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Do you suffer from this as I do? If so, any idea on how to break free of it?
ლ(゚Д゚ლ) yeah, but time isn't on my side and life gets disappointing because I can't find meaning in it. Why do I eat, sleep, work and the rest of the stuff that involves "living". What is the point? It feels like I'm just existing.....but for what?I embrace it. It helps me defining myself.
Of course it can also be a bit disappointing, if I can't find any meaning. This can be compensated by not activly searching.
ლ(゚Д゚ლ) yeah, but time isn't on my side and life gets disappointing because I can't find meaning in it. Why do I eat, sleep, work and the rest of the stuff that involves "living". What is the point? It feels like I'm just existing.....but for what?
The thought is on my mind and it gets more pressing as life passes me by.
What do you mean by time not being on your side? Also, what have you done to remedy the situation?ლ(゚Д゚ლ) yeah, but time isn't on my side and life gets disappointing because I can't find meaning in it. Why do I eat, sleep, work and the rest of the stuff that involves "living". What is the point? It feels like I'm just existing.....but for what?
The thought is on my mind and it gets more pressing as life passes me by.
So you are searching for to conclusion of your live? Thats like reading a book from the back.
"The whole of life is just like watching a film. Only it's as though you always get in ten minutes after the big picture has started, and no-one will tell you the plot, so you have to work it out all yourself from the clues."
- Terry Pratchett (Moving Pictures)
I don't know, whom I quoting by this, but: "The meaning of live is to give life meaning."
That is: "working it out all yourself from the clues".
I'm 25 and kinda want to find something that stirs something in me before I get old.What do you mean by time not being on your side? Also, what have you done to remedy the situation?
I suffer from this too most of the time but I've come to find meaning in the smallest of gestures. A stranger's smile, an unexpected hello etc. the list goes on. I also read somewhere in the forum, I think it was the advice to INFPs from 30+ INFPs thread that if something makes you feel alive even for the slightest instant, if something stirs something inside, hold on tight to it because chances are, it's going to become a well of happiness. Okay, my rephrasing might be inaccurate but you get the idea. Ever since I read that advice, it stuck and that's what I've been doing ever since. Always on the look out. That's what I did when I saw an opening for an internship for a NGO a couple of months ago. That has been the source of my seemingly infinite supply of energy as of late because I find meaning in the work I do.
Breaking free isn't exactly necessary. It can be a time of deep reflection for you to identify what exactly is missing/causing the feeling. Personally, I realized that I can't live for myself. I have to live for someone. My existence is tied to the Other.
Dude. You're 25. Time is definitely on your side!I'm 25 and kinda want to find something that stirs something in me before I get old.
Things I have done so far:
- thought about it for many years now (think ever since I hit 8th grade...that would be about 10 years ago?)
- tried different things and have found that some stuff I thought would be interesting actually makes me fall asleep (saps my energy lol). Have tried engineering, helping people (NGO), counseling, office work, translating, writing, computer science and so on...
- It led me to PerC, to find an answer...so far no luck, thou I have gotten to know myself better..some things even surprised me (how blind I was to my own tendencies).
- I have questioned faith, the meaning of existence many times over...
I see people live life, they are unhappy, getting older with not much truly meaningful on the horizon..they seem lost...just like me. How can they live like that?
\o/ sorry if I'm making people depressed :S isn't my intention. I myself am not all that depressed over this, but in all honesty I'd really like to find an answer.
yeah from the back to the front. I don't know why I require life to have meaning, my guess was that I'm not an SP and find it hard to "enjoy the moment". Maybe its the intuitive in me...I wish I could live life in the moment like the SP descriptions say. (not sure if it is true for SPs thou)
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Dude. You're 25. Time is definitely on your side!Well, people do say that life doesn't begin until 30. If anything, you can hold on to that consolation.
Do you think meaning and happiness are correlated? If so, maybe you can change the question and ask what makes you happy instead of what is meaningful for you.
Yes that would be correct, thou I don't see how me not fitting the INFP stereotype (which is true) fits into the current context? Nobody really fits the stereotypes...do they?As every try to describe "reality" (what ever that is), the typing of personalities is just an idealisation. Other idealisations are for example science, religion or even our perception of said reality. I don't think it's possible to find an idealisation that accounts every aspect of reality. Thus MBTI is just a nice concept to get a little understanding about yourself, but in the end you are not an example of the idealized INFP personality (as the author of infpblog.com names it: "stereotype"). Your behavior just statisicly fits best with it (at the moment?).
Yes that would be correct, thou I don't see how me not fitting the INFP stereotype (which is true) fits into the current context? Nobody really fits the stereotypes...do they?
I learned a few months ago that concepts of the self can be misleading and I could be deluding myself. Back then I thought I was enneagram type 4 and was fairly sure about it. Somehow objective reality ended up providing me with facts leading towards type 6. Even now in this thread my 6-ish side is very evident in my questioning and searching for the "truth". Originally I was blind to this or maybe I chose to be blind to it..idk.It seemed like you tried to explain yourself with the help of the stereotypes. Just wanted to go against this, because there are people who think idealizations are "truth".![]()
I think I struggle with something similar. Or so I think. xDლ(゚Д゚ლ) yeah, but time isn't on my side and life gets disappointing because I can't find meaning in it. Why do I eat, sleep, work and the rest of the stuff that involves "living". What is the point? It feels like I'm just existing.....but for what?
The thought is on my mind and it gets more pressing as life passes me by.
From what I remember, you used to struggle with your being INFP, like I still am. Ask yourself what type of perspective really matters to you: the perspectives you can draw upon from your inner self or perspectives from outside yourself.In regards to "finding a meaning" I think it really requires looking at it from different perspectives and I should stop trying to justify life needing a meaning, if there is one then if should be already apparent, I just don't see it yet..just like I didn't see how I really was. If it does exist, then is it really important if I'm aware of it or not?
Same, same, same. ^^....I really love questioning lol. Guess I sort of have my answer. ^^; it still is a mess thou.
I don't think that life doesn't need a meaning. That'd be resigning to the fear of being incapable to live a meaningful life. But it's not needed to know the meaning beforehand. Why'd you bother to read the book, if you knew the ending already? I for myself don't want to know the conclusion of my life. If I knew it, I might search the ways to get there the whole time and be confused rather than amazed by plottwists. I don't think that'd be enjoyable....
In regards to "finding a meaning" I think it really requires looking at it from different perspectives and I should stop trying to justify life needing a meaning, if there is one then if should be already apparent, I just don't see it yet..just like I didn't see how I really was. If it does exist, then is it really important if I'm aware of it or not?
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