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The poor fella is married to me, an INTP. Meeting other's needs, even being aware of them, is not my strong point. He's happy with our marriage but on occasion does ask me if I still love him (I then realize I've been lost in my head) or expresses a desire that I be more affectionate.
Here's what I do but I'm interested in any feedback or correction. He really is precious to me.
1. I make a huge effort to express my affection physically. An example would be stepping up to him and giving him a kiss and saying "I love you."
2. I try to express my appreciation for all that he does, both physically (job, house repairs, etc) and emotionally (support, acceptance). An example: About twice a month I'll tell him how much I appreciate what a good provider he is, that he's worked jobs he hates in order to provide for us. Should I express that more? Is it even possible to smother an ISFJ with appreciation? I'm easily smothered so can't quite get a handle on how much is enough or not.
Anytime he does anything he gets a thank you and kiss and a smile, even simple stuff like hanging a curtain for me.
3. Sex...he's expressed his satisfaction with this department. Ha, no juicy details. :laughing:
4. I TRY to run a smooth household. I hardly ever succeed but our life is basically peaceful and a sanctuary. He wishes I'd keep it neater and I do too.
Anyone want to add anything or make a correction? I'm wide open here. :happy: I may ask for more clarification on a response. That doesn't mean I don't agree or am being defensive but trying to fully understand what is truly a foreign language to me (expressing affection, appreciation, love, etc).
Here's what I do but I'm interested in any feedback or correction. He really is precious to me.
1. I make a huge effort to express my affection physically. An example would be stepping up to him and giving him a kiss and saying "I love you."
2. I try to express my appreciation for all that he does, both physically (job, house repairs, etc) and emotionally (support, acceptance). An example: About twice a month I'll tell him how much I appreciate what a good provider he is, that he's worked jobs he hates in order to provide for us. Should I express that more? Is it even possible to smother an ISFJ with appreciation? I'm easily smothered so can't quite get a handle on how much is enough or not.
Anytime he does anything he gets a thank you and kiss and a smile, even simple stuff like hanging a curtain for me.
3. Sex...he's expressed his satisfaction with this department. Ha, no juicy details. :laughing:
4. I TRY to run a smooth household. I hardly ever succeed but our life is basically peaceful and a sanctuary. He wishes I'd keep it neater and I do too.
Anyone want to add anything or make a correction? I'm wide open here. :happy: I may ask for more clarification on a response. That doesn't mean I don't agree or am being defensive but trying to fully understand what is truly a foreign language to me (expressing affection, appreciation, love, etc).