I love infps <333333 I've been friends with three infps in the past four years, we're all similar in that we're quiet, introspective, literary, observers of human behaviour, social retards, tendency to procrastinate, at times overly sensitive to other people's actions.
When I first met him he was in shy reserved mode, and I was in excited hyper mode, so I just totally sprang on him with an endless flurry of chatter, not minding that I wasn't getting much response. We both eventually realized, and talked about, how we thought we were really similar to each other -- that was way before we'd discovered mbti. But I don't think either of us ever completely opened up to each other. In the sense that neither of us talked about our feelings to each other, though we talked about everything else under the sun like random things we'd observed in school and all that. May have been due by the fact that we once got into this... godawful long... fight about religion. I wasn't too affected by it afterwards, but following that incident he probably couldn't trust me not to violate his values or something, hence his withdrawing. We prioritized different things -- his defense of his religion was value-based, while my criticism of it was logic-based. (though this was three years ago and I have since learnt to be more considerate of other's views)
The only female infp I've met. At first ours was a friendship of convenience -- we were in a class of 15 guys and 3 girls -- but we soon realized that there was more to our friendship than convenience. We were both in the debating society, and obsessed over argumentation techniques and amusing turns of logic. We both brought two books with us wherever we went, so if we got bored of one book we could read another. We hung out everyday after school.
I couldn't understand her on an emotional level though. I tried to sympathize and be considerate of what I knew were her sensitive issues, but I couldn't completely empathize. Also at that time I didn't have any awareness of exactly how sensitive infps are, and I didn't have a clue as to the depth of feeling she harboured -- I just assumed she was like me, and the only difference was our life experiences. (which is why mbti is such an amazing thing!!!) So it came as a surprise when in a fit of anger I said something to her that I myself wouldn't have taken literally, and she ended up withdrawing into herself... well the friendship kind of spiralled down from there. T vs. F, gah.
The most recent infp I've met is the one I'm the least similar to. (and possibly hence the most attracted to) The other two infps were equally if not more reserved than me, but this one is more loud, jokey, extroverted and Ne-ish. Possibly his relative extroversion arises as a result of needing to people-please, but this is just a theory. He seems to be a people-pleaser to some extent, actively seeking out activities that involve helping people, and getting terribly guilty when he thinks he's imposed on others. Personally I could never devote that much energy into helping others >< He's also not as into intellectual pursuits as me or the other two infps are - people/experiences, rather than ideas alone, are his thing. For him, ideas and philosophy seem to be a byproduct of life, rather than ends in themselves. (all this is half speculation though)
Weirdly he also seems to be more guarded about his private life than the other two were. He seems to be addicted to using humor and light-heartedness as a way to deflect me, throw me off his scent so to speak. Or he just doesn't directly talk about his own thoughts/feelings much. I get access to all his outward charm and humor, which is intoxicating, but his innermost self remains sealed off. I am kind of amazed at how he can hang out with a person regularly for months, be nice and charming and friendly, but still keep them at a distance. For me to even hang out with a person that much and exchange regular text messages and everything, I'd first have to consider that person extremely close to my heart.
okay I shall stop before this turns into an autobiography detailing all my experiences with infps :laughing: