[Herrenvolk]

I started noticing something odd in my mother’s behavior years ago, but it was nothing more than the usual craziness. But recently, she’s displaying odd signs and symptoms and I know that something definitely isn’t right here.
In our old apartment we had problems with an upstairs neighbor. Were the neighbors annoying, yes. Were they noisy, yes. Were they following her around from room to room, probably not. She started believing that the woman upstairs was following her around the house harassing her. It got so bad that she would scream and bang on the ceiling. The worst situation with this was the time they had a party. My mother cried in the living room thinking they were mocking her from above.
Suffice to say we moved, and now in our new apartment, she believes the neighbors are once again harassing her. When I asked if they were “following” her like the other neighbors she said no, it was different. But in my eyes the situations are similar. She says they don’t like when she plays music or watches TV, and they bang. I have yet to hear banning, all I hear is the usual noise of people moving and living.
When I try to confront my mom that something might be wrong she’s extremely hostile and aggressive in nature. She gets loud and confrontational and denies being “crazy.”
I’m kind of at my wits end and I have no idea what to do. I tried to get her help once but she lied and kicked me out. I believe that she’s having persecutory delusions, but that is just from my research. What should I do about this situation, if there’s anything that I can do.

 

[Herrenvolk]

Nothing traumatic happened. She just turned 54.

 

[Herrenvolk]

My mom’s handicapped and she hardly leaves the house. We recently got a dog, and she has been leaving the house more because she likes to walk her. The crappy thing is that she refuses to go seek help. I have talked to my family and no one believes anything is wrong with her. I’ve talked to her doctor, and he says there’s nothing he can do. So I’m kind of alone in the situation feeling hopeless. I realize that because of the stress, my patience with her has decreased. Sometimes in extreme situations, I call her crazy, which really doesn’t help things, I live in NYC, and I can’t force her into seeking treatment unless she’s a danger to herself or someone else. Which apparently she is not.