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The short version:
Incident #1: ISFJ classmate/acquaintance was supposed to meet me for an 11am lunch (we have a standing lunch date every two weeks) calls me at 11:05, AFTER I'd already gotten showered and driven into town, to tell me that she was out of town, and could we reschedule? Keep in mind I work 12-hour nights, so I'm already accommodating her schedule.
Incident #2: This morning, same classmate doesn't reply to the (2) texts I sent to her telephone an hour and ten minutes before we were supposed to meet up. They were basically, "Are we still on for this morning, please let me know". It is now 10:55 and I haven't heard anything back. I have gotten completely dressed, when in reality I should be starting to think about going to bed (as I have to work at 8pm tonight).
I was irritated at the first incident, but chalked it up to "real life" happening, and was willing to let it slide, until incident #2 happened. My question:
Do you think this is an ISFJ trait, or is it just her? (I'm sure I'll hear that she has to work a lot, or that she has school, or her kids did something. I don't care. I work more than she does, I take more classes than she does, and up until just over a year ago, I had a child in the house. I know it sounds harsh, but if I can do it, so can she.)
Thanks in advance.
Incident #1: ISFJ classmate/acquaintance was supposed to meet me for an 11am lunch (we have a standing lunch date every two weeks) calls me at 11:05, AFTER I'd already gotten showered and driven into town, to tell me that she was out of town, and could we reschedule? Keep in mind I work 12-hour nights, so I'm already accommodating her schedule.
Incident #2: This morning, same classmate doesn't reply to the (2) texts I sent to her telephone an hour and ten minutes before we were supposed to meet up. They were basically, "Are we still on for this morning, please let me know". It is now 10:55 and I haven't heard anything back. I have gotten completely dressed, when in reality I should be starting to think about going to bed (as I have to work at 8pm tonight).
I was irritated at the first incident, but chalked it up to "real life" happening, and was willing to let it slide, until incident #2 happened. My question:
Do you think this is an ISFJ trait, or is it just her? (I'm sure I'll hear that she has to work a lot, or that she has school, or her kids did something. I don't care. I work more than she does, I take more classes than she does, and up until just over a year ago, I had a child in the house. I know it sounds harsh, but if I can do it, so can she.)
Thanks in advance.