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I am having difficulty discerning whether I am actually INFP, and for some odd reason it is causing a lot of mental strife. I have been through a pretty stressful situation recently. My husband was in a very serious accident over a month ago and his situation was pretty precarious for a while. Anyway, I suspect that I am experiencing so much turmoil because of the stress. I know that I'm a type 4 enneagram, to start... And that my S and N are pretty evenly divided. I know that I am an introvert, but I wonder how much of the introverted behavior was learned as a result of a difficult upbringing and perceived rejection by my peers. As it is, I do not trust most people my own age and often get *feelings* that end up being fairly accurate about whom I can trust and whom I should avoid. I have difficulty with really intense people and sometimes have to ask that my intense friends "tone it down."
I tend to reach greater understanding of ideas and concepts by mulling them over and subsequently talking about the ideas. (Ne in action?) I have a penchant for understanding concepts, but have trouble with anything task-oriented. However, I do not seem to have the wild imagination that most INFP's possess. I find relationships very interesting, and I like to understand what drives people. I spend a lot of time thinking about that. However, I like to keep my distance from most people and avoid unnecessary interactions. (ISFJ?) I am not particularly good at expressing my love and care for people, but I do like to listen and discuss personal problems. As I said, I like to understand people without getting too close.
Sometimes I use lists to organize my thoughts. I use free writes to generate ideas, and a lot of these ideas are descriptions of physical impressions to represent abstract feelings. I am definitely a feeler. I think that I am very much driven by Fi. I have been told that I take life way too seriously and this has been a major focus of personal growth for me... Lightening up.
I know that INFP personal fashion sense is usually whimsical or "sloppy". I tend to dress so as not to receive too much attention, and I like to be physically comfortable (loose clothing, not exposed...modest). some people might consider my style "sloppy" but I think I clean up well and have reasonably good, if conventional, fashion sense. Again, I would probably dress differently if confidence and comfort were not issues. I would probably dress like Audrey Hepburn or Amelie if I didn't feel self-conscious or noticeable.
I was raised to value loyalty and physical modesty, as well as fidelity within relationships. Often, I fess up to mistakes I have made because there is this feeling that I need to admit to my hypocrisies, to let others know that I don't fancy myself as perfect. I used to be really self-sacrificing in that respect and have had to learn self-preservation. I'm really self-deprecating.
Anyway, hope that was long-winded enough. Please let me know of any more info is needed in order to help me figure out my type.
Thanks, all!
I tend to reach greater understanding of ideas and concepts by mulling them over and subsequently talking about the ideas. (Ne in action?) I have a penchant for understanding concepts, but have trouble with anything task-oriented. However, I do not seem to have the wild imagination that most INFP's possess. I find relationships very interesting, and I like to understand what drives people. I spend a lot of time thinking about that. However, I like to keep my distance from most people and avoid unnecessary interactions. (ISFJ?) I am not particularly good at expressing my love and care for people, but I do like to listen and discuss personal problems. As I said, I like to understand people without getting too close.
Sometimes I use lists to organize my thoughts. I use free writes to generate ideas, and a lot of these ideas are descriptions of physical impressions to represent abstract feelings. I am definitely a feeler. I think that I am very much driven by Fi. I have been told that I take life way too seriously and this has been a major focus of personal growth for me... Lightening up.
I know that INFP personal fashion sense is usually whimsical or "sloppy". I tend to dress so as not to receive too much attention, and I like to be physically comfortable (loose clothing, not exposed...modest). some people might consider my style "sloppy" but I think I clean up well and have reasonably good, if conventional, fashion sense. Again, I would probably dress differently if confidence and comfort were not issues. I would probably dress like Audrey Hepburn or Amelie if I didn't feel self-conscious or noticeable.
I was raised to value loyalty and physical modesty, as well as fidelity within relationships. Often, I fess up to mistakes I have made because there is this feeling that I need to admit to my hypocrisies, to let others know that I don't fancy myself as perfect. I used to be really self-sacrificing in that respect and have had to learn self-preservation. I'm really self-deprecating.
Anyway, hope that was long-winded enough. Please let me know of any more info is needed in order to help me figure out my type.
Thanks, all!