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I was wondering what the last bad communication experience you had with a group of strangers was, and what lead to the final judgment of them/you as 'bad'?

Ok, so can you beat this one?

Yesterday I got a call over to my friends place. He is newly single and looking to meet people. He said he knew two girls, I spent too much time alone, and we should go hang out. I said,"OK, your driving though, I want to drink at least if this goes bad." He's like 'NP'. So heerre we go.

Upon arrival, I find out both girls are unemployed with children in their early 20's. Who am I to judge this. Not my type normally, but no biggie; I guess. My 'buddy' says he doesn't want to drive. I hadn't drank yet so I say I will drive.

Strike #1 One of the girls said, 'I want to drive.'
Me- 'OK, are you a good driver?'
Her - 'Yea, but I don't have a license.'
Me - 'I insist on driving then.'

Strike #2 So we were driving to my friends house, and the same girl said, 'We HAVE to stop by this house, in this small town 30 mins away.'
Me - '#$%, why?'
Her- 'My ex says my kids are playing in his yard. I want to see if he is lying.'
Me- 'It's 10:30 at night. He lied.'
Her- 'Can we check anyways?'
Me- 'No. I will not stalk your ex for you.'
Her- 'Ok.'

Strike #3 A few mins later, the other girl out of the blue makes this bizarre statement, 'You know, you are cute, and I was going to have sex with you, but your not cool.'
Me- 'I am cool, but how can you be so sure about who you are going to have sex with?'
All three of them together - 'You suck.'
Me - 'Ok.'

I smile when I think about this today, and the only loss I see was in my valuable internet time.
 

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Well done for putting up with the bozos. I'd have walked away after #1.
 
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I'm a very judgemental person and I assume that anyone I don't know is stupid unless proven otherwise. I have a strike system, but I usually make up my mind about people as soon as I meet them. Sometimes I am proved wrong, but more often I am proven right.
 

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A conversation I had recently with a girlfriend of my girlfriend (Anna) and a another dude Jelani and another girl Kavita. We were sat in the Grasshopper (Amsterdam) For a meal and i realised I needed to go to the toilet then grab some cash to pay for my meal. I let people know I was off the the toilet, not disclosing that I was also gonna scuttle across the street to grab some cash. I got back and:

Jelani: You're breathing heavily, good toilet trip?

Me: Yeah, I went outside as well.

Jelani: Why?

Anna: Because he's weird.

Me: No, to get some cash

Anna: Oh, ok you're alright then. You're still in the club.

Me: I was always alright and I was always in the club

Anna: Not this one

Me: No, MY club

Anna: What? Nobby No mates

Me: No an individual

Anna: Nobby no mates.

Me: An individual.

Small, silence. Then:

Kav: I'd say an individual as well.

^ Which was nice.

I think Anna feels threatened by me because she doesn't understand me. She's also bisexual and I think she has a long standing crush on my girlfriend. So we had this small face-off at dinner. After that she was cool.
 

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People often will try to lower your social value if they think you are posing a threat to them. Recently when I started socialise more I get this fairly often. So if your assumption is correct that is a common found defence measure.
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Nice one.

Well, if we are on this kind of topic...
Do you often ignore people who are trying making fun of you/offend you/lower your social value when you are engaged in some interesting conversation? I tend to do this, moreover this make them often lose control which leads to them compromising themselves. I don't see a need to speak to them. It's a waste of energy when I can continue doing something more interesting.
Other thing I found making most of people infuriated is being calm during argument they started. Normal voice tone plus proper body language and KA-BOOM! They start to explode even more.
The last one is excessive use of irony. You start to agree with them with words but your tone suggests something entirely different. Most of people whom I meet need a while to got what they stepped into. On the other hand uninvolved people get this on the spot.
Those three things I use mostly when I am in gloves = off mode. Normally when I need to strike out somebody plain logic and clear statement is enough.
 

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Okay this one girl that lived in my neighbourhood was dating an acquaintance of mine. I don't know how to explain it, but I knew something was going on with her (and I'd just moved to that area/state/country). So, I did what I do for everyone: I observed.

-So my acquaintance's girlfriend was cheating on him; Strike 1.

-After they break-up, I find out from several people that she, well, to say "got around" would be generous; my best friend hit that ("I'm not remorseful, and it was right before X started dating her," he said as he handed me a bowl); Strike 2

-She posts some long-ass FB note detailing, honestly who knows what, ending up in a flame war that ended (after like 106 posts; yes, that's how big a deal she made it) with me calling her a "cum dumpster" and implying that she get tested for STD's. Strike 3

Hell, I didn't care. She wasn't attractive; on the binary fuckable model (0/1, with 1="I'd smash"), she was a -1.
Came back to bite me in the ass not too long ago though, two years after the fact: while drinking and chiefing at a friend's house, he called to "get some bitches over [t]here," and a group of four girls was 'bout to come over.

Cum dumpster is one of them, asks who's there, and while my friend tries to avoid mentioning my name she found out anyway, and was still mad about it.
There were no bitches that night, I'm afraid, save for the videos I watched when I stumbled home.
 
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