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Im curious to know how your childhood was, your daily routine. What marks you had in school in average? Were you a "good" scholar or a "bad" one? How many friends you had and what common interest you shared with those friends? Also your first love and what age and what was attractive in this person?
 
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Why I want to know it? I like the personality of the INFJ type, so i wanted to learn more about the background.
That's not how it works though.

First, you need a friendly introduction, something like "Hi, all you infinitely interesting INFJs! I recently found out about MBTI, and I can't believe how fascinating it all is!"

Next, you need to fabricate/volunteer a bit about yourself for us to relate to, such as "I feel I must be some kind of INxx, but those last two are really hard to figure out. I've read so much, but I feel it must all somehow begin in childhood."

Throw in a little inviting uncertainty, like "Do you agree? What do you think?"

You could round it off with a disarming appeal to Fe like "Please help a confused soul to clarity and answer a few questions about your childhood!"

A suitably inviting username (say, "Curious George" or "Sakura" instead of a random string of letters) and an attractive avatar would help.
 

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Hey I'll lube this thread right up here goes

I was born in a blizzard hurricane. The doctors declared me legally a deaf mute. With much practices and learningsings, i learned how to practice and eventually I could speak. The first time I spoke I recounted the entire encyclopedia Britannica verbatim from memory, although I had never read it, as I couldn't read. I was a child.

Growing up i was a prodigy. I knew how to do the maths. I could play the music's. I was something of a marvel in my local community and they subsequently awarded me the key to the city. They knew that I was a big fish, so to speak, and so my life wanderings began.

I traveled to Akbar, a local restaurant in Garden, New York. While I was dining on luxurious clams casino and imitation crab lobster rolls, the owner came up to me and told me I couldnt eat there for free and that I had to leave or he was calling the cops.

The journey continued to the big apple itself where I met the love of my life while sleeping on a bench near strawberry fields. She was taking photos with her friends nearby, her black hair flowing darkly in the wind. I caught a waft of her deeply rich scent and was overcome with its deepness and richness. I immediately rose to greet her. I began to ask her hand in marriage whereupon she recoiled with a howl and said "oh my god!!!! Dont you touch me!" My lion Queen. She would not be tamed.

I was on to my next adventure. I was bathed in beautiful glimmering jewelry on my wrists, ankles and waist. They gleamed and shone under the harsh fluorescent lighting of the jail. And they hurt my wrists, also.

To be continued....
 

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Hi, all you infinitely interesting INFJs! I recently found out about MBTI, and I can't believe how fascinating it all is! I feel I must be some kind of INxx, but those last two are really hard to figure out. I've read so much, but I feel it must all somehow begin in childhood. Do you agree?

So, Im curious to know how your childhood was, your daily routine. What marks you had in school in average? Were you a "good" scholar or a "bad" one? How many friends you had and what common interest you shared with those friends? Also your first love and what age and what was attractive in this person?

Please help a confused soul to clarity and answer a few questions about your childhood!

Curious George Sakura
Learning a little more about the functions would help.

INFP is Fi Ne Si Te.

INFJ is Ni Fe Ti Se.

I actually agree that childhood is a good place to start in figuring out types. There's a theory that we develop the functions sort of...in order. So Ni would show up first, Fe would develop later, then Ti, etc. (If you were INFJ). You'd have a preference for them all, but they'd gradually become a larger part of your conscious awareness.

I was split between ENFJ and INFJ for a while in typing myself, but as a child I think that Ni was much more visible. I didn't start really using a lot of Fe until high school. It was almost to counter Ni too, because I was so in my own little world that I'd get in trouble for it a lot. Why am I getting in trouble? :unsure: I'd be genuinely perplexed sometimes. Haha. So I sort of naturally give the benefit of the doubt to others too. Maybe they just see things differently. (Though I can poke sometimes to try to understand it). My right or wrong barometer is pretty subjective. I did begin a preoccupation with what was and wasn't socially appropriate though (Fe) so that I was more in control of how I was being perceived and aware of why I was or wasn't in trouble. Lol. That went into hyper drive around college.

I've always been interested in stories. I used to "write" them for friends and family before I knew how. I'd put together picture books. I could recite the story of Snow White at two. I was fascinated with it in all it's versions. I wasn't behind developmentally physically (I started walking at a normal-ish age and what not apparently), but my development was more notably linguistic first. (And, well, period). Language arts was always my favorite subject, and it came pretty easily to me. I was a pet of a lot of teachers who taught it growing up. (And a high school drama teacher). Most of my friends as a kid enjoyed fiction too. And had obsessions with kittens and babies and dolls. Lol. I was very girly in that regard. But I was also kind of a tomboy. I enjoyed beating myself up. Maybe an inferior Se thing? I developed a thing for the supernatural in elementary school, and I liked people who were down for séances at sleepovers and ghost stories and etc. Some girls would just get mad and tell on me :p

I had some guy friends too and I sort of gravitated to practical jokester types. So I guess I was a good and a bad kid? I got good grades and I was picked early for the honors classes (in elementary school I was a part of some group with a special acronym I'd get taken out of regular classes for). I don't know if that's really type related though. Maybe. Standardized tests look for pattern seeking abilities, and that's something that intuitive doms naturally do. I was terrible at math. I'd get too creative in trying to find the answers. I'd mix up what process went with which equation type all the time. Or nonsensically mix bits and pieces. Behaviorally I got thrown on the fence at recess a lot, or had to take home special report cards, or etc. First time in the principal's office was like the third grade. I still remember the terror :shocked: When I hit middle school I started withdrawing and was pretty shy and well behaved. I started rebelling again in high school. (Only this time it was much more consciously ...and passively).

First love was the first grade. He'd jump out of his desk to kiss me when the teacher turned her back and the class would do the aaaaoooowwww and she'd turn around and he'd try to dash back before she caught him. His rebel soul and ability to create excitement was attractive :p
 

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Ni made me a quiet rebel. And Fe messed with me. I didn't want the underdogs to be left behind. Ti laid quiet until my rebel said enough. Se silently fed Ni; even though I picked up on this (always wanting to be busy by myself with the out side world); I just didn't know what this was back then. Introversion all over the place eh.
 

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- I was a quiet and obedient child who prefered to be alone, with lego blocks and plushies.

- I had a lot of problems in kindergarten, because everyone was picking on me there. I wasn't extroverted and I wasn't gifted for sports.

- I loved when an adult would read stories to me. I loved taking walks and smelling flowers during spring. I loved spending time at the beach with one, a bit depressed, woman who would talk about anything with me.

- I left kindergarten early and started attending school earlier. I was "too mature" to stay at kindergarten.


No, of course I won't give you every little detail about my childhood. That's a bit too much.
 

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I will go straight through the questions (too lazy)...

Daily routine. I would wake up in the morning to go to the school (although I was shy and quite reserved I managed to have a good group of friends the whole elementary period that would disappear during the high school years). After school, I would return home, have lunch, do homework... The rest of the day I would mostly go out with my parents. It was a comfortable and happy life.

What marks you had in school in average? Were you a "good" scholar or a "bad" one? During elementary I had higher marks than in high school. I was a very respectul pupil and classmate. I would get on well with everyone.

How many friends you had and what common interest you shared with those friends?
It was a big group of friends (there were 5 of us). The interests we had in common were just having a good time like all the children I guess.

Your first love. It could have been one guy I met that was just perfect (but I just saw him twice in my whole life, a pity..). So I will talk about the one I can't really forget. I saw him for the first time when we were in sixth grade and his memory has lasted until now... "Nothing" really happened, but it could have been.. Maybe the moment hasn't come yet. I still find him sometimes by my neighbourhood so who knows.

What age? In sixth grade with eleven/twelve years.

What was attractive in this person? His eyes and something in himself that I can't really explain.
 

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I will go straight through the questions (too lazy)...

Daily routine. I would wake up in the morning to go to the school (although I was shy and quite reserved I managed to have ....... something in himself that I can't really explain.
Thats a lovely story)) I believe that INFJs were good scholars and children in general, because most of the INFJ girls are pretty much disciplined and follow some sort of own strict rules. I also believe INFJs could be good in teaching, because of your structured way of thinking, but I don't think you do have that much patience like ENFPs do))
 

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Thats a lovely story)) I believe that INFJs were good scholars and children in general, because most of the INFJ girls are pretty much disciplined and follow some sort of own strict rules. I also believe INFJs could be good in teaching, because of your structured way of thinking, but I don't think you do have that much patience like ENFPs do))
Ni dom isn't very well disciplined in my experience. They tend to create their strict rules more so than follow them.

They could be good teachers though sure.
 

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Looking back, I feel although I was the same person, I was trying on different suits. I remember watching, The Twilight Zone and horror movies with my dad while eating thin mints. I remember making movies with my friends and sister from the age of four to high school. My mom babysat for the neighborhood, so I ran along side several kids. I was the youngest ( at the time ) so I had to learn to be tough. I always needed naps, though. Still do, sometimes! :laughing: I was better at creative courses in school. I loved the arts and still do. I received some good grades, some not so great. If I had REALLY tried, I could have done better. Events went down in the middle of high school and I began to rebel. I managed to get away with a lot due to listening to my gut. It did not last long and I found a way to balance properly. Friends? I had maybe 2-4 that were close. I always had their back. My first love was a boy in preschool that I adored. He was just like Chris Chambers from Stand By Me. There's a ton more, but that's all I'm willing to share.:happy:
 

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Somewhere in childhood I had a thought. "I'm going to read everything and be a genius and say amazing things all the time."

It took another 20 years for me to tell myself to shut the hell up.

In all that time everything was an estimation of value. Except me - I valued myself on how much I felt other people valued me. I was an estimation of an estimation. I developed good manners, politeness, sincerity, empathy. Every aspect of my young personality was shaped by little psychoses. A violent father made me tip-toe, and all of the little behaviors were as such: a defense against a violent world. If you make waves, you might drown.

I wanted to believe that I was inherently good-mannered, polite, sincere, and empathetic. But maybe I just wanted to remain invisible for a while. Heart of glass. I made sure I got good grades, but I never tried for great grades. I avoided loudness in other people.

Then a kid decided to bully me. Then another kid punched him in the face for bullying me. In that moment I decided to be justice incarnate and grow up to be a superhero. Never happened, but I did gather the courage to fight back when other kids were bullied. That kid became my best friend for most of my life.

Somewhere in there I picked up the guitar, and realized I literally sounded like an idiot every time I talked to girls.

Got really good at guitar, but even today I get all stupid when I start talking to women I don't know. Sometimes it works out though.
 
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