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For the last ten years, I honestly thought something was wrong with me. I did.

I live with an ESTP, an ESTJ, and and ESFP. And we drive each other insane. My sister even once called me Spock(aka lovable vulcan from star trek who locks away his emotions and is hard to know, and then has meltdowns when he cant take it anymore). They all understand each other, that outgoingness, the need to solve problems as soon as they happen, that need to opperate on nothing but common sense and wear your emotions on your sleeve like a badge of honor... yea thats them, but thats not me.

So why couldnt i be like them?? I most certainly tried to be more outgoing. But then maybe that just makes me more of an INFP, given that most ES's wouldnt give a hoot about changing themselves for the sake of avoiding conflict and making others happy.

My road to discovering who I really am actually only started about three months ago. Some friends had a meyer briggs personality book and i took the test. I didnt think much of it until i read the exerpt on INFPs. I nearly cried. It described me to the letter. I didnt know there was anyone else like me. Apparently there arent many, but still! Someone else understood! The need to avoid conflict, the instinct to care WAY too much about what others think about you, to be able to daydream for hours on end, the overwhelming discomfort of being in a room filled with people you dont know, the difficulty sharing your true emotions with others, and all that awsome grudge holding when you're hurt beyond repair--it was all there.

Like i said, i thought i was crazy. So then my online search starts. And i start finding all these people who are infps, people like Vincent van Gogh(Ironic because im an artist and i cant tell you how many times its become so intense that ive wanted to start hurling paint or slashing canvases because i cant get a brushstroke right, and no one else can understand exactly how important that brushstroke is), audrey hepburn(chopped off my hair into a pixie cut last year after watching roman holiday), and even SHAKESPEARE?? Always thought he was secretly gay or something to be that in touch with his emotions to write the greatest love story of all time, but could it've been that he was just an idealist?? hmm...

And then i find Personality Cafe. I cant say how much its helped me to be at peace with myself. Its given me a complete turnaround in how i feel about myself. For the first time i feel-dare i say it??- COMFORTABLE with myself. Ive been debating for the past month whether or not i wanted to join the site, but then if a website can make me this at peace with myself in such a short time, why not? Maybe in the future a thread i post will help some other struggling infp understand themselves.

So thus im here, introducing myself to the community. Please introduce yourselves! I'd like to get to know you all!
 

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haha, I had my mom take the test yesterday and she's an ESFJ (granted, both the E and S were only a 1% inclination over their counterparts). let's just say we don't see eye to eye very often.
 

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I know the feeling! My sister is the ESTJ, with an extra emphasis on judging. She judges by nature and i respond badly to being judged by nature. When we agree the universe has aligned!!
 

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haha, my mom is a very judgmental person, now that I think about it in relation to her typology. I don't think of myself as such at all, unless I'm judging a judgmental person :p I figure that as long as someone is not violating federal or state laws, there's nothing I can really do
 

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Welcome to PerC! Ah yes, I felt the same way when I found out about being an ENTP. I mean, we're argumentative, incredibly disorganized, often manipulative, and have trouble understanding the emotional side of things. I thought I was probably crazy or a sociopath! Then I find out that there's a lot more people out there like me and all those things are normal for us. Needless to say, my mind was blown! Anyways, welcome and enjoy the cafe! I look forward to seeing more of you around here.
 

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I have a mildly similar problem with the members of my family, my parents were both FPs and I'm an INTJ, so there were some clashes. At one point my mother did accuse me of being a sociopath (not seriously).
 
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