my mood so much (even if I worry about them quite alot).

Living with other people, all in all I really like sharing home with other people, despite all the downsides over the years.

just a few of the top of my head.
I truly can relate to coffee. With good sleep from say 9 to 5 need only morning cup. After that is hyper all day long. No need to take more. Sleep, sleep, sleep. Thats the source of energy. Sustainable energy.

Also can relate to the news part. I just don't care anymore that much. I think I have started to value myself in a sense so much that I don't want to spend my precious time feeling bad about shit that is happening every day around the world. Bit selfish in a way but it's my life and my free time. I'm allowed to feel as good as I can and if dwelling about bad things in the news make my mood go down then to h*** with the news. But I also look up stuff that interest me still. Some good, some bad. Not a total blackout from what is happening around the world.
 

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Taking a walk each evening with the intention of catching photo moments. My rule is to not come home before it's dark.
Benefit - cams me down, takes my mind off the happenings of the day - I can go to sleep with an emptier head, fresher lungs and a mind that has been creatively satisfied.
 

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- I keep debt and bills to a minimum, and I avoid long-term financial obligations. I only have one credit card for emergency & to get frequent flier points (when used, I pay it off the next bill). I only owe a little on my car payment, and once that's paid off, I will have no debt.
- I work out 3-5 times a week, every single week; mostly strength training, some yoga, & a minimum of cardio. Good for my mood, energy and booty.
- I limit added sugar intake, avoid junk food and fast food, and avoid preservatives as much as I can (triggers GERD for me). Good for my mood, energy and tummy.
- I don't watch much TV (was never big on it, and it was not a choice so much as a natural development). In the past year I have had netflix (on & off) on a roku stick, but I have gone years without watching or paying for TV. I maybe watch 1-2 hours 1-2x a week now, which is quite an increase for me! That has even slowed now that I finished one series I was into.
- I only work part-time and spend the rest of my time volunteering (related to my spiritual interests). I can't live alone and do that easily, but the money I save on splitting living costs has also allowed me to travel a lot more. I work less and DO more stuff I actually care about. I also only take work that I feel pays me fairly, will utilize/appreciate my strengths, and that is flexible with a pretty relaxed work environment.
- I have to write everything on a calendar. I use an app called Palu because you can scribble on it (not typing). I write reminders to pay bills, what days I do volunteer work or my job, when I will get paid, other appointments, etc. I have a poor memory for dates and commitments, and it's easiest for me just to put it all in one place. I hate being that "scheduled" sometimes, but it's more for general commitments than planning every minute of every day.
- Stretching before bed. I sleep much better. I need to read also, instead of being online.
- Living with people (as someone else noted). I love living alone too much...I get so disconnected from reality and feel more and more withdrawn and alienated though. It's really not healthy for me.

A lot of this is physical, because as I suspect may be true for many INFx types, focus in early life is on the mental, emotional and/or spiritual development, and then you find balance with age.

I am still struggling with...
- punctuality, especially in the morning (the OP's tip to shower at night is one I have used for years, but I need to go to sleep earlier and ditch the electronics)
- getting up in the morning & getting things together (ie making lunch and packing the gazillion things I have to take with me...usually better if I do that the night before too)
- general time management, which has more to do with my expectations of what can realistically be accomplished
- letting myself relax more...I feel guilty for taking time to daydream, read, write, and draw nowadays.
- organizing/cleaning physical space, ie putting laundry away or keeping my car clean (It appears I live out of it...)
- routine and the boredom and slow-growing apathy that tends to develop with it.
 

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- I keep debt and bills to a minimum, and I avoid long-term financial obligations. I only have one credit card for emergency & to get frequent flier points (when used, I pay it off the next bill). I only owe a little on my car payment, and once that's paid off, I will have no debt.
- I work out 3-5 times a week, every single week; mostly strength training, some yoga, & a minimum of cardio. Good for my mood, energy and booty.
- I limit added sugar intake, avoid junk food and fast food, and avoid preservatives as much as I can (triggers GERD for me). Good for my mood, energy and tummy.
- I don't watch much TV (was never big on it, and it was not a choice so much as a natural development). In the past year I have had netflix (on & off) on a roku stick, but I have gone years without watching or paying for TV. I maybe watch 1-2 hours 1-2x a week now, which is quite an increase for me! That has even slowed now that I finished one series I was into.
- I only work part-time and spend the rest of my time volunteering (related to my spiritual interests). I can't live alone and do that easily, but the money I save on splitting living costs has also allowed me to travel a lot more. I work less and DO more stuff I actually care about. I also only take work that I feel pays me fairly, will utilize/appreciate my strengths, and that is flexible with a pretty relaxed work environment.
- I have to write everything on a calendar. I use an app called Palu because you can scribble on it (not typing). I write reminders to pay bills, what days I do volunteer work or my job, when I will get paid, other appointments, etc. I have a poor memory for dates and commitments, and it's easiest for me just to put it all in one place. I hate being that "scheduled" sometimes, but it's more for general commitments than planning every minute of every day.
- Stretching before bed. I sleep much better. I need to read also, instead of being online.
- Living with people (as someone else noted). I love living alone too much...I get so disconnected from reality and feel more and more withdrawn and alienated though. It's really not healthy for me.

A lot of this is physical, because as I suspect may be true for many INFx types, focus in early life is on the mental, emotional and/or spiritual development, and then you find balance with age.

I am still struggling with...
- punctuality, especially in the morning (the OP's tip to shower at night is one I have used for years, but I need to go to sleep earlier and ditch the electronics)
- getting up in the morning & getting things together (ie making lunch and packing the gazillion things I have to take with me...usually better if I do that the night before too)
- general time management, which has more to do with my expectations of what can realistically be accomplished
- letting myself relax more...I feel guilty for taking time to daydream, read, write, and draw nowadays.
- organizing/cleaning physical space, ie putting laundry away or keeping my car clean (It appears I live out of it...)
- routine and the boredom and slow-growing apathy that tends to develop with it.
But are you a good girl ??
 
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