I have been working for almost a month with my boss. During the interview, we got along very well and I know that was one of the reasons I got hired, on top my interview performance/test. The problem is that I feel that his interest towards me is going far beyond the professional level and I don't know how I should approach this whole thing.
He has asked within the first week to got out to lunch with. I accepted the invitation because I didn't want to be rude, and I thought it was normal for a subordinate and boss to have "business" lunch in the beginning to be on friendly terms.
Also he is a very good guy, very nice and patient to work with. Always helping me out etc. He is attractive in his own way, and we have a lot, I mean so many things in common that left me thinking that maybe he is the one. Because my position is only temporary/contract, I knew that we will part ways eventually. So this would be a nice time to get to know each other and if I see possibilities, after we part our ways, we can keep in touch see where the relationships goes.
Anyway, we butted heads after the second week but resolved it quite well, which left me thinking that it could really work with him since we seem to be able to work out conflict easily.
However, I felt uncomfortable going out with him because of the way other people were looking at me at work. I saw the one co-worker looking at me. With the ability to read people well, I knew he was thinking that the only reason why I got the job was because I used my feminine side, which is absolutely not TRUE. Anyway, I declined the lunch offers because of what my other people might assume.
Some other things he does for me: one time he drove me home because I currently have no transportation. He bought me desserts and gave me a gift for a job well down. This was after work so no one at work was aware this happened
Then I FOUND OUT he has a girlfriend. He told me that he was just dating and that the relationship was long distance and was still undefined. After finding this out, I declined his offers to go out. Just last week he asked me to go to Chinese food. The following day after, he completely ignores me to get my attention.
I am just so confused about how I feel about this whole thing. If he wasn't my boss or he doesn't have a girlfriend I knew I would date him without hesitation since the potential between us is great. However I feel like I met the RIGHT person at the WRONG place and the WRONG time.
I don't want to completely cut him off because there is potential between us. I just keep thinking...when he breaks up with his girlfriend or when he stops becoming my boss. At the same time though, there are moments when I just want to be left alone by him and I just want to work in peace without the mind games.
I just felt really odd last week when he completely ignored me, not sure if it was because I was hurt emotionally or it was because as a supervisor he should not be treating me in that way. I don't know how I feel about the whole thing and how I should act. I'm quite sure I'm not in love with him yet, but I do like him a little knowing that because of our background, commonality and shared passions there is definitely potential.
I'm not sure how to approach this whole thing, so any advice is appreciated. Thank you in advance.