The inner isfj comes in when ENTP is under a lot of pressure. As I'm sure negative characteristics of ENTP come out when ISFJs are under pressure. It isn't a pleasant feeling to be under so much stress and pressure that you start becoming sensitive to every little detail around you. Traffic is annoying, this guy is a dick, etc. etc. Meanwhile, a cold word, a glance in just a single way, stings to your very core.This is interesting, do you see this as a negative thing?
Personally speaking, no and yes. My ISFJ shadow (which is very, very, very unhealthy ISFJ mimicry going on) has convinced me that everyone is out to get me or everyone is looking at me funny so they must hate me. And I've cried 11 times in the past 3 days. The great part, though, is that my closet is color coordinated again and my sock drawer is organized.This is interesting, do you see this as a negative thing?
As an ISFJ, this is fascinating to hear. What really intrigues me, though, is that it seems to be a seasonal thing. Since the shadow of ISFJ is ENTP, I've definitely acquired some negative ENTP traits under stress, but it's never been seasonal...I seem to do this every Spring. Such a vile, vile season![]()
It is a negative thing. It's not acting like/being an ISFJ that's the negative thing, it's being in the stressful situation that brings out your shadow that's negative. It would be the same for an INTP acting like an ESFJ or and ISFJ acting like an ENTP, it's just not what comes natural.This is interesting, do you see this as a negative thing?
I wish I knew why, but this happens every Spring for me (for as long as I can remember). It might be a form of SAD (seasonal affective disorder, which is more common for winter), but I dunno about that since this doesn't last for the entire duration of the season. All I know is that for a month or two, I turn into a heaping pile of sad and "everybody hates me" and then I snap out of it. This year it came early, due to a few deaths of family friends all in one week, paired off with work related stress. Last year I don't remember what triggered it, but I was sincerely ready to submit myself to a mental institution.As an ISFJ, this is fascinating to hear. What really intrigues me, though, is that it seems to be a seasonal thing. Since the shadow of ISFJ is ENTP, I've definitely acquired some negative ENTP traits under stress, but it's never been seasonal...
Not for a month or two, but this happens to me every now and then for maybe a few days. under stress, thoughI wish I knew why, but this happens every Spring for me (for as long as I can remember). It might be a form of SAD (seasonal affective disorder, which is more common for winter), but I dunno about that since this doesn't last for the entire duration of the season. All I know is that for a month or two, I turn into a heaping pile of sad and "everybody hates me" and then I snap out of it. This year it came early, due to a few deaths of family friends all in one week, paired off with work related stress. Last year I don't remember what triggered it, but I was sincerely ready to submit myself to a mental institution.
So much this. I feel like my Ti takes a break, but my Fe-Si are having a field day. I have no idea what the ISFJ function order is, to see if I'm on the right track with how that one works exactly.I also might have a hard time processing information, but be very good at remembering it.
I'm realizing that I need to stop over analyzing feelings; it's just not productive -- unless feeling (haha) like your brain is going to explode becomes my new standard for productivity. When I overanalyze and fester in negative emitions, I always stress about whether or not what feel is "correct", that everyone is out to get, I can't take criticsm (but I can dole it out like nagging, hypocritical pro). It really is disgusting. But I'm finding, through very painful and humbling trial & error, that talking about what I'm feeling helps (to another person & not just myself); not all-the-hurt-feelings-that-I've-ever-experienced-ever, but whatever emotions I felt immeadiately after/during the incident and before I begin to overanalyze. I'm finding that when I do this the pain, irritation, and/or frustration that I'm feeling becomes very understandable (i think it's because Ne & Ti decide to work together again) and I take steps to end up dealing with whatever hurt my feelings or made me angry.Oldlady:2406975 said:I wind up thinking about Fe all day... I try to use Ti to understand it, but really, that doesn't work at all. I feel like everyone is watching me, waiting for me to fuck up with Fe... and I don't know what to do about it! I keep analyzing analyzing...
LOL I believe when trying to do that for yourself it'd be more of Fi... which is our 7th function, and something that usually isn't very developed in us, so it makes sense that it's confusing to you. I, too, struggle with this, and find it unbelievably frustrating that I can help others effortlessly, but when I try to help myself I don't even know where to begin.And when I'm sane I use Fe to understand what social interactions people are comfortable or uncomfortable with, what makes them happy or sad, etc. I use Fe -- combo-ed with Ne & Ti -- to understand other people, if I try it with myself (does that even make sense b/c Fe is an extroverted function?) it confuses me.