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Years back a female ESFJ and ENFP friend caused me to develop ptsd, fast forward to today's time the ESFJ is engaged(know because a INTP buddy). Kind of want to show up to her wedding and say "f you" and leave. Would possibly ruin her day. To much thought here?
 

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I think the best way to 'get back at' someone is to just be happy in your own life and move on - not focusing ANY of your attention on them any more because they simply aren't worth it.
 

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I think the best way to 'get back at' someone is to just be happy in your own life and move on - not focusing ANY of your attention on them any more because they simply aren't worth it.
You gotta admit, the lack of harmony would work though.
 

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You gotta admit, the lack of harmony would work though.
I feel like it would show her you still care about what she did - is she even worth that? If she was so nasty back then...why would she care now. Don't bother stooping down to her level - just know in yourself you are the better person in this situation and move on with your life.
 

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Ptsd night terrors which I had to overcome left me paralyzed with fear at night for around a decade. It's not honestly easy to forget that. I guess I could write her a post card saying fuck you and still get my point across. The ENFP stalked me though and was a bad mixture of aspd and bpd. She mentally tortured me for months, for her own sick amusement.
 

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Ptsd night terrors which I had to overcome left me paralyzed with fear at night for around a decade. It's not honestly easy to forget that. I guess I could write her a post card saying fuck you and still get my point across. The ENFP stalked me though and was a bad mixture of aspd and bpd. She mentally tortured me for months, for her own sick amusement.
I'm really sorry to hear that, that is just sickening :/

write the card then, probably not the best idea to see them in person - it might trigger something?
But I would advise not to do it at all in case it would start them targetting you again, besides if they were amused by torturing you...it sounds to me like you reacting in any way would only give them exactly what they wanted!
 

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Ptsd night terrors which I had to overcome left me paralyzed with fear at night for around a decade. It's not honestly easy to forget that. I guess I could write her a post card saying fuck you and still get my point across. The ENFP stalked me though and was a bad mixture of aspd and bpd. She mentally tortured me for months, for her own sick amusement.
O.

Your strategy will not help. The ESFJ or you.

If you must do something cathartic then write everything you
would say on paper. Get an envelope put the address of the ESFJ
on it and then keep it. Re read it every month for a few months.
If after a year you still feel the need to send it? Well then you need to
look for more help for your PTSD.

Reconciliation does not begin with others it begins with ones self.
You must reconcile this then understand and accept it. After which
you may forgive. Forgiveness is not a caveat for moving past this
but acceptance and understanding are 100% needed.

Do you understand why the ESFJ did this?
Do you accept the fact that the ESFJ has done this?
Do you really want to reconcile?
 

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Years back a female ESFJ and ENFP friend caused me to develop ptsd, fast forward to today's time the ESFJ is engaged(know because a INTP buddy). Kind of want to show up to her wedding and say "f you" and leave. Would possibly ruin her day. To much thought here?
Yea, don't do that.

Punch a punching bag or something. But don't be that guy that tries to use the wedding as some get back moment.
 
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