I don't know, but that sounds like me. Still, somehow, sometimes people seem to be drawn to me, but they treat me as something fragile. I currently don't have any close friends. I don't know that I ever will again. Simply because I don't trust. :sad:
Struggle with introversion and socializing: Is it an INFP thing?
Hi!
I was wondering if this is an INFP trait/characteristic or maybe it's just me.
Right now, I'm caught in a horrible cycle which it seems is hard to get out. This is a bit long so I hope someone will bear with me. :-S
I have a hard time making new friends. I want to but somehow my fear is crippling me from initiating conversations instead of waiting for someone to actually approach me (which is sooo very rare...i even feel like there's an invisible force surrounding me that's preventing people from approaching me).
Anyway, I feel so conscious towards other how people think and look at me. I feel so alone in the work place. It's as if everyone has friends and I am left alone in my own cubicle. I feel so pathetic I can't make new friends and just stick to my old friends who are getting fewer as the days go by. I look like a loner which looks pathetic. I want to make friends but my fears are overcoming me. Whenever I attempt to initiate a conversation, it always backfires leaving me humiliated and rejected. It really sucks! *sigh* I know the solution but I'm too chicken to do it! T.T
I wonder if INFPs are introverts by nature or it's their choice or are they feeling a struggle just like the one I have right now? *sigh* :sad:
I was wondering if this is an INFP trait/characteristic or maybe it's just me.
Right now, I'm caught in a horrible cycle which it seems is hard to get out. This is a bit long so I hope someone will bear with me. :-S
I have a hard time making new friends. I want to but somehow my fear is crippling me from initiating conversations instead of waiting for someone to actually approach me (which is sooo very rare...i even feel like there's an invisible force surrounding me that's preventing people from approaching me).
Anyway, I feel so conscious towards other how people think and look at me. I feel so alone in the work place. It's as if everyone has friends and I am left alone in my own cubicle. I feel so pathetic I can't make new friends and just stick to my old friends who are getting fewer as the days go by. I look like a loner which looks pathetic. I want to make friends but my fears are overcoming me. Whenever I attempt to initiate a conversation, it always backfires leaving me humiliated and rejected. It really sucks! *sigh* I know the solution but I'm too chicken to do it! T.T
I wonder if INFPs are introverts by nature or it's their choice or are they feeling a struggle just like the one I have right now? *sigh* :sad:
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That struggle sounds all too familiar, I'm afraid. I want to be with people, but I'm so afraid to approach them or initiate a conversation. When I do push myself to do it, it usually just ends up feeling awkward. Even among my friends, I'm never the one to arrange anything -- I get too nervous about bothering people. Even with my boyfriend (who's an INTP, btw) I worry about being too clingy and driving him away (though apparently he sometimes has the same concerns…). Hopefully that'll wear away as the relationship goes on.
I don't know what advice I could give you, except maybe to push yourself to interact with people more every once in a while. I know it takes effort and it can be a little scary, but the only way to get better is to practice, right? The times I have pushed myself to suggest doing something with someone, it's almost always seemed to go well. So from time to time, be brave, and go for it! :happy:
that is so spot on. not contacting people because you're too scared of appearing clingy but turning out to be downright avoidant. story of my life.
i was very much like that for slong time. but right now i think of it like this:why should i care about the opinions of those who think only negativly of me? if they can't ring themselves to find something positive about me then i don't think they deserve to have a negative opinion. on the other han if my friends whom i like and heyl ike me cite fault in me it would mean something. i think by nature someof us are born E and some I where other still are starout in the middle. if we're born an I then our early experiences shape how introverted we will end up and the same for Es. but intorversion isn't a bad thing that we must "cure" ourselves of but rather osmething we msutlearn to use. yes it makes us socially concious,but i think that ALOT better than not caring about what people think at all, it pushes us to be better people and to behave appropiatly, but if we let that concern go to far and we jsut withdraw it's not good, be yourself and if that is not acceptd then it's society that's flawed not you.
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