Go easy on me, my first post! Feeling slightly awkward asking about this...
I'm INTP married to ISTP. For years we thought we were both INTP, but he has definite S tendencies! It might be a close thing either way. He loves the thrill of fast cars, bikes, boats, and will always want to FIX a problem...rather than consider multiple options then do nothing (my approach).
Here's the thing. Our sex life is generally good, in bed all is great. No complaints. When I'm there, he's there, all is good. But outside of those times, he just doesn't seem to pick up on any clues that I might want something at erm different times of day....doesn't matter what I do - nuance, visual clues, the fact that I could be desperate for him to touch me but I don't want to keep ASKING....I can wear skimpy clothes, brush past him provocatively....nada. FYI it's the same if I'm upset or crying, I have to tell him to cuddle me or kiss me, not just try and "fix" things...
I know he loves me, without a doubt, we've been happily married for more than 2 decades...but he just doesn't notice stuff - he's either in his head, on another planet or trying to fix things...
I'm INTP, I don't wear my feelings out loud and I absolutely hate to seem needy, but I do have "needs" (blushes..)
How do I get his attention?? How do you people work?!
I'm INTP married to ISTP. For years we thought we were both INTP, but he has definite S tendencies! It might be a close thing either way. He loves the thrill of fast cars, bikes, boats, and will always want to FIX a problem...rather than consider multiple options then do nothing (my approach).
Here's the thing. Our sex life is generally good, in bed all is great. No complaints. When I'm there, he's there, all is good. But outside of those times, he just doesn't seem to pick up on any clues that I might want something at erm different times of day....doesn't matter what I do - nuance, visual clues, the fact that I could be desperate for him to touch me but I don't want to keep ASKING....I can wear skimpy clothes, brush past him provocatively....nada. FYI it's the same if I'm upset or crying, I have to tell him to cuddle me or kiss me, not just try and "fix" things...
I know he loves me, without a doubt, we've been happily married for more than 2 decades...but he just doesn't notice stuff - he's either in his head, on another planet or trying to fix things...
I'm INTP, I don't wear my feelings out loud and I absolutely hate to seem needy, but I do have "needs" (blushes..)
How do I get his attention?? How do you people work?!