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It's so rare that I come across women like myself so I'd like to take this opportunity to see what we have in common as ISTP women. Clearly this is the innerweb so if other types and/or men would like to chime in, I have no problem with that.
I have a non-traditional job...I'm a truck driver. I drive a 5 speed mustang with two car seats in the back to drive around the kiddies. I make my husband drive what I call "the bus". Growing up I was definitely a tomboy, no question about it. I built a lot of tree and club houses. I really liked to put together model cars and model airplanes. Then adolescence hit...oops, can't be a tomboy anymore. Tried like hell to fit in with the rest of the girls but it never really happened. Struggled with the "not really fitting in anywhere" through most of my teens and into my early 20's then I stopped caring and things got much easier. Woman are supposed to be nurturing and caring...I am, but not in the way society dictates. I care and nurture by doing not by feeling so people consider me to be a bit icy. I would never consider myself to be a bitch because I'm not. I never understood why a woman would consider herself that...but anyway my coolness can been mistaken for that. I'm blunt but not to the point of being tactless and crude. I have learned to finesse the truth. Over the years I've softened up a bit because it really used to be bad. I'm very laid back, accepting of everyone and I'm good to have around in a bar fight. :wink:
In terms of dating never really had a problem. I never had the "does he really like me?" or "why is he doing this to me" conversations with my friends but boy do they come to me with it. I never dated someone twice, once it's over it's over. I've always been the stronger one in the relationship and I'm often accused of not loving someone enough. I can be hurt just like anyone else. I don't have a black piece of coal for a heart like people tend to think. I just process hurtful situations differently. I guess if I had to sum myself up in one sentence it would be "still water runs deep."
How do you fit in with other women? I would think that was probably the hardest thing for me to deal with before I did a little self acceptance.
I have a non-traditional job...I'm a truck driver. I drive a 5 speed mustang with two car seats in the back to drive around the kiddies. I make my husband drive what I call "the bus". Growing up I was definitely a tomboy, no question about it. I built a lot of tree and club houses. I really liked to put together model cars and model airplanes. Then adolescence hit...oops, can't be a tomboy anymore. Tried like hell to fit in with the rest of the girls but it never really happened. Struggled with the "not really fitting in anywhere" through most of my teens and into my early 20's then I stopped caring and things got much easier. Woman are supposed to be nurturing and caring...I am, but not in the way society dictates. I care and nurture by doing not by feeling so people consider me to be a bit icy. I would never consider myself to be a bitch because I'm not. I never understood why a woman would consider herself that...but anyway my coolness can been mistaken for that. I'm blunt but not to the point of being tactless and crude. I have learned to finesse the truth. Over the years I've softened up a bit because it really used to be bad. I'm very laid back, accepting of everyone and I'm good to have around in a bar fight. :wink:
In terms of dating never really had a problem. I never had the "does he really like me?" or "why is he doing this to me" conversations with my friends but boy do they come to me with it. I never dated someone twice, once it's over it's over. I've always been the stronger one in the relationship and I'm often accused of not loving someone enough. I can be hurt just like anyone else. I don't have a black piece of coal for a heart like people tend to think. I just process hurtful situations differently. I guess if I had to sum myself up in one sentence it would be "still water runs deep."
How do you fit in with other women? I would think that was probably the hardest thing for me to deal with before I did a little self acceptance.