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As an INTJ (or whatever other type you are if you're lurking around), what is your preference?

As someone who has lived in both, I can see advantages in both for an INTJ, but I still choose the big city over a small town. There's something comforting about the anonymity and not having to worry about the whole town knowing about your business. Growing up in smaller cities/towns, I enjoyed the landscapes and outdoors. I was raised in small beach communities and had an affinity for the water, but one of the most annoying things about living in close-knit communities was having people get involved in certain areas of my personal life that I wanted to keep private.
 

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I haven't lived in a big city (only small towns), but I kinda like the more local feel to the latter over the former. That being said, I usually retreat to other town nearby via driving if I want to stay private.
 

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I hate big cities! I cant stand the neighbors, the traffic and many other things that come with city life. I live in a small town with a population of 2000 according to the US Census Bureau. With this there is a total of 500 families. I love this city because in is in the middle of BFE. I can sit in my room and no sales people come to my doors to bother me. About 2 times a year Jehovah Witnesses or Mormons show up but it is somewhat rare. There is a few flaws though. I need to travel out of town to do any shopping which is an hour commute each way. I need to commute to work however; I have never had an issue with traffic. Race internet is the only internet provider besides satellite and services are $65.00 month. There are only a few phone carriers but they are pricey. For cable I pay Charter in order to get a good rate however; the quality is crappy and they cannot bundle internet and hone because it is not offered in my area. No other services are in town besides satellite. There is one Gym which is crap and membership is around $60.00 monthly. Lastly, if you are not a social butterfly people think your odd, many rumors get started. Typical, small town gossip. I have thought about moving to a larger town however; I have a lot of anxiety when thinking.
 

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I hate big cities! I cant stand the neighbors, the traffic and many other things that come with city life. I live in a small town with a population of 2000 according to the US Census Bureau. With this there is a total of 500 families. I love this city because in is in the middle of BFE. I can sit in my room and no sales people come to my doors to bother me. About 2 times a year Jehovah Witnesses or Mormons show up but it is somewhat rare. There is a few flaws though. I need to travel out of town to do any shopping which is an hour commute each way. I need to commute to work however; I have never had an issue with traffic. Race internet is the only internet provider besides satellite and services are $65.00 month. There are only a few phone carriers but they are pricey. For cable I pay Charter in order to get a good rate however; the quality is crappy and they cannot bundle internet and hone because it is not offered in my area. No other services are in town besides satellite. There is one Gym which is crap and membership is around $60.00 monthly. Lastly, if you are not a social butterfly people think your odd, many rumors get started. Typical, small town gossip. I have thought about moving to a larger town however; I have a lot of anxiety when thinking.
:laughing: I know that feel. I was like the Boo Radley of my town.
 

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I'd prefer the country, but currently live in a small town. I'm not a city person. I live in a town of about 500, near a small city (80,000 ish) But the goal is to move out to our farmland. I like the open spaces. Don't know if it has to do with personality. But I definitely don't want to always be surrounded by people.
 

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As an INTJ (or whatever other type you are if you're lurking around), what is your preference?

As someone who has lived in both, I can see advantages in both for an INTJ, but I still choose the big city over a small town. There's something comforting about the anonymity and not having to worry about the whole town knowing about your business. Growing up in smaller cities/towns, I enjoyed the landscapes and outdoors. I was raised in small beach communities and had an affinity for the water, but one of the most annoying things about living in close-knit communities was having people get involved in certain areas of my personal life that I wanted to keep private.
Don’t forget the advantages of big cities in terms of infrastructure, education, financial services, availability of immediate medical care, personal privacy, cultural diversity and events, bookshops, internet access, respect for religious plurality, all kinds of museums, etc.
 

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Don’t forget the advantages of big cities in terms of infrastructure, education, financial services, availability of immediate medical care, personal privacy, cultural diversity and events, bookshops, internet access, respect for religious plurality, all kinds of museums, etc.
Basically everything you've mentioned as well. Living in a diverse area is important to me, being a minority. And although I do enjoy driving, it'd be much more convenient and cheaper for me to navigate my way through town by foot, so having everything in close proximity would be ideal.
 

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I live in a small town with about 7 000 people.

...but one of the most annoying things about living in close-knit communities was having people get involved in certain areas of my personal life that I wanted to keep private.
I'm lucky to live in Finland for this particular reason. I'm certain a lot of INTJs would like to live here. There's literally no small talk here. If there's an empty buss seat for one people rather pick that one over the ones where someone already sits. The same while in the queue waiting for the bus - you usually don't speak with each other. It's no over exaggeration to say that people make sure the coast is clear (no humans in sight) before leaving their house and this includes one's own neighbors. While people certainly know the names of one another, people still don't intrude on other people's privacy. Like you can sit inside your house 24 / 7 and nobody cares. But of course there's gossip going around like anywhere else if you do anything eccentric. Still it sure is an amazingly human-free place.
 

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Big city or middle of nowhere. What most people think of as a "small town" is what bothers me - not enough to do but enough people to crowd my space.

Big cities have the appeal of offering many learning opportunities and cultural attractions. The largest I've lived in was London. I enjoyed it.

Countryside means more space and freedom to do as you like, and I enjoy "being in nature." I currently live in this kind of situation, my only neighbors are Amish... but I'd still prefer yet more isolation to tell you the truth.

Basically, I need either a lot of novelty or a lot of privacy and land. "Small towns" don't really have either.

If you're wondering why I'm scarequoting "small town", it's because the small town I grew up in had about 50-80 people in it... so this "Pop. 7000 is small" business amuses me because it so far outnumbers what I grew up with/in.
 

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to live and to work on a daily basis - a cosmopolitan city with fine dining, live music, good comedy shows, clubs, public transportation to just about everything, decent work options, diverse population, anonymity (think Austin, San Fran, Stockholm, London, New York, DC, Mumbai, Bangalore, Portland, Boston, San Jose)
 

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I live in a small town with about 7 000 people.



I'm lucky to live in Finland for this particular reason. I'm certain a lot of INTJs would like to live here. There's literally no small talk here. If there's an empty buss seat for one people rather pick that one over the ones where someone already sits. The same while in the queue waiting for the bus - you usually don't speak with each other. It's no over exaggeration to say that people make sure the coast is clear (no humans in sight) before leaving their house and this includes one's own neighbors. While people certainly know the names of one another, people still don't intrude on other people's privacy. Like you can sit inside your house 24 / 7 and nobody cares. But of course there's gossip going around like anywhere else if you do anything eccentric. Still it sure is an amazingly human-free place.
I frequently am informed that Finland is an introvert's paradise. It looks like a lovely place to live in minus the weather. I've lived in California and Florida my whole life, so giving up the warmth and sunshine would be one hell of a sacrifice for me.
 

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I frequently am informed that Finland is an introvert's paradise. It looks like a lovely place to live in minus the weather. I've lived in California and Florida my whole life, so giving up the warmth and sunshine would be one hell of a sacrifice for me.
That's what we have the global warming for! Perhaps there's no need to do anything about it :rolleyes:
 

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Big city.

It's much easier to lose self in a sea of people, and to occasionally be reminded of how insignificant one can be; a good ass kicking in keeping a level head.
 
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Big city.

It's much easier to lose self in a sea of people, and to occasionally be reminded of how insignificant one can be; a good ass kicking in keeping a level head.
That and diversity in a big city checks-and-balances itself out. Being the minority of anything in a small town sounds like a terrible idea.
 

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As an INTJ (or whatever other type you are if you're lurking around), what is your preference?

As someone who has lived in both, I can see advantages in both for an INTJ, but I still choose the big city over a small town. There's something comforting about the anonymity and not having to worry about the whole town knowing about your business. Growing up in smaller cities/towns, I enjoyed the landscapes and outdoors. I was raised in small beach communities and had an affinity for the water, but one of the most annoying things about living in close-knit communities was having people get involved in certain areas of my personal life that I wanted to keep private.
I grew up in a small town and prefer large cities. I find large cities preferable partially for the reason you mentioned (that close-knit community thing was horrible), but also because larger cities generally afford more opportunities. There's more work to be found, more things to do, better places to shop, and so on.
 
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