I think you are right about it. The thing is that it's a circle. We become happy if people like us, and people would like us even more if we were happy. But we can't rely on people, therefore we must seek out the other things that makes us happy.
I am often irritated at school, which makes people shy away from me. But the days that I am in a happy mood, I attract people much more. No one wants to be with someone who is in a grumpy mood, but it always makes me even more grumpy if I can feel people are making a distance to me.
So the questions is:
How can we be happier? What makes us happy? And in the end it is also about breaking the circle of bad reactions among people. (such as being too distant and reserved or giving off uncomfortable vibes)
I often question myself if my reactions are proper, if it is good for the situation. Especially if I am with people who I like and want to know better. I am quick to make a judgement about their thoughts, such as "oh god, she probably thinks that was weird of me to say" and "Why doesn't she/they look at me, are they ignoring me?!"
But we have the control inside ourselves to be happier, to break the circle of habits, to change things around us. It's a question about taking responsibility of our own life!
