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If you don't want an ONS, how do you cope with no sex? Porn doesn't do it for me and "toys" always hurt :dry:

No time for a bf (typical ENTJ :laughing:), was dating a dude recently but he turned out to be selfish. :rolleyes:

I want to make out with someone all the time, too.. but not too many guys are gonna want just that :wink:
 

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I'm lucky in the extent that my sex drive became super low to the medication I had to take. I'd have to look into changing it if I found someone, but it's been a benefit while I've been single. I imagine it would be worse without it.

Masturbation without toys? I don't even use them, just my hands (or you can look into non-penetrative stuff). Some people also do FWB's if they don't have time for relationships (I personally couldn't, but I'm not everyone in this world)
 

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Imagination! I have to have a large one.
I was really confused when a friend of mine said, "I don't really want to do the homework, I'm gonna get laid tomorrow." I was just like, "so?" After all he said that he has had sex with all different types of people over the years. I thought it would have gotten pretty boring. But it's one of those things where the more you do it, the more addicting it gets. Like alcohol, another thing he suffers withdrawal from not having despite having it far more frequently than others.
 

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I go running every day and have started learning Latin. It doesn't help that much.
 

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Probably different for guys and girls.

I moved to live at my parents' house for the year, and resigned myself immediately to a sexless time. I think that this resignation leads me to cope absolutely fine.

Conversely, when I was living independently last year and saw sex as a possibility (though I still wasn't getting any, heh), I would often wake up and think immediately about sex. It was weird. Like I didn't have mad horny cravings in the day, and didn't feel bad about the lack of sex, but I'd still think of it when waking up. Probably some suppressed subconscious desperation going on or something.
 

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Eh I guess I have done this sort of in between thing called dating. It is not a one night stand but it is not a commitment of a relationship. Not saying I screw everyone I date. Sometimes I do and sometimes I do not.

Not saying you have to do it. Just saying there is a sort of grey area. Doesn't exactly have to be one nighter or relationship.
 

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Honestly, exercise until you ache.

You won't have a sex-drive if you can't walk.

I go running every day
You should pickup some core-exercises. @ Running

Helps a bunch. Planking and Toes-To-Bar come to mind.
 

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If you don't want an ONS, how do you cope with no sex?
Not sure, I guess my answer is "as I always have" (I'm a virgin). Perhaps it's easy for me to live without because I've never been exposed to it. Masturbation seems to do it for now I suppose... I don't really feel the need to go out and try/have sex just for the sake of it, and since I'm not currently interested in sex outside of a committed relationship, ONS/FWB/Casual Sex are definitely off of the table, and unfortunately that's a lot of the other sex occurs. I'm not sure how I feel about sex during the dating phase, as Sensational outlined, I'll have to think more about that.
 

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Have an orgasm ... (?) Try achieving hands-free via psychologically induced arousal (brain-power) (&) breast orgasm(s) [without clitoral/vaginal] stimulus.
 

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Honestly, exercise until you ache.

You won't have a sex-drive if you can't walk.



You should pickup some core-exercises. @ Running

Helps a bunch. Planking and Toes-To-Bar come to mind.
Not sure if this one works for the guys. I've never been able to work out enough to kill sex drive. Usually it works the other way--exercise boosts it.

Working extremely long hours to the point all you want is sleep works, but that's more miserable than the original problem.
 

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Eh I guess I have done this sort of in between thing called dating. It is not a one night stand but it is not a commitment of a relationship. Not saying I screw everyone I date. Sometimes I do and sometimes I do not.

Not saying you have to do it. Just saying there is a sort of grey area. Doesn't exactly have to be one nighter or relationship.
Sarcasm fail there given that I mentioned the guy I *was* dating and I obviously meant in the OP that I wasn't up for casual stuff generally (not just ONS). To quote someone else in the thread:

ONS/FWB/Casual Sex are definitely off of the table, and unfortunately that's a lot of the other sex occurs
 

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I go running every day and have started learning Latin. It doesn't help that much.
Very NT way of dealing with it though, kudos for that :tongue:

Probably different for guys and girls.

I moved to live at my parents' house for the year, and resigned myself immediately to a sexless time. I think that this resignation leads me to cope absolutely fine.

Conversely, when I was living independently last year and saw sex as a possibility (though I still wasn't getting any, heh), I would often wake up and think immediately about sex. It was weird. Like I didn't have mad horny cravings in the day, and didn't feel bad about the lack of sex, but I'd still think of it when waking up. Probably some suppressed subconscious desperation going on or something.
Possibly, but I actually agree on that... I stayed with extended family for a year in Sweden post university and didn't care about this because I couldn't have a guy over (not all Swedes are liberals. :wink:) and we were in the country, about 45 minutes' drive from the nearest city anyway. Now that I have my own place and live in an urban area it's a possibility. :laughing:
 
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