-Lenore Thompson, INFJ type descriptionBecause they don't usually know right away the import of what they're intuiting, they may "go along" with a questionable situation until they can get a hold of how they actually feel about it. This tendency can be confusing to others, and it is often misinterpreted as reckless experimentation.
"Something isn't right about this whole situation, but I don't want to act until I can get the full picture and know which step I should take."
"What she just said doesn't sit right with me, there is deception here in that I don't think what she is presenting is the complete story or her real intent, but I'm not sure how to respond, yet...I need to think"
"All my gut impulses say to do this, but it could destroy multiple relationships; let me look into this some more before making a final decision."
Ever find yourself internally stalled?
Indecision...the blight of a J saddled with the heavy trio of an Ni possibilities-generator, an Fe concerned-relationship-health meter, and sometimes indeterminate gut feelings..that leaves us in a state of limbo, staying in the questionable situation, for now at least...
Plagued with a vague unsettled sense of mental indigestion, we ponder what it is we swallowed that makes us so queasy about entering this relationship or taking this course of action. Not anxious to alienate others unnecessarily or brashly dive off the beaten path into the map-free woods, we feel the need first to clear out the static from our poorly-tuned intuitive signal. What is it that makes us uneasy? What is really going on here? We're not fooled by them, but we don't want to act rashly, either...'maybe it would help, Ni, if you could satisfy my starving Ti with a hearty rationale it craves for this bold and blatant decision I feel impressed to make...?'
When in the midst of complex situations in which there are multiple factors that just don't line up, various "bad feelings" about people involved, and the ever-present desire not to hurt people or destroy relationships...hounded along by the driving whip of closure and decision...I sometimes find myself still like a frozen horse when there are "giddyup"s ringing out everywhere.
Usually very confident in my decisions, an unfamiliar, alien hesitance dominates - a need for confirmation that my gut instinct is indeed correct and this radical course of action really is necessary, since it could negatively affect people or relationships. Freewheeling intuitive impulse meets with traction and friction, Fe and Ti gang up to question Ni...and people wonder why I'm skidding around, or why I'm even still there, since usually I'm more decisive, up on my way going somewhere.
Anyone identify? In what sorts of situations does this happen to you?