I hadn't thought of it like this......i do like these surprises muchly! :laughing:i hate big surprise parties or anything like that in which i'm expected to do or act some way, but i love finding notes and getting randomly picked up by friends for a fun evening.
and what about the surprise of getting lots of random kindness from someone, or finding money in a forgotten jacket, or getting a random call from a forgotten friend, or randomly hearing your favorite song somewhere? i love all of those at least.
I think it has to do with inferior Se. I've been noticing lately that people don't like having their inferior function "startled." This is why INJs usually don't like to dive in, and prefer to generally know what's going to happen before hand.I don't like them either, and here's why: Ni dominance in INxJs creates a tendency for us to take note of the underlying pattern we recognize and project it into the future, projection which ultimately goes to waste when the element of surprise is thrown into the mix. Humans don't have the mental ability to see into the future without receiving hints from our environment (sadly). A surprise birthday party's main objective is to completely destroy these hints, allowing the shock to smack us in the face once we get shouted at when we enter the living room door where everyone is lurking... Introverted intuition does NOT like this.
Quite honestly, the whole jumping out and congratulating me on my birthday really isn't that big of a deal; just give me time to prepare for it! :dry: