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This is primarily because I'm female, and because there are very few men that are incapable of having orgasms: There are a sizable number of women who are incapable of having orgasms, or have never experienced one because they have guys who don't know what they're doing.

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Current Age:
Age when you first masturbated:
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: (If the answer is no, then don't fill anything else out -- it'll be redundant).

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation?
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation?
If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer?

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Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together?
Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor?
Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)?

Psychological
What are your attitudes towards sex?
Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)?

Yes, I'll get around to answering this myself
 
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Current Age: 34
Age when you first masturbated: I think 7-8 first, but more exploratory, quite innocent, and it didn't feel all that much, so I pretty much stopped for a few years, and and then when puberty had gotten further around age 10-11 I began again, getting more from the experience (I got my period at age 11, might be relevant in the circumstances, people who experience puberty later might be less interested at an early age, I am guessing?)
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: yes

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation? yes
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation? no, but it can contribute to a stronger/more lingering one
If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer? -

Physical - Other
Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together? no
Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor? no... not exclusively, but sometimes I guess, in combination with fantasizing, but rare
Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)? no

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What are your attitudes towards sex? not sure what is asked here. I think it is something positive and good, not shameful, but usually I am quite private myself. I felt like answering this still, because I feel female masturbation is a bit taboo, especially for younger women/girls, and I don't think it should be.
Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)? Sometimes I read something or watch some pictures, but not usually, most of the time fantazising is all that is needed, and better than most aids. It is important with the emotional aspect for me, the visual plays a role, but not a strong one, it is more the emotions involved. Like in the question about orgasm without even touching(pelvic floor, if that is really it, not sure, but just tensing muscles), that usually just happens when I feel overwhelming tenderness. Porny pictures or reading can cause more want before, but the orgasm is often a disappointment, feels kind of empty, and vanishes in seconds after, while if fantazising and it being emotional, the orgasm leaves more of the tingling humming good feels after, feeling soft and content. More oxytocin perhaps?
 

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Current Age: late thirties
Age when you first masturbated: 15 after a female friend taught me (did not orgasm till I was 19 despite going through periods of frequent masturbation)
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: y

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation? y
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation? y
If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer? I prefer both, but external stimulation is fastest and most efficient.

Physical - Other
Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together? no
Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor? not that I know of
Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)? no

Psychological
What are your attitudes towards sex?
I don't like orgasm that much and I view sex as an extension of love. I mean, I have always been curious about sex but without love it is not worth it. Masturbation is different b/c it doesn't involve another person. I prefer building up to orgasm before orgasm, b/c I always thought it was going to be some kind of magical experience, but it's more like a muscle spasm--the emotional idea of somehow connecting or perfectly trusting another person is more interesting and I guess orgasm just reminds me of ending (which is a little depressing), even though I can have multiple orgasms.


Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)?
Fantasizing is essential--the first time I tried (according to my friend's instructions--she used to use the faucet in the bath tub and the water--she started at a much younger age and just from pure sensation) I couldn't feel anything.

It wasn't until I fantasized about a boy I had a crush on, after trying several times that I was able to experience physical pleasure.
And it wasn't till I was in a long-term relationship at 19 (years later) that I was able to experience orgasm (and it was during intercourse).

And the first time I orgasmed I thought of space--like the stars and just the massive void of space, and it felt terrifying. I wanted it to feel like some kind of deep connection--some kind of perfect completion, but instead it just felt like some kind of idk--explosion of a star or something. It was interesting intellectually, but it wasn't emotionally fulfilling and physically--it was not even as I expected. I guess maybe penetration was important and perhaps also helped exercise the pelvic floor muscles--I'm not quite sure why I was never able to orgasm before. But I had built up this idea that was a lot more profound than reality and while it was interesting and new it wasn't really what I wanted. I may also have disassociated sometimes before because I lost my virginity to a date rape a few years before so I may not have realized that I disassociated--who even knows.

I fantasized from a much younger age than I tried masturbation, and fantasized about sex/relationships frequently--it just never occurred to me to touch myself. I used to fantasize to help go to sleep at night (usually about characters from movies or when I was much younger, characters I just made up in my head--sometimes I was the male character or the female--it wasn't really about "me" as much as the story. I did once fall asleep with my hand near my crotch and it moved in my sleep, which I tried to replicate--but I couldn't ever experience it again--I was maybe 13, and I had been taught about "wet dreams" in sex education, and wanted to have one (I also rarely have erotic dreams--my dreams tend to be very chaotic and stressful.) I would rather fantasize or even believe in the possibility of some kind of true love than have sex with someone who isn't the right person, at least right now in my life (and since 2011--which is the last time I had sex).
 

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(and since 2011--which is the last time I had sex)

Now that is a serious time frame for that one.
 

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(and since 2011--which is the last time I had sex)

Now that is a serious time frame for that one.
I used to remember the month--but I guess it's been a while.

I feel happy about it though--there's no one I feel I trust enough to have that type of intimate relationship with anyway. I'd rather be alone than have to have sex with someone I don't want to, or to choose to have sex with someone that I was mistaken about (like the level of intimacy or trust in the relationship).

It's interesting to me how people feel so different about sex--there are common threads, but people have such different views and feelings about it...perhaps because we tend to keep most of them secret, so they evolve in isolation and so are surprisingly diverse (at least it seems to me). (While also being similar and relatable in others.)
 

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Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)?
As someone who's kind of grossed out with anal sex, I can assure you women enjoy being on the receiving end of it even less.

I've badgered many confessions out of women on this topic because women tend to lie when it comes to the topic of sex, so I'm pretty damn sure I'm right on this one. :ROFLMAO:
 

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Autoirony means someone here just might have had a laughter about that one. (To me it been plus a year and I can already easily relate to your hopefully selective memory here).

Sort of a relief, is it not, to refuse if the quality just is not there to begin with. A lot of focus can slide into that, so when that is a less of a concern (in a way anyway), there just so much time for so, so, sooo much more in life. It is almost like winning ones life back. Or to me at least it all feels like it, which, as you can easily notice, is making me feel happy about it as well. Genuinely.

Yeah. It is pretty easy to be mistaken regarding to peoples intentions these days, gotta give you that one, but, if there is the hope for, you know, a connection, I would encourage considering either old working character analysis filters or some new promising emerging ones. This pendulum of life still is echo based, and as a click bait as it first sounds, what we put out there is quite literally what we get back. So, to sample out pragmatically, if we are rather decent, or even wanna be, then all the factors that are not rooted to the intention of being decent will be automatically dismissed, voluntarely if our charatecter is mature, or, via the (and this is for real) the refusal of the other if our character is still young or developing towards, you know, interagration. So, in an idea, if we are just who we are, we shall magnetize what ever resonates with our CURRENT state of inner affairs. We connected only with familiarity, like us right about now with what I thought was a definition of a long lack of physical intimacy in my books of records, just before you expressed a whole new dimension to this experience here on this very thread.

What is interesting is that we have the opportunity to, see, evolve. From sadness, anxiety, and the rest of that to happiness and positivity, or even forgiveness and like, loving life. Most probably generally speaking even further up from that too. But for that to take place, we do need a muse.

It is bizarre. One would think all consider sexuality more or less the same way, but it couldnt be further from the truth. I believe it is because different individuals have various different motives to do it. Some want babies. Others pleasure. Others intimacy. Others acceptance. Others make it a group play. Others to dominate. And so on. What is scary though is how, based on general population, large allocation of the entire so called humanity clicks sex to some sort of trophy/ego thing. And how so few are about the other pre, during, and especially after it with the rather normal intentions to just like, make the other person feel relaxed and cared for. That is something I find very alarming.

Female masturbation, IME is something most women think they enjoy, when infact, most would give anything to just find the right guy to share that mo with. And women would, just that men lie out of this self indulging necessity. And that kills all the trust all women need to feel cozy intimately. So guys, be honest. But they can not, can they. As what they are collectively are in these newly wed (20)20s isnt really very pretty at all. My fav being triple chin at age 25 already, drinking coke and perfecting his that hand nose to mouth on repeat, while obsessively reading PUA with pizza greese gently pouring on their face them not even noticing that as enjoying being a life long vip subscriber for Brazzers with 8% discont they cant just stop bragging about, dreaming of becoming the newest elon musk by stealing any ideas from anyone at all who has the slightest insight of how innovation operates, for the END purpose of spreading STDs for sadistic pleasure to all thai underage child prost victims to have the pleasure of destroying their lives. Visuals of that are granted by the movie Jurassic Park 1, the computer fattie who steals some data was it and then tries to med evac with that jeep to the last ferry of the day. Anyone who has the abilities to pick their brain, will be ... just ewwwed. The 2020s. And the increasing quatity of woman who are sane enough to dodge the collectively infested modern filth and send them all to self forced celibacy, out of inferiority complex these metrosexuals so, so clearly need to no longer spread their liar genes all over the place. Just ewww.

Ha. And men wonder why women are still single at age 25, 30, 35 even 40. It is because women dislike the weird intersexual experiences granted by these hermaphrodites calling themselves, what was it again, oh yes, sophisticated. Makes any selfrespecting woman just feel like wanting to vomit. A dude, who is a liar and behaves like he wanks using his mirror image, using learned social skills for instant gratification who is generally speaking an ego driven jerk aiming to just, idk, become fat based on how lazy they are, is the ideal partner or father isnt he. Just oblivious.

Better to just turn a back on that all, really.

And somehow not to lose hope, some men are still real. There is an example of those on youtube, Nick Koumalatsos. Pretty sound. I would marry him.
 

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And somehow not to lose hope, some men are still real. There is an example of those on youtube, Nick Koumalatsos. Pretty sound. I would marry him.
I don't think men and women can be generalized very easily, but I agree with a lot of your post, I think. Though women are different--there are many women who would prefer masturbation or who prefer other women instead of men. Not every woman really cares about sex, as you said--for the same reasons, or at all.

And with men--I don't think all the men can be like Nick Koumalastsos. I looked him up and he is definitely an individual. He could be inspiring or have a lot to teach anyone, but I don't think he'd be the right partner for every woman or anything. I personally wouldn't want to try to keep up with him--he's got his goals and dreams and his lifestyle probably doesn't offer much room for deviation. I am wanting to develop oil painting--my ideal life also requires pushing past limits, but it's a completely different trajectory. I wouldn't want to be sky diving and bunjee jumping--but for someone who does want that in their life, with their lifestyle and values matching his--it could be a special relationship and ideal for some people.

But I could imagine him having a life partner that was equal to him, who wanted to join him on the journey and who had an aligning journey. That could be a really great relationship imo, and she'd probably be a really interesting person to know as well.

As for the guys who simply don't want a life partner--they want to just have sex with porn models or prostitutes--it's hard to imagine them allowing any woman in their lives to be equal to them or as a partner. Or if she was, she'd probably have to share their values and if their values do not include empathy towards other people, she could probably be quite monstrous (like thinking about Epstein and Ghislaine). This model is a disturbing and disgusting role-model for men, for sure--almost parasitic. So I can understand criticism of that kind of male role modeling vs. someone like Koumalastos who seems determined to continue developing himself and living a challenging life that isn't focused on exploiting other people for pleasure. I mean, I don't know much about him but from first appearance, Koumalastos doesn't seem to be focused on tearing others down or exploiting them. He doesn't have to prove his worth by trying to make them subservient.

But these are only two examples of men--I think personal development and knowing what you want in life (both qualities Koumalastos seems to have or be seeking) are great for making life more enjoyable, and they can only be assets for finding the right partner as well.

He seems like a pretty inspirational person from first glance--inspiring life story as well, and relatable. I hadn't heard about him before.
 

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Ni probs. Ne possib. xxxj order, xxxp the new. Vast theme. One concludes, the other leaves all options open, and so forth. Its how the decidion making process takes its steps. I judge it by its results to the individual.

entpsxso8w7s are not that bad. Well they are, but it takes a lot for them to become their real selves. But you are wrong here with one thing, men like him, worship the shadow of their wife. Bc they had access to all of them in their youth. Ans still do, if necessary. So they hypervalue the one they chose. They will bend a lot for their fam to be happy. Like, all the way. Your pov regarding to that specific dream, or the push youre mentioning has nothing to do with your prejudism regarding to a certaing type of male. It is you who think a man like him is xyz, whick significally if not totally paralizes you from experimenting the reality of him or any man at all. Very destructive self sabotage patterns. But if you are aware youre doing it, you shall break out free from the chains of your traumas and WILL succeed in the hiddenly dreamt stuff some of us still hope shall happen to us, so, call me, maybe.

Still, Nick is the kinda of man to skydive at age 9. But at our age, that type of experience are long lived through already. I can assure you Nick wouldnt go sky dive today, nor tomorrow. But what he would do, is change the usa. So its all age related too.

Men like him are so far beyond appeareances it takes years to ever understand why they can remain as the last stand for normality. Thats why they always remain fresh. If we play a minor imagination game here, and you pressed the play button of a movie that started 13 years ago, and met Nick then, in his professional sphere, you would be more than pleased to meet him today, as the same principles he operated beneath then are the EXACT same principles that he lives by today. So in other words, he is the antithesis of fake. Pls, look at the jurassic park 1 fat computer guy. Well Nick here, or well, there is the exact opposite of that. Why. Why can I generalize? What are the tools that make projection of Nick being him 10 years from today too, and do you have them as well, always ready to improve your dreams as well? I say yes. Nicks married. 3 kid on his way. But, that is the model. There are 4 of them. And all of them are the opposite of liars. Total opposite of liars.

Those whos secret dreams are prost or porn or necro/zoofilia etc should be given what they offer.

The sample you offered is how the high society works. Theres far more to it tho than the second highest class these two people made part of. Parasitic is how I view it as well. Sick. Or normal. Depends who you ask. To some, the meaning of this life. You see, the world is not only vast but deep as well. Thats why internet is dangerous. Especially to youngsters.

Youve got a well tuned intuition. Nick is just as you noticed. Heh. No theres no proving to him. Why? Bc he is what others need to prove they are. He is, really, a sxso. And if you know what that is, you know one entj sxso e7 intitulated around here couldnt be further from this Nick man here. They envy them, because Nicks are the ones that care. While the fakes, can just deep fake an apparence of caring. And that caring is exactly what a woman needs to feel safe and trust her mate in intimacy. Its really that simple.

Im exemplifying these two men, alphas and sigmas, because these two type of men, sleep with 99.999% of women, while the others watch porn and pay for using something they name a public toilet, which in reality is nothing less than a crushed victim of material poverty.

Find a Nick dear, and I promise you, your 2k11 will be reset out of your own will to do so.

Nice having had a proper convo with you.
 

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This is primarily because I'm female, and because there are very few men that are incapable of having orgasms: There are a sizable number of women who are incapable of having orgasms, or have never experienced one because they have guys who don't know what they're doing.
I am male. Can I comment?

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Age when you first masturbated: Teen.
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: (If the answer is no, then don't fill anything else out -- it'll be redundant).
Not until 22-24, I forget. No one showed me how and I was not experimental, but I was frustrated.

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation?
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation?
If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer?
I don't have any of those but I got to experiment on females before even myself. They achieved what I did not. I read lots of books but they didn't help including "Ideal Marriage" by Van de Velde in my dad's library.

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What are your attitudes towards sex?
That would take too much space for this post and is one of the most complex questions askable.
Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)?
You want to know about warmups? Hold on. Let me consult with my wife.

BTW a lot of this is cultural. There was a movie out where women of the last century (or was it the century before last?) where women sought the doctor's office for "conditions" and he was highly recommended. The women left happy but the doctor (male) grew tired* and so the vibrator was invented. I don't recall the movie's name.

*It didn't say if it was carpal tunnel.
 

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This wasn't meant to be turned into a bunch of jokes, as for the anal stimulation thing -- I enjoy it a lot. It feels good. Some people need to grow up.
 

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Current age: I momentarily forgot, but I am in fact 24.
Age when you first masturbated: I think I was 7. I don't know why I started, but it felt good, and I even commandeered a vibrating massager from a massage pillow.
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: Yep. No multiple orgasms for me though. I don't desire it. I like to relax and maybe take a nap.

Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation? Yes.
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation? No. The entrance used to be very painful and still can be uncomfortable. Inside it's just numb. I'm grateful that I learned about clitoral stimulation.

Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together? No
Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor? No. I tried some ben-wa balls on the off chance I would be able to feel something. Nope.
Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)? I started experimenting with butt plugs, and I'm still on the small sizes. It doesn't physically feel like anything (yet?), but it's kind of fun to do chores with a fluffy fox tail. And there are lots of pretty ones, like ones with rainbow-colored metal and jewels. I guess I'm more into the aesthetic than anything!

What are your attitudes towards sex? It's a complicated history... It's very important to me, and my sexual functioning is important to my self esteem. I came from a religious, no premarital sex background. When I became aware of what masturbation was, around 11 or 12, I became so conflicted. I desperately wanted to turn my sexuality off, but I couldn't, so I felt guilty. I got preoccupied with finding "the one" and getting married so I could at last think of sex without guilt. Fortunately that ship sailed before I met my husband. Prior to the guilty phase, I enjoyed drawing erotic pictures of my favorite characters and animals I made up and making stories about them. It was about the intimacy and connection of being together in a secret place. But I guess even then I felt guilty because I knew that my parents should never, ever find the drawings and the stories. I destroyed what I had made soon after making it.
Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)? I don't masturbate by myself that often. Newly married, I haven't been by myself much. Plus, I snap my fingers and a boner appears—it's so fantastic! When my husband is away, I just relax in bed and do it before I go to sleep. We talk on the phone before then. When my husband is present, we both make sure that I orgasm during sex or else I will have declining self esteem.
 

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Current Age: 24
Age when you first masturbated: 7?
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: Yes

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation? Yes
Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation? Yes
If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer? If alone, I prefer clitoral. If with a partner, I prefer both.

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Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together? No.
Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor? Not sure what you're trying to say here. You mean sex or kegels? Because yes to sex and no to kegels.
Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)? No.

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What are your attitudes towards sex? Could you be more specific? I don't really know what you're asking me to talk about.
Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)? Nothing really. When I feel like it, I masturbate. I don't have any particular thoughts, I'm more focused on my body.
 

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Current Age: 36
Age when you first masturbated: 13
Are you able to achieve an orgasm: Yes

Physical - Basic
Are you able to achieve orgasm from clitoral / external stimulation?
Yes

Are you able to achieve orgasm from vaginal / internal stimulation?
Yes

If you are able to achieve orgasm from both: Which do you prefer?
Internal probably why I’m indifferent to receiving oral and prefer penetration

Physical - Other
Are you able to achieve orgasm from squeezing your legs together?
If I want to and try yes.

Are you able to achieve orgasm from engaging in exercise that engages the pelvic floor?
Arousal for sure, orgasm with concentration or emphasized arousal thoughts

Are you into anal stimulation (either external or fingering)?
Yeah within reason, not necessary but sometimes

Psychological
What are your attitudes towards sex?
-large picture of life pretty liberated attitude
-small picture focused on other things and have a celibacy goal this year

Are there any activities you like to do prior to masturbation (i.e. fantasizing, relaxing, putting on music)?
Sometimes. Depends. Sometimes I just want to rub one out and get it done to relieve tension. Sometimes I may do any of the examples your brought up
 
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