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Talking to strangers

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I find it very hard to start a conversation with a total stranger and I was wondering if it has something to do with being a type 9. I guess I get scared of creating some kind of conflict and I end up never trying to talk with people I don't know, and it might make people think I'm an anti-social guy.

This is specifically bad when I'm interested in a girl I never talked to; I get really scared of trying to talk to her. Usually, I don't have any problems talking to girls I like, if the ice was already broken, but I just can't break it on my own.

You guys can relate to this and, if you can, what you do about it?
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I get my... bouncy days, where I'll try and start a conversation with a stranger for the simple reason of connecting socially and maybe brightening the person's day. I mean, if I get to a point where I can't carve out for myself a good reason not to, I'm usually going to initiate. Especially if someone is working but not busy. I mean, I trust enough in my social graces, that it pretty much just comes down to whether or not I can think up an introduction. Just the other week I noticed a security guard working for a security firm owned by my friend, and filled a good 20 minutes of his night with questions about his job, and good ol' sports banter. Now, whenever I'm in the neighbourhood, I'll stop by his 24-hour pharmacy and listen to his stories of busting punk kids lol.

But the key here is that I never run into any problems doing this in my city. In certain bigger cities that I've lived in, I do this much less often because it's just not the social standard.
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