The closed post was interesting to me, so I'd like to try asking something similar (no offense or drama intended!)
What types of occurrences would evoke your sympathy?
Do you think there are benefits to being a "feeler?"
I ask because as an ENFP I'm often envious of the control my ISTP has on his feelings, so effortlessly, where as I am all about emotional intensity. Which for some crazy reason he LIKES this about me. He's never been interested in another "thinker" type, but he can't put into words why he likes that about me, just that he wishes he could be (slightly) more that way(!)
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these are honest questions. Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain. :happy:
What would evoke sympathy? That really is a difficult question. It usually has to be a situation involving someone close, that I've also been through at some point. For instance, I can sympathize with the child crying over a lost parent but, I can't sympathize with the parent crying over a lost child.
Yes, there certainly are benefits to being a feeler. Being an insensitive asshole doesn't open many doors. Aside from that, I've had to spend a lot of time working in order to play music professionally because while I could play well technically my playing just had no heart/soul/groove/whatever you want to call it that makes women shake their money makers. In the past I was told "I can hear you thinking" and "man, stop worrying about the technique and just groove it". It's been about six years since I made that realization and I still catch myself thinking while playing from time to time. It's difficult shutting the Ti off and letting the Se, Ni, and Fe take over so I can just feel the music and take it where it needs to go. Feeler types definitely have a huge one-up on thinker types when it comes to music, in my opinion.
I love that my wife and I offset one another. I can credit her influence for a lot of the positive changes in my life. I ask her "how do you feel about this" on a regular basis because I truly value the opinion. I might not go with it but, I like hearing it and being able to mull it over. Oh, and yes, the emotion also drives me up the freaking walls at times...to be honest.