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Sometimes when I'm bored, I use a texting app to prank people, sometimes in the middle of the night. Today, at 1:06 AM, I decided to prank a guy I know. Let's call him G. Here is the conversation (with the F bomb censored and things that could be used to identify him changed to respect his privacy):
Me: I see it.

G: I'm sorry?

G: I believe you have the wrong number.

Me: No I don't.

G: ? Elaborate?

Me: I see it.

G: Who is this?

Me: http://www.behindthevoiceactors.com/_img/chars/luca-bodacious-space-pirates-2.67.jpg

G: I dont know who the f*** you think you are, but it isnt f***ing cool or appropriate to text some one at 1 IN THE F***ING MORNING. Saying weird stuff, and pranking people, but it isn't cool. If you are someone I know tell me now.

Me: Why?

G: Why what? Why am i asking you to tell me who the fuck you are?

Me: Basically, yes.

G: Because you are texting a person at 1 AM. Saying random stuff and not identifying yourself- dont you think thats a LITTLE unsettling?

G: So please, tell me who this is.

Me: What would you do with the information?

G: Sleep peacfully, i assume.

Me: Okay, first I need to make sure I know which G you are, because that will tell me how best to tell you who I am... You're a member of (name of home school group) and (name of LGBTQ group), right?

G: I'm unsure of what (name of home school group) is. (Name of LGBTQ group), yes.

Me: You know, that home school group. I'm Katie and I'm really bored.

Me: This isn't my real phone number. Don't change it in your contacts.

G: Katie, dont ever. Ever. Text me again.

Me: Okay, so I SHOULDN'T have told you who I am.

Me: Bye!

G: You made me petrified and i started sobbing. My friend is worried sick because i cant move.

G: It doesnt matter who the hell you are, what matters is that what you said and did is f***ed up.

Me: Sorry, I didn't realize it would scare you...

G: I think it would scare anyone in their right mind.

G: Its 1 am, i'm fourteen and everyone is ASLEEP. You are texting from a n umber i dont Recognize. How is that not gonna scare me?

G: "I see it." Did that not sound a TAD horrific?

Me: I only expected it to weird you out... (Also, that was something that the character I sent you a picture of said. So that's the story behind that. I didn't expect you to get the reference, but I also didn't think it was scary...)

G: I don't care what you say. Katie, it doesnt really matter who you are, but i am never speaking to you again. If you try to reach out to me on any other things you will be blocked.
(I actually sent him a picture, not a link.) And I'm 20. I'll never see G again anyway because I moved to another city over two hours away and we weren't close friends, but that doesn't make what I did any less horrible. And there's still some horrible part of me that feels amused when I read through that until I get to the part where G says I made him petrified! Shouldn't I be able to tell that it's not appropriate to do that to a 14-year-old in the middle of the night?! I've been in a Fi-Si loop for the past nine years and I've been depressed on and off for nearly as long and people tell me that I'm not a horrible person and I need to forgive myself, but doesn't this just prove that I really am a horrible person and I'm no better than I was before?! *crying* (If you want details about bad things I've done before, I talked about them in depth in another thread. It shouldn't be hard to find because I usually only post when I need help with something.) What am I supposed to do? I have detailed instructions for how to get out of a Fi-Si loop (given to me by a really awesome friend who used to be in a Fi-Si loop himself), but if I haven't changed, how the hell am I supposed to forgive myself and move on and actually be happy? I obviously don't deserve to be happy if I keep doing stuff like this.
 

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Perhaps you might try to limit intruding upon others when you are bored and instead focus on finding a healthy, uninvasive activity. Reading, for example. There are millions of wonderful books waiting for you to read. Or perhaps a more hands on activity, related to the arts. Drawing, writing, painting, ect. Or maybe take a few minutes out of your day to text someone an encouraging note or compliment. Pranks, like your texting, just don't help the receiver and often causes negative feelings. Try to avoid actions or words that may incite or cause negativity in others and yourself. You'll feel better about yourself and others will feel warmer towards you too.
 
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hey melody ^___^ you sound like a pretty playful person lol and on this occasion, the person just didn't wanna play. Personally I would have a blast if some random person texted me like that. So don't put yourself down just because in this instance your humor wasn't appreciated. You're showing your maturity by reflecting on the situation and that is Not what horrible people do!

Now, for your own peace of mind, if you can find the courage to apologise to those you feel you've been horrible to in the past, it will bring you peace. I have reached out and sincerely apologised to people I said bad things to in the past, or those who I let down, even from over 15 years ago by sending them emails, or talking on Facebook.

And yes it brought me peace - those situations no longer routinely pop into my mind with a sense of guilt. Some people were understanding, some didn't respond but I did what I could to make amends. it might sound scary but it's worth it!!!!! you'll feel free & a load off your shoulders <3 :hugs:

(By the way, pranking people is a lot of fun, but even more fun I find now is pranking myself - as in, I'm the butt of the joke...... Try wearing a silly hat or saying dad jokes to random strangers :D awkwardness is the best)

x :words::lovekitty::woof:
 

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Shouldn't I be able to tell that it's not appropriate to do that to a 14-year-old in the middle of the night?!
Maybe, but apparently you didn't. Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't mess with people if you don't know for sure that they will be able to appreciate it. Your remorse shows that you aren't a bad person though, you simply made a mistake in this case. If this happens more often, maybe it's time to do some introspecting to how you end up in this situation and take steps to avoid it.
 

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https://www.prankdial.com/ have you seen this site? it pranks people on the phone and records their reactions. haha. but i would call at reasonable hours and only to people you know that you'd fess up to! my bf did a vote for trump one to his grandma. you should have heard her reaction. it was so funny.
 

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Perhaps you might try to limit intruding upon others when you are bored and instead focus on finding a healthy, uninvasive activity. Reading, for example. There are millions of wonderful books waiting for you to read. Or perhaps a more hands on activity, related to the arts. Drawing, writing, painting, ect. Or maybe take a few minutes out of your day to text someone an encouraging note or compliment. Pranks, like your texting, just don't help the receiver and often causes negative feelings. Try to avoid actions or words that may incite or cause negativity in others and yourself. You'll feel better about yourself and others will feel warmer towards you too.
That was hilarious! I have no idea why you feel bad about this! Just let the dude grow a spine.
 
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G: I'm sorry?

G: I believe you have the wrong number.

Me: No I don't.

G: ? Elaborate?

Me: I see it.

G: Who is this?

Me: http://www.behindthevoiceactors.com/...rates-2.67.jpg

G: I dont know who the f*** you think you are, but it isnt f***ing cool or appropriate to text some one at 1 IN THE F***ING MORNING. Saying weird stuff, and pranking people, but it isn't cool. If you are someone I know tell me now.

Me: Why?

G: Why what? Why am i asking you to tell me who the fuck you are?

Me: Basically, yes.

G: Because you are texting a person at 1 AM. Saying random stuff and not identifying yourself- dont you think thats a LITTLE unsettling?

G: So please, tell me who this is.

Me: What would you do with the information?

G: Sleep peacfully, i assume.

Me: Okay, first I need to make sure I know which G you are, because that will tell me how best to tell you who I am... You're a member of (name of home school group) and (name of LGBTQ group), right?

G: I'm unsure of what (name of home school group) is. (Name of LGBTQ group), yes.

Me: You know, that home school group. I'm Katie and I'm really bored.

Me: This isn't my real phone number. Don't change it in your contacts.

G: Katie, dont ever. Ever. Text me again.

Me: Okay, so I SHOULDN'T have told you who I am.

Me: Bye!

G: You made me petrified and i started sobbing. My friend is worried sick because i cant move.

G: It doesnt matter who the hell you are, what matters is that what you said and did is f***ed up.

Me: Sorry, I didn't realize it would scare you...

G: I think it would scare anyone in their right mind.

G: Its 1 am, i'm fourteen and everyone is ASLEEP. You are texting from a n umber i dont Recognize. How is that not gonna scare me?

G: "I see it." Did that not sound a TAD horrific?

Me: I only expected it to weird you out... (Also, that was something that the character I sent you a picture of said. So that's the story behind that. I didn't expect you to get the reference, but I also didn't think it was scary...)

G: I don't care what you say. Katie, it doesnt really matter who you are, but i am never speaking to you again. If you try to reach out to me on any other things you will be blocked.
Perhaps you might try to limit intruding upon others when you are bored and instead focus on finding a healthy, uninvasive activity. Reading, for example. There are millions of wonderful books waiting for you to read. Or perhaps a more hands on activity, related to the arts. Drawing, writing, painting, ect. Or maybe take a few minutes out of your day to text someone an encouraging note or compliment. Pranks, like your texting, just don't help the receiver and often causes negative feelings. Try to avoid actions or words that may incite or cause negativity in others and yourself. You'll feel better about yourself and others will feel warmer towards you too.
That was hilarious! I have no idea why you feel bad about this! Just let the dude grow a spine.
 

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Take responsability for your actions. It's not as if you were cursed and it was impossible for yourself to control your actions. Things don't just happen... You let them happen. And this goes either for good and bad actions. Just apply more on being as you would like to. And if the problem is you would like to be mean well go talk to someone about that 'cause in that case you need help
 

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You're only a bad person as long as the person you did it to wasn't a socialist.
 

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You already know that what you did was wrong even if it was funny. I will add that you are clearly wallowing in worthlessness. Until you decide that you are inherently worthy as a human being, you cannot become responsible. Only worthy people can become responsible. That is the core issue. Feeling worthy about yourself is desiring the best of yourself throughout your whole future.

You are also afraid that you will repeat the pattern and you are high on the excitement of the fear generated when you do repeat the pattern. You have to restrain that fear also. You have to decide that it is not exciting. It is damaging.

Good luck!
 

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Hm, you messed up, but I wouldn't say you're a bad person for it. First thing is admitting to your mistakes, which you have. At worst you lack a bit of sense, but so do a lot of people. Don't beat yourself up about it, but you do need to stop doing that sort of thing else you take it too far and someone gets really hurt...Honestly I do think they overreacted, I don't see what's so 'petrifying' about random texts and anime girls, but I can understand getting pissed about random people waking me up at 1 in the morning.

I think your problem isn't that you're bad in a moral sense, but that you're impulsive and you see the problem as a strike against your moral character rather than seeing it for what it is, an inappropriate but difficult-to-manage-on-your-own impulse. Clearly its not a moral character problem, you felt bad about what you did once you realized it was harmful. Its understandable that you still found it funny at first, because the goal of a prank is always to laugh at other's reactions to the situation, so that is also not a flaw of moral character. You deserve as much happiness as anybody else.

And again, somtimes impulsiveness can be hard to reign in, a lot of people have that problem, for instance it is hard for me to not eat food that is easily available to me out of boredom, so do give yourself some credit for atleast feeling remorse and trying to stop. Probably everyone has acted on bad impulses before, but not everyone experiences them to the same intensity or frequency. If your previous attempts to curb your impulsiveness haven't worked, don't give up. Take a different approach or talk to someone who can help you control it. You have to make a conscious decision to commit to addressing the problem, its not gonna happen overnight, it will require effort, and it will be much much harder to handle without external help.
 

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I don't really think it was that bad, after all I see it as an innocent prank but perhaps a bit over the line. I don't think your a bad person either, who would guessed he/she would have been so scared? Things like that happen, the best thing you can do is learn from the experience and use it in the future!
 

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I don't really know enough about you to make a judgment on you like that.

But I will say that you should def. not be texting 14 year old kids in the middle of the night. For one thing, it sounds like you're harassing him because of his sexuality. He's also 14. It really wasn't a good idea at all.

You should find people your own age to interact with--or older. A 14 year old isn't a guy, but a child.

When trying to be humorous--it's a good idea to consider your audience. If it was a guy who was your age, who you were on friendly terms with and who you joked around a lot with, and who you know thought pranking was funny and trusted you, then it would probably have been fine. Especially if he tended to stay up that late.

But as it was, you chose the wrong audience for your joke imo.

It was good of you to tell him who you were when you realized that he wasn't enjoying the joke--it was not the wrong decision. It was the right decision because it considered his feelings and his comfort. I think what got you into trouble to begin with was that you weren't considering that when you started.

Even if people get mad at you for lying--if you are not lying for any good reason and you have nothing other to fear than having that person choose not to want to talk with you again, then telling the truth IS the right thing to do. And you did that when you told him who you were. So good for you for that.

I've done plenty of stuff in my life that I'm not proud of--don't judge yourself by this one example. You're still only 20 anyway, and your brain's not even fully mature yet and won't be for another five years or so. But still, sounds like a good lesson.

Tbh you just sound like a playful person who didn't put a lot of forethought into this--and didn't consider audience and situation well. I don't think that makes you a terrible person, but I do think it's a great opportunity to learn from. You are young too (as I said) and you are still maturing as a person. Everyone does stuff they wouldn't do again, especially as kids (and though you're not a kid kid, you're still not fully grown).

Edit: Also...you explained yourself well to him. And it doesn't seem like what you did was malicious. But you did scare him when I'm assuming you were just trying to make him laugh? So...it's just a good opportunity to learn from about how some might not know your intentions--he might have been afraid it was someone who was bullying him etc. Or a stalker.

Eh--re-reading it really doesn't seem that bad. I just hope you can make your intentions clearer in the future, and avoid such a misunderstanding that someone would feel that afraid. I think intentions are pretty important and that you will remember what you learned here about how they can be obscured when you don't take everything into consideration. So no--I would not conclude you really are a bad person from this.

I've done enough shitty things in my life--with worse consequences than just scaring someone on accident. So if you're a bad person, based on this--then I'm a worse one. Imo, you aren't a bad person, but it's a good opportunity to learn from and you are young. Forgive yourself and move on, and take a lesson from the unintended consequences here.

I mean...really...this is pretty small. Like, extremely small. But you can learn from it.
 

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Uh, so you're 20 and you spam texted a 14-year-old to the point where he was genuinely scared?
 

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Why pick on a 14-year old? That's what I don't get.

Think carefully before you do it to anyone else, however exciting you find it.
 

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Not bad, more like annoying and immature. If you're bored, find a hobby that doesn't provoke others, especially children.
 
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