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The Importance of Being Comfortable - TvsF?

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Soft Fluffy Cozy Squishy Comfy Cushy Snuggly Fuzzy Furry Cuddly...
Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?

In my experience it seems like Ts have a slightly negative association with the word comfortable/comfort (and similar words) as though it has to do with being weak, wasteful, unecessary, unimportant, silly, leading to incompetence. There's sort of a stereotype of Ts having more austere or simply functional homes. On the other hand its my impression that Fs seem to have seeking a comfortable environment as a relatively high objective. There's sort of a stereotype of Fs having a thing for squishy couches, and lots of pillows, and fluffy cats. But I'm curious as to whether the reaction against comfort that I've personally seen from Ts is really related to type in the way it seems, or if perhaps there are Ts who crave comfort and Fs who brush it off as not important. I also wonder if this has anything to do with particular functions? From my own personal examples, my INTJ friend cringes at those words listed above, and yet has the squishyest bed in the entire world, while my ISTJ mom doesn't necessarily cringe at those words, but she often will neglect to take advantage of things that are quite convenient to make herself more comfortable and will instead 'rough it' when there's no reason to. So I'm interested in everyone's thoughts/experiences

First of course tell us your type:

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

Um... Depends on what I'm aiming for. Last summer we went backwoods camping. We carried everything we planned to use a couple of days walk with 3 kids. Yeah, I'd say that was roughing it and I had fun doing it. Then after Christmas we went skiing. I insisted and a nice comfortable hotel room at the chalet and not the cheap digs down the road. I just wanted to be comfortable. I like to be comfortable but I can enjoy experiences that aren't centered around my comfort.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

My outfits change according to what I'm doing. Around the house I have comfy clothes to wear and prefer barefoot at all times. I like my feet cold and my body warm. If I'm going for a run, I wear comfy clothes. If I'm dressing for the day, I love well put together outfits and I'm not too concerned about comfort. Some outfits really aren't comfortable. I've damaged my feet wearing heels, so I have metatarsal inserts that I have to wear to avoid excruciating stabbing pains designed from casts of my feet. I have a bad habit of ignoring minor discomforts until I do serious damage. It sucks because when I go to the doctor about self-inflicted injuries I look like an idiot. 'And you didn't stop before it got to this point because?' :blushed:

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

I have a very comfortable bed. Didn't always. Fluffy beds aren't comfortable. I want support. I'm a light sleeper and have a very difficult time getting to sleep and staying asleep. A firm mattress and silk sheets help. I don't like too many pillows though. I can't sleep just anywhere.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

I'm a fidget. I don't sit. My computer is currently on the counter in the kitchen. I rarely last very long sitting down, so I don't pay attention to the seats. I do pay attention to best view of the exits/entrances and like to see as much of the room as possible.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

I like lots of textures. Rough, soft, smooth, soft etc... I like to feel different sensations on my bare feet.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

Time to confess. I have a thing for silk. I've had a thing for silk since I was a baby. I'm a grown woman and always have a silk scarf or handkerchief on hand. Other people bite their nails or crack their knuckles. I often have silk on hand to fiddle with.

I like to touch textures in general. I see a painting and I want to touch the dry paint to explore the brush strokes. I have a wide variety of textiles in my closet and in my home furnishings. Not necessarily soft. I like items that are interesting to touch.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

Depends on what I'm buying it for. Am I buying it for comfort or for style or for longevity or for practicality? I focus in on what an item is for when making a purchase.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

I like curling up on my kids beds to read stories at bed time with them. I don't tend to think of looking for a cozy spot though. It's not a focal point in my thoughts.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

I enjoy cuddling with my husband a kids. I don't know that I enjoy it more or less than other people.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

It's nice but not a priority. I don't live by the phrase no pain no gain, but it is worth noting when I have a goal I'm working towards.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?

I prefer people to be polite and blunt. But don't tiptoe around me or I feel like I'm being patronized.
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

Depends. I don't mind certain kinds of discomfort--I don't much notice uncomfortable furniture, and I don't mind the heat, but I can't take the cold. Any room below 72F and I'm pacing like a caged tiger trying to keep warm. I can sleep in hard beds but I regret it the next day. I can't take loud sounds or harsh lights and colors (HSP). I think my minimum comfort level is lower than most of the people I know, but I do get cranky if it isn't met.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

Cannot stand cable-knit sweaters, but most other things I don't notice, as long as they are weather-appropriate. I have a fondness for silk, though.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

Can sleep anywhere the first night or two, but after that, not so much. I do keep my own bed as soft and nest-like as possible.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

Well, I'd prefer a chair to the floor if I'm going to be there a while, but otherwise, no. I prefer to walk around if I'm going to be talking or thinking.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

Only when I'm barefoot (which is often in the summertime).

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

Ahahaha. This I do. Velvet, silk, fur, leather, corduroy... I love to feel it.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

For furniture, absolutely. Anything else, no.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

Sometimes, especially if I'm upset. Most of the time I don't think about it.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

Eh. I prefer to be hugged, then let go, most of the time. Unless it's cold.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

I don't like being uncomfortable, but it's not a priority.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?

To me, the hard truth *is* more comfortable. I trust it more.
Consoling words are better if I'm fully distraught, but if I'm just kinda pissy I want a "suck it up."
I don't mind open conflict, but I really hate the awkwardness of putting my foot in my mouth and other errors I seem to make.
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(I love those words. Mmmmm squishy.)

1) I actually do prize myself on being able to "rough it" physically. I grew up in the frozen north, where we swim in icy lakes and wear light jackets in sub-zero weather. (Joking, but really, I grew up in a sparsely populated, mountainous, generally colder area where people tend to be tougher.) I do, however, like softer things in general.

2) I like soft clothing, but I usually only wear it if I'm at home alone. I feel naked if I don't have a collar on my shirt.

3) My dad (INTJ) once asked while we were looking to get me a mattress, "What, do you want to sink into your bed while you sleep?" My answer? "Yes. I would love that."

4) I sit on the floor a lot, actually. I can sit anywhere.

5) I love squishy floor mats, and usually walk on the grass.

6) I love the feeling of velvet, and I have a really fluffy dog who I pet all the time.

7) That depends on what it is. I love a squishy couch. Clothing, however, would be bought first for, say, an awesome looking crest design.

8) Yes.

9) I secretly love hugs. People are generally surprised by this, as I tend to be a loner when it comes to social everything. I think that people, in the very beginning, see me as cold. Of course, this is untrue, and I like getting hugs (though I don't hug very many people.) I'm that weird guy who actually likes to cuddle with the significant other on the sofa.

10) Well, I'm not too worried about being comfortable, although I prefer it. I generally like softness, but that doesn't necessarily mean comfortable. I suppose when I am given the chance, I choose comfort (I have a soft, heavy blanket draped over my shoulders right now), although I'm not too worried about it.

11) "Know that the middle way/Is dearest unto God." I'm somewhere in the middle here. I think that in general softness is preferred, and try to be kind and considerate. However, sometimes it is necessary to be hard. I'm not afraid of confrontation, but sometimes it is just required. And in these situations; If you really need to resolve a problem and being velvet will not work, become iron.
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Aelthwyn said:
Soft Fluffy Cozy Squishy Comfy Cushy Snuggly Fuzzy Furry Cuddly...
Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?
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Happy, although I wouldn't be the certain type that just enjoy laid down and *rest*...

Aelthwyn said:
First of course tell us your type:

ENFP
1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

I crave for comfort and try to adapt the world around me to be the most pleasant I can get...
Exactly, I can stand a little discomfort only for a while before I get the urge to change it !

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

yes !! hehe that makes me laugh, because exactly right now I'm in tennis shoes, stretchy pants I bought half size bigger just because I loath have strangled tights...
If I buy a pair of shoes that hurt me the first time I use, I simply give them away, I can't stand to wear/use something that annoys me

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

I sleep with three pillows and fluffy cover. If it's summer, I open the window and turn a fan directed to me to still be comfy under the duvet...
When I'm visiting someone or in a hotel, I always ask for extra pillows and if there are none, I sleep bad.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

not as much for the comfiest chair, I'm ok on the floor too (remember, stretchy pants !) as long as I'm in a comfortable position or have free movements ...

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

Never gave much of a thought about that... because I would be wearing comfortable shoes anyway...

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

yes, I like to stroke soft things, pets, my hair or myself, someone's hair...

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

A decisive factor !
8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

I'm not always in a mood to curl up and relax because I'm too agitated, excited about life and always on the move, but when I do need the time off, yes, I choose the best position - place


9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

I am a koala at heart ! Love to cuddle, hug, caress, kiss, snuggle, smush, everything !


10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

I endure pain for gain only if I really want to, I'm not accommodate.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?

I hate tough love, I think it's unnecessary. Not sugar coating like you are a retarded either, but knowing how to say the honest things is a must for emotional intelligence and maturity.
I don't like consoling words and hate even more life is hard, suck it up. It's too easy to say those things and I avoid people who think this way (both)
It's the understanding of what you are going through and relate to that feeling - if you cannot relate to the fact - what is most important.
So, yes, I avoid social/emotional conflict and discomfort as much as I can, for me and for others.
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There are so many bad things in life already, why make it more difficult
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Those words do kind of bother me.

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
I can tolerate discomfort, but if you give me the choice I'm gonna choose comfort.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I wear pajamas as much as I can get away with, but I feel uncomfortable wearing things like sweatpants and hoodies out in public.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
No but I need one because my mattress kills my back. I sleep with two pillows but I always end up using the very bottom of one of them. I sleep with as many blankets as the weather permits though.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I'd prefer a softer chair, but I'll deal with whatever I get as long as I can sit with my legs pulled up or under me.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
I love squishy floor mats. I recently got one for my bathroom and for a few days afterward I couldn't resist taking the time to step on it whenever I went in there. Outside I prefer pavement though.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
All the time. I love soft, fuzzy textures. Whenever I walk by something that looks soft in the store I have to feel it.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Well, it depends on if it's supposed to be comfortable or not. Definitely if I'm buying a chair or a sweater or something I'm going to want one that's the most comfortable.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?I guess it's nice, but I'm not going to go out of my way to make things comfortable for myself in temporary situations.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
I don't like cuddling people, but I like cuddling animals. It's not something I do all the time though. I also find cuddling blankets to be comforting, but I don't do it often.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
It's preferable, but not something I constantly seek out. Usually I choose being lazy over being comfortable.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
I think there needs to be a balance, but when it comes down to it I like to hear the truth. I've never been able to deal with criticism very well, but I definitely prefer being told flat out to people beating around the bush or lying or trying to put things "gently," which usually just makes me feel even worse.
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

Are we talking middle of summer and the a/c freezes type roughing it, or like backpacking roughing it? In the house I have to have some sort of device to circulate air, as in push comes to shove I will build something. But out fishing or camping what have you I don't pay much attention to it, I have other things to occupy me.


2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

I need to get some inserts, my boots weren't made to stand on concrete all night in. Aside from that I don't really notice. I tend to go for practical over comfort.


3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

Considering I usually fall asleep in my chair I would go with the last one.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

I make a bee line for the first open chair nearest the door.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

Never think about it really.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

Heh this I do both. Sometimes I just see a pillow or something that just looks interesting and I just have to touch it to se what it feels like. Granted the animal is usually my dog who won't get out of my face unless I pet her for a bit.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

Depends on what it is. With my car and house for instance comfort is important.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

I don't really think about it to be honest. Not that I don't take the chance if it arises.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

I don't know how to answer this. I like the idea of cuddling but I also have personal space issues.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

Neither. I don't crave it but not fond of the no pain no gain idea either.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?

I don't know. Don't beat around the bush. Consoling words are appreciated but only when they are sincere. If I can. Depends on what the topic is.
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Aelthwyn said:
Soft Fluffy Cozy Squishy Comfy Cushy Snuggly Fuzzy Furry Cuddly...
Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?

Well I was happy with fluffy and cozy and then it gets kinda annoying afterward

First of course tell us your type: enfp

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
I crave comfort and I'm usually comfortable, but your question makes me question what comforts mean . I put up with discomfort daily, I'm a paralegal -ugh lawyers- clients- I don't ignore discomfort but I try to make the best of everything - I think I try to bring comfort into every uncomfortable situation

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I do like soft fabric it feels nice and comfortable , I'm usually in a dress so yes I love soft fabric, hoodies are nice too I have many . No I do not like to add any cushion to my shoes that would not be comfortable nor do I pay attention much to shoes . I can't abide jeans or wools bit it's bc my skin flares up in rashes , I love suit jackets and vest or sweater vest though, it's classy

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

Yes but not my choice, my istp husband bought the bed with extra padding , it's a bit squishy but it's ok, as for pillows? Ugh can't breath - I throw them all off of the bed . I do like blankets as long as it's smooth and isn't made of wool or fleece fabrics again bc my skin is highly allergic to most fabrics

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I don't think it would occur to me

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
No I like hard flat surface , it feels nicer to walk on , grass makes me itchy and squishy mats makes me feel uncomfortable , like I'm walking on a wet mattress or my feet is getting sunk into the ground with every steps I take .

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
I like animals! Especially dolphins and parrots ! Yes. If I see an animal that I like - I would most definitely run up and pet or play with the animal , always have - one thing that stays with me from childhood until now - I get giddy and elated when I see animals that I like, as for stroking velvet or soft things - not unless somebody tells me to feel something otherwise I wouldn't but I guess it does feel nice
7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Depends on what I'm buying . If it's a book or movie I couldn't care less in fact I rather read or watch something more compelling and exciting - if it's furniture then yes it weighs in equally with aesthetic as well ,clothing wise then yes comfort is quite important

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
I must be moving at all time , from the moment I wake until bedtime, however I usually wake up around 2/3 am so I guess right now I'm cuddling on my bed relaxing . Otherwise I prefer to be moving or doing something fun

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
Depending on my mood and with whom. I love cuddling with my son, I think that is the highlight of my day, having him in my arms, hearing his giggles as I kiss him . I love cuddling with my husband as well but not for a long period of time unless I'm sleeping, if not I get bored quite quickly _ I prefer to go on a long relaxing walk
10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
Comfort as in living an easy life and feeling relax and content with no worries is what I live for. No I don't live by no pain no gain, I think I live on the more you love and laugh the happier you will be :)
11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? No not really, I crave peace and serenity but as for physical comfort - doesn't bother me so much unless I'm allergic to it -

Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'?
There's always a nicer way to say something especially if it deals with objective criticism , words cuts quite deeply - I honor the truth but the truth can be told in any manner- And I prefer the manner to be soft and gentle
Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'?
Depends on who the person is, if its my partner or friend then consoling words- if it's my mother I rather not hear Anything - I suppose consoling words if they are genuine
Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible?
Well I don't like them at all, if it doesn't involves me then I'll avoid it at all cost maybe even hide. But if I'm involved or a love one is - i can't avoid it - I'll address or discuss the situation - leaving things unanswered for anyone is against my core values- can't live with myself otherwise

Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.? I don't butt heads, I avoid anger and argument bc it doesn't lead to anywhere and I can never get my point across , haven't shown anger since 2005 :) but feeling it ugh ! Can't stop that . I don't like criticism and I'm quite sensitive to it, however if things are my fault - or there is a trait about me that is bothering somebody I'll admit my flaws, when criticize I rarely defend myself and would take in the words to analyze it - but I hate it - deep down I'm quite sensitive to criticism. At work however - I couldn't care less, I think I have a pretty thick skin when it has to deal with work ethics





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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
I tend to put up with discomfort to get to do things I want/need to do i.e. walked with a very badly infected ankle, even though it was painful, so I could get to class and the shops to buy groceries. Also walked with bleeding feet really fast to get to a convention (didn't want to let my sister down).
2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I love comfy clothes and don't care if they look casual etc unless I'm going for a job interview. I tend to wear fairly baggy clothes, hoodies, trainers etc and like to wear joggers in the evening if I don't have anywhere to be.
3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
Nooo, I hate too many pillows. I have one pillow, a bigish duvet and a nice mattress (but these are only because my mum insisted on buy them for me because she hates the idea of me not having nice bedding when I really don't mind either way! Very kind of her but a waste of her money). I tend to sleep anywhere so long as it's dark and quiet and not too hot or cold.
4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I tend to stand unless it's somewhere I'm comfortable. If I'm happy there and plan on staying a long time I either sit on a chair so I'm not sat next to people on a sofa, or on the floor to save space.
5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
I like grass a lot, but prefer to be efficient, so walk on grass if it's faster than pavements.
6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
I tend to pick at furniture so try not to touch it (I picked a small hole in a sofa and realised and had to not touch it again). I love animals so always pet them so long as they actually want to be stroked.
7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Cheap, comfy, practical, looks good (order of factors importance when buying clothes)
8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
This happens rarely and mostly when I'm very upset or extremely tired.
9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
I like to but can get fidgety after a while so like to cuddle, then do something like play games or go out or read.
10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
I'm not too fussed, it's more important to do something interesting.
11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
I tend to tell the truth but can make it gentler so people don't get upset. I'm happy to be criticised if it's constructive and happy to constructively criticise others. I don't like arguing, but don't mind debates.
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Soft Fluffy Cozy Squishy Comfy Cushy Snuggly Fuzzy Furry Cuddly...
Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?

They evoke a generally positive response within me.

First of course tell us your type:
INFP male [I included my gender because responses especially around clothing may be gender-influenced.]

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
I enjoy comfortable things for the most part, but I have chosen giving up some comforts on vacations. Some personal comforts are postponed due to limited financial means and prioritization.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I don't like stiff, binding, scratchy, encumbering, bulky, or constraining clothing. I have rarely owned jeans throughout my lifetime. I wore them mostly when working on farms in my youth. I prefer to wear surplus camo cargo pants when considering needed durability as they also provide comfort and freedom of movement. I do not find a properly fitting shirt with tie and suit coat uncomfortable if they fit properly (not binding). I have never worn a suit coat that had material similar to denim; therefore, suit coat does not equate to stiff in my experience.
Proper sizing is a big factor. Sleeves have to be long enough but not too long. Same with pant legs. Sleeves should not bind or cut. Waistband should be neither too loose nor overly snug. etc.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
I prefer a moderately firm to firm mattress. A single pad will do. I prefer one sheet and one blanket. I prefer that the blanket have a satin/nylon edge for contact with my face (chin, cheeks, lips, nose). The bedding should not be entangling or restrictive (cf. George Kostanza on Seinfeld). It should keep me warm without making me too hot. [Which generally means that the blanket disappears in the summer. :sad:]

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
At home I tend to sit in my recliner (a great, big, overstuffed piece of furniture that has seen its day in that the spring suspension is shot, actually making it a bit uncomfortable to sit in now). If I were at another place (other than home), then I would balance several considerations. If there was ample furniture available and multiple similar choices, then I would choose something that looks comfortable and is located appropriate to whatever is happening. If there are many people and just enough (or perhaps even too few) choices, then I would tend to take the least comfortable option, allowing someone else the greater comfort. If in a work setting I have bypassed getting a new, more comfortable chair when what I had was still functioning properly.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
When walking outside I tend to stay on the pavement when wearing shoes so as not to erode the grass/make trails in the lawn. When barefoot I will choose grass (talking about fescue, rye, blue, and the like and not Bahia--that stuff is like walking on straw) over concrete, concrete over asphalt/blacktop, and asphalt over stone. I do like standing on ergonomic floor mats and squishing them.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
I do like the feel of soft things. I love to pet mammals usually. I do feel kind of weird, however, when I pet an animal that turns out to have coarse, bristly hair. It's a conflict of wanting to make a physical connection with the animal but not enjoying the feel of the coarse hair.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Comfort isn't necessarily soft. It can also be size related. When selecting between items of comparable price, comfort does play a role in selection even if it is something hard, like a hand tool. There are other factors like durability, reliability, appearance, etc. Something that is uncomfortable (not simply less comfortable), however, would not be selected.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
I do enjoy a comfy spot to sit, recline, or lie down.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
I enjoy hugging many people. I strongly link cuddling and snuggling with sex. I would engage in cuddling and snuggling with that end in mind and not, say, in watching TV or the like. Do I enjoy it? You bet, but it is on a singular path. Snuggling with the wrong person, then, becomes something inappropriate for me.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
I do get caught up in my comfort. It too easily shapes my decisions. I must always challenge how my comfort seeking is affecting others directly and indirectly.
I do not live by or value the phrase, "No pain, no gain." I believe it to be fallacious and in the company of statements such as, "Change is good," and, "That which does not kill us only makes us stronger." [Hmm. After typing down all three I realized how angry I had just gotten.] I am pain avoidant.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
I think that comfort is comfort and pain is pain. Whether the occurrence is physical or emotional, the one state is pleasant and the other is not. I believe that some people may have better coping skills with one form of pain over the other (including being more sensitive to one type of pain over the other).
I do want people to tell me the truth, but in a supportive way ("Speaking the truth in love..."). I do like consolation. I can be easily wounded by (or even inversely challenged by) a scathing delivery such as, "Life is hard--suck it up!" For example even the offered, "It's hard but you have to get up and keep going," I receive as a dare. I don't have to go on. I don't have to get up.
As previously reported, I am pain avoidant. Conflict is apt to produce pain. I tend to avoid conflict unless someone is needed to intervene in a situation that could involve injury or damage. [I have a background in law enforcement, which means that I have a greater responsibility than the average person in this regard.]
I do not willingly engage in head butting unless that is to advocate for the right thing. Morality isn't about me, so the head butting isn't regarding defending myself. I take criticism very poorly. I tend to withdraw and disengage in the face of criticism.
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INFJ.
1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
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I try to avoid discomfort, but I don't go out of my way to make myself comfortable either.
2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
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I don't mind stiff clothing material, although I dislike tight clothing because it makes me feel suffocated. I don't really like to wear shoes, and I want my footwear to be as breathable as possible... flip-flops or sandals are ideal.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
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I prefer to sleep on a couch, actually. I feel anxious when my back is exposed, and I prefer to sleep at an odd angle with my head right in that corner between the cushion, armrest, and back of the couch. I need a pillow for my head and a sheet to keep the cold air off me, but that's it.
4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
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I worry more about getting a seat close to the exit or near the front so I can see/hear what's being said. I sit in the floor all the time while waiting in the hall, though. I'm sitting in the floor right now waiting for class to start, actually.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
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I prefer to walk on the least "dirty" surface available. Usually pavement seems like it's more predictable and consistent, while the grass is often hilly or requires me to watch out for anthills.

I don't specifically seek out softness or hardness.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
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Sometimes, although it really depends on whether I like the animal or not. I also avoid touching things that don't belong to me because I'm worried it would seem weird.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
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Well, it's a close second to price when buying furniture. I want it to be comfortable enough that I don't feel pain when using it for long periods of time.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
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I do like to lay in bed for a few minutes and daydream at random intervals throughout the day, if I have the opportunity.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
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I do like hugs, but I wouldn't feel too comfortable cuddling or snuggling another person. I will occasionally snuggle a pillow, however.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
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I would say that I avoid pain more than I than seek comfort.
11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
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No, I don't think they're connected. I'm an Intuitive, not a Sensor. I ignore my physical environment. I like people to avoid upsetting me when they tell me truth. I want to physically hurt people when they tell me to "suck it up," I can't stand hearing that. I avoid social/emotional conflict, and I dislike being criticized.
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Soft Fluffy Cozy Squishy Comfy Cushy Snuggly Fuzzy Furry Cuddly...
Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?
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It depends a lot on the person using them. I, of course, only use them when I find them useful. :)

I'm an ISTP, and here goes:
1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
It depends. I like to challenge myself, and in such situations, roughing it is completely OK. My other self is a lazy bum who might be very concerned about comfort, or might be too lazy to even notice the discomfort.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I'm usually a jeans-and-T-shirt person. A few months ago, I bought my first pair of sweat pants ever. On the other hand, I recently began sometimes wearing shirts to work (relatively comfy ones, with the top two or three buttons open, though), so I don't really know where I fall on this list.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
If you'd asked me ten years ago, I actually could sleep anywhere. I still can, but it usually gets back at me in the morning. My bed is extremely comfy, though. I'm not particularly a pillow person, but I really spent time finding the perfect mattress.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I usually don't care, but come to think of it, you'll often find me horizontal on a sofa, as long as there's not too many people around.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
After a winter, I enjoy sticking my feet into grass. Otherwise I don't think about it.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
Nope

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Practicality is what matters, but often, comfort is part of the practicality. If you spend hundreds of hours a year in a car, it's only logical to choose one that also is comfortable, if the economy allows for it.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
It's nice, but I'm too restless.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
I don't understand people to whom this isn't important.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
I live by the words of the wise George Carlin: "No pain, no... pain."
Unless I'm in a competitive mode.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
I usually don't go looking for conflict, but I prefer to hear things straight and from the source - actually, I find that minimizes conflict. I don't really see the point in consolation.
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Ahh, comfort is my middle name :).

First of course tell us your type: INFP

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

I crave comfort and aim to create it and enjoy it whereever I happen to be. In my house for example, I have a very comfy small couch in my living room and I love to have it covered with blankets and pillows to snuggle up with. I also have a very soft bed and comfortable, cozy rocking chairs. If my house wasn't as cluttered and cloistered as it already is, I would have more pillows around. I like nooks and crannies and filling up spaces with things so little spaces can be created in them for hiding in/losing oneself in. I am not so much into open-concept spaces. I like close-knit rooms with things I enjoy crowding in them so I can look at them all. When it comes to discomfort, I only put up with it if I must and generally it's quite a hassle for me to put up with! I hate not feeling comfortable.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

I generally wear soft, plain clothes and loosely-fitting jackets and sweaters over top T-shirts and long-sleeved shirts. I don't really like stiff, new clothes. I like when they've been worn into some and they stretch and get more comfortable and fitting to my skin in a way that feels natural. I like new jeans after I've broken into them after a few wears. I like a mix of tight fitting clothes and loose clothes - like the style of long baggier shirts over tights that many young women wear nowadays. I'm not really into skirts and dresses - they feel almost too exposed for me. I like the balance in between of loose and tight. I also like it if my shoes are soft and easy to put on - you won't find me wearing heals very often.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

My mattress alone is very comfortable and soft and I have piles of blankets on my bed - two large furry ones and one long knitted one, plus a fair few pillows and a stuffed animal or two. I love being cozied up in the blankets - even in the heat of summer. I can't ever sleep without a blanket covering me. I sometimes wish I was the kind of person who could sleep just about anywhere, but alas, I sleep the best when I am in my own bed.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

Yes! I definitely head straight for the softest-looking chair or spot on a couch and ensure I have a pillow to hug and hold too. My friend has this "famous" story where at a sleepover party I made a beeline for her soft sleeping bag-bed when she had gotten up to go somewhere, and I basically stole the bed from her instead of camping it out on a chair or on the floor. If I have to sit on the floor or on a hard chair, I will make sure to cushion it with something.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

I love walking on soft, dewy grass or on comfy foot mats or anything of the like. I dislike the smooth, hard, flat surfaces of pavements and tiles. They hurt my feet after awhile. I do wish my house had carpets sometimes instead of hardwood floors - but I've made do with random carpets I have.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

This is an absolute must for me, especially when it comes to petting animals! I love, love, love cats for one thing so I will always try to make a beeline towards petting one and/or holding one (so long as the cat is friendly and up to it of course) and I will tend to this with any other soft, furry animal as well. I am always absentmindedly stroking different textures of fabric on clothes or chairs or carpets. It's nice and calming to feel it on my hands and it takes my mind away to soothing places.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

Most definitely yes. Comfort will always be one of my main deciding factors as to whether I will buy something or not. With clothes for example, sometimes when shopping with friends they will point out a shirt or a skirt they think would look great on me. But after I've examined it and tried it on and feel it is not comfortable (too tight or stiff or too loose and exposed) even if the piece of clothing looks lovely, I won't choose to buy it. I can usually always find an alternative piece of clothing or just about anything that still looks nice and is comfortable too.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

I try to always curl up in cozy spots if I can. At cafes, you would find me in the comfiest couch in a lone, forgotten corner with pillows surrounding me. Same as at home on my couch or bed or at friends' houses in the same kinds of spots. Relaxing in a comfy spot with a good book/watching a movie, tea, and maybe a lovely little snack is something of a pure joy for me.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

I love cuddling and snuggling - to a point. This is where I may differ in the sense of other similar people who love comfy, cozy, snuggly spaces and things. I love being close to and hugging my closest female friend and my boyfriend when I get the chance and I could stay cuddling with them for ages sometimes. But at other times I feel the need for them to back off, give me some personal space. I am not a person who would hug just anyone or feel the urge to cuddle people all around. I have a big personal space bubble and unless I know a person really well or feel especially comfortable with them in a cuddly way, I will keep space between me and them.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

Being comfortable is what I live for ;).

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?

I prefer emotional comfort and "gentle criticism" greatly to hard truths, bluntness, or the "suck it up, buttercup" mentality. That kind of straightforwardness often feels insensitive to me, like the person being like that towards me isn't acknowledging or respecting my intentions, feelings, motives, thoughts, etc. I have struggled with trying to toughen up to criticism of this nature my entire life - it's gotten easier over time, but I still do what I can to avoid it or ignore it. I really despise confrontation and would really rather everyone just peaceably get along and disagree in assertive, calm, gentle manners and not aggressively. I like to be consoled and comforted and held and loved and acknowledged when I am down. I find that can be hard to come by sometimes though from others.
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
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I like comfort, I'm just really fucking bad at making it on my own but I tend to seek it in my environment to a degree. By comfort I mean good food, comfy and good-looking furniture etc. I like to indulge in pleasurable things and comfort is pleasurable. I don't get avoiding what's pleasurable for the sake of looking cool.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
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???????

I don't even get this question in a sense, so the answer is no.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
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No. I have one mattress I specifically chose because it's just as comfortable in the right way I wanted it to, and one pillow. More and I break my neck. I can't sleep anywhere. I need to lie down in order to sleep comfortably, and the surface can't be too soft or too hard or I get back pain.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
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Doesn't concern me. I sit when I need to sit.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
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I never really think about this.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
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Not really compelled to do.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
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Yes, because comfort is a part of the quality of a product. If I buy a piece of furniture it should also be comfortable because I am going to spend time using it, so it being ergonomic, comfortable, practical in other ways etc is important but so is style and look.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
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I don't really think of things like that.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
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No.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
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I don't live by no pain no gain, but I think it holds true in many scenarios.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
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No. I think a) the subject of this thread is very Si-heavy and b) emotional comfort has more to do with Fe vs Fi. Hence, the types most interested in doing what you describe here i.e. seeking both physical and emotional comfort would be socionics alphas or xNTPs and xSFJs. Indeed, based on personal observations I would say also that is true.

I rather be told the truth, not being coddled to death. I fucking can't stand being treated like a baby when I'm a grown-up adult. I can deal with reality; it's not something that needs to be hidden away from me.
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Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?

In my experience it seems like Ts have a slightly negative association with the word comfortable/comfort (and similar words) as though it has to do with being weak, wasteful, unecessary, unimportant, silly, leading to incompetence. There's sort of a stereotype of Ts having more austere or simply functional homes. On the other hand its my impression that Fs seem to have seeking a comfortable environment as a relatively high objective. There's sort of a stereotype of Fs having a thing for squishy couches, and lots of pillows, and fluffy cats. But I'm curious as to whether the reaction against comfort that I've personally seen from Ts is really related to type in the way it seems, or if perhaps there are Ts who crave comfort and Fs who brush it off as not important. I also wonder if this has anything to do with particular functions? From my own personal examples, my INTJ friend cringes at those words listed above, and yet has the squishyest bed in the entire world, while my ISTJ mom doesn't necessarily cringe at those words, but she often will neglect to take advantage of things that are quite convenient to make herself more comfortable and will instead 'rough it' when there's no reason to. So I'm interested in everyone's thoughts/experiences

First of course tell us your type:

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
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First of course tell us your type: INFJ

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
I don't think anyone should be uncomfortable if they don't have to be; I don't value being able to 'rough it'. I guess I just put up with it when I must. I'm not a complainer or anything.. I won't complain about being uncomfortable, but I'd rather feel comfy than not.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I don't really notice this. I don't mind staying in jeans, and I actually used to wear bras to bed. I guess I don't really mind how clothing feels. I did decide recently that I want to buy really comfortable sneakers, though, because that's something I don't have.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
My boyfriend and I picked out a pretty nice mattress that we both liked; no extra padding though. I only like to sleep with one pillow (and I don't even really need a pillow), but I must have a blanket over me. I don't need to have a lot of blankets; if only one keeps me warm and covered, I'm good. I can sleep almost anywhere, actually - as long as I'm not cold. But floors, weird couches, whatever - I can usually sleep just fine.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I don't think about or notice this.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
I don't think about this either.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
Yes, I do like this. I pet animals any chance I get, and I like to touch soft things.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Comfort is more of an afterthought, really.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
I like to relax and feel cozy. I've been taking more bubble baths lately because they're amazing and I love to cuddle.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
I love it.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
It's not really a priority, but I enjoy it when I get it. I don't care about that phrase.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
I'm not sure. My first thought was that there is probably a correlation between valuing physical comfort with another person and emotional comfort, but I have no idea about physical comfort in general. I prefer people who say things gently rather than bluntly, and I always prefer consoling words. And I dislike conflict a lot.
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Do these words make you feel slightly annoyed? Or slightly happy?
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Annoyed.

edit: I was in a bad mood when I typed the above, but now I guess I'd say it sounds cute? I want to feel being in a big cushy bed that I can just roll around in, now. Though it does sound childish lol.

In my experience it seems like Ts have a slightly negative association with the word comfortable/comfort (and similar words) as though it has to do with being weak, wasteful, unecessary, unimportant, silly, leading to incompetence. There's sort of a stereotype of Ts having more austere or simply functional homes. On the other hand its my impression that Fs seem to have seeking a comfortable environment as a relatively high objective. There's sort of a stereotype of Fs having a thing for squishy couches, and lots of pillows, and fluffy cats. But I'm curious as to whether the reaction against comfort that I've personally seen from Ts is really related to type in the way it seems, or if perhaps there are Ts who crave comfort and Fs who brush it off as not important. I also wonder if this has anything to do with particular functions? From my own personal examples, my INTJ friend cringes at those words listed above, and yet has the squishyest bed in the entire world, while my ISTJ mom doesn't necessarily cringe at those words, but she often will neglect to take advantage of things that are quite convenient to make herself more comfortable and will instead 'rough it' when there's no reason to. So I'm interested in everyone's thoughts/experiences
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Sorry but what lol. This seems more like an Si/Se difference -- Si seeking comfort and familiarity and removal of what it perceives as intrusive in the environment, and Se being naturally more oriented to seeking novelty and not minding absence of comfort as much, because it accepts the environment more wholesomely rather than distilling its experience into some sensory archetype or w/e.
My ISTJ mom, for example, is a very rational and reasonable person and doesn't spend money wastefully on anything she can do without. But when it comes to the few pleasures in life that she actually focuses on, she can be very pedantic. Like her cup of coffee has to be just so and had at exactly one time in the morning and one time in the night, exactly after finishing x, y and z work, while watching a show on TV. That's a little funny/cute, and it's clear she derives a great deal of comfort just from this simple physical experience, because it continuously fuels back into that idealistic experience she has internalized and seeks to draw from again and again.

For the record, T and F is not related to lesser or greater need for comfort. That implies there's a direct link between physical comfort and impersonal/personal valuation, which I find an odd sort of correlation to make.

Also, humans all like comfort to an extent; that's only natural.

First of course tell us your type:
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ESFP.

1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
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I'm very alert to physical sensation that I feel so no, I do not appreciate uncomfortable environments. I prefer luxury and extravagance, and I'm very particular about having the best experience there is.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
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I didn't think people added cushions inside their shoes unless their shoes were oddly fitting or something O_O Sounds so weird. I'd only do that if I had a particularly sore foot that time.
I don't really care about having soft fabrics on me all the time. If I do, great, that sure feels nice but if I don't, not my problem. I seek to look good and feel good, that's all.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
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No, my bed's pretty normal and I tend to make it double for a workstation too so books and pens are usually strewn about on the edge.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
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I want the coolest chair, yeah, but it's not about the "softness" as much as it's just about not having to settle for less. Why should I take a chair that's hard as compared to something that's comfy? Idk.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
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I never think about this, no.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
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I want to touch pets like dogs and cats because I love cute animals, I guess. Their fur is nice, yeah. I touch and poke soft things because I guess they're there to touch and poke and enjoy.

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
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It is one of the factors, yes.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
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I'm never in the mood for this unless I'm tired, or unless I want my partner around.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
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I love cuddling because it's just a nice feeling of togetherness and security. But I don't go out of my way to seek it even with other physical objects.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
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Crave and lust for comfort...? No, I don't relate to that at all. I love comfort, but in the sort of sense that I need to have luxury and beauty all around me, not in the sense that I need to experience that comfort specifically and physically, idk.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
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I really enjoy emotional comfort, but I don't think it's that related to physical comfort because while one could want them both simultaneously, it's not something that has to be true for everyone. But I'm not really fond of going even one step of the way to create comfortable situations for others and I'm often surprised when people do it for me too (even though I appreciate the gesture).
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A little annoyed.... ? I guess. Why? Hrm. I wish that weren't so.

I'll be answering this for two. Myself and my significant other:

Myself: INTP
SO: ENFP

1) "Roughing it"

INTP: I value 'roughing it'.
ENFP: The opposite of that - but does not flinch when it is necessary.

2) "Soft clothes"

INTP: Couldn't care less... arguably oriented to rough/stiff material. I'll spend leisure time in a suit, for example.
ENFP: Not strongly concerned with material, but leans comfy... and immediately goes 'pajama mode' when possible.

3) "Bed"

INTP: Meh. I don't like my back to hurt. I use a lot of pillows, but not because it's comfy soft, I actually like really hard firm pillows.
ENFP: Very persnickety about a comfortable bed. Always notes whether or not a bed was comfortable. I don't know if she prefers 'squishy' beds, just that they are comfortable.

4) "Softest chair"

INTP: Meh. If it has arm-rests, I am good. Comfort is nice but not the end of the world.
ENFP: Obsessed with comfortable chairs. She would bee-line.

5) "Comfortable surface/floor"

INTP: Nah.
ENFP: Very much so.

6) "Stroking soft things"

INTP: Compulsively? Not in the least.
ENFP: Er, nah.... she'll comment on how 'soft' something is, but not more than any relatively expressive person would.

7) "Comfort is factor in purchase"

INTP: Could easily be superceded.
ENFP: Not the single most important every time, but pretty important. I'd say she is practical in that regard.

8) "Curl up in a comfy spot"

INTP: Never something I think about.
ENFP: Very much so.

9) "Physical cuddly affection"

INTP: Sure, I'd say I tend to be this way with people... but with an inanimate object? No thanks.
ENFP: I don't really see her cuddling with objects, but she is very 'cuddly' with me... it's a proactive ideal for her.

10) "Lust for comfort"

INTP: Not a bit.
ENFP: Er, well, definitely more than me. More than average but not to any sort of extreme.

11) "Physical comfort and Emotional Comfort correlation - consoling vs straight talk"

INTP: I sometimes need/want consoling, but obviously don't like to be coddled. I am okay with constructive conflict, though I don't always see the need for it. I avoid conflict on the whole.
ENFP: Not good with criticism, really, and values tone.... in an impressionistic sense. I don't think she cares if it is 'gentle' or not, so long as it is ... er... as long as the person isn't being a jerk. In terms of content, I think she is more of the 'suck it up' type. Does not avoid conflict if there is principle involved.

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Hrm........................ Is this Si? I suddenly wonder if there is a discernible difference? I can see some gender factor, maybe a little Feeler factor.... and then a host of others as well.
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part?
Sometimes I really enjoy making things and experiences more rough because I like the adventure. Travelling WITHOUT the comfort of smartphones and internet, hiking and camping in general. I enjoy those times. Otherwise, when home, I want all the comfort that is there - warmth, fuzzy,squishy, fluffy, etc.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
I wear them often but not always. I have clothes for most occasions and that would fit my inner state. I don't enjoy to wear stiff stiff clothes however. If I had to prefer, hoodies and sneakers would win.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
I have 3 blankets - one is thin but feels good on the skin, second is really warm and third I just wrap myself around and use for a human simulator. Pillows - just one. But the bed needs to be soft, yes.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
I do. But I love sitting on the floor. So either the softest cushion or the floor.
5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
Yes, most definitely. I have sensitive feet.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
YES!

7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Comfort in things is quite important. Comfort in experiences doesn't matter to me much. I like adventure that comes with uncomfortable circumstances, environments or situations.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
50/50. It really depends. However my room has to be the definition of comfortable.

9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
With friends - no. With partners - YES! I'm a teddy bear.

10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
I like having a back up plan or a soft spot to land on, but I will take the jump. A nice balance is what I crave.

11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
Hmm, I love truth and honesty over anything else, but I would prefer it to be presented not in a rough way. But still - please, present it! ''Life is hard, suck it up'' is simply a stupid thing to say. That is neither advice nor comfort. It's just a blank, shallow statement. I wouldn't think twice about someone saying that to me. You can be rough, but constructive. That I would prefer. I might get emotional over it at first, but so what? I will ''hmm'', suck it up, and then actually take the content in consideration.
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1) Do you place a lot of value on the ability to 'rough it' or do you crave comfort and strive to create/enjoy it whenever possible? Do you put up with discomfort only when you must? Or do you tend to ignore discomfort for the most part? I don't like roughing it but on the other end of the spectrum I don't like being swallowed by cushion. In the end, support is more important than comfort, because I can tune slight discomfort out but not that annoying feeling like you're sinking into whatever you're sitting in.

2) Do you usually wear soft, flexible/stretchy fabrics and cozy feeling clothing, like hoodies? do you perhaps always add extra cushions inside your shoes? Can you not abide stiff clothing, like new jeans or suit-jackets? Or is this not something that you particularly notice/care about?
When I wear clothes, they transform me in a way. If I'm getting a feeling of stiffness from the clothes, I'll adopt it, if I'm getting a feeling of comfort, I'll adopt it. I don't like having shoes on, so they come off...unless I'm already feeling stiff. So work mode: I like stiffness to support my frame of mind, relaxation: I like comfort to support my frame of mind.

3) Does your bed have an extra mattress pad? and possibly a large number of pillows/blankets? and do you find it hard to sleep without these? Or do you tend to find overly squishy beds a bit annoying or less comfortable? Or does it not really matter, you can sleep anywhere?
No, but it does have a huge, shorter-fibered shag blanket over the sheet. Good balance between comfort and rigidness, I think. I require two pillows, sleeping with one is difficult. Yes, water beds, overly cushiony beds are annoying because they are hard to get around on.

4) Upon entering a room, do you tend to make a bee-line for the chair with the softest looking cushion, especially if there's a chance you might get stuck on a plain wooden one or the floor? Or does it not even occur to you to be concerned about getting the softest chair?
If it was only soft and not loose, then I would select it, but I wouldn't be a dick and stop someone else from grabbing it. Overall, I sit where I sit, it doesn't matter.

5) Do you gravitate to walking on the softest surface available (like grass instead of pavement) or particularly enjoying squishy floor mats? Or would you never really think about this?
I hate squishy shit. I think if I had a choice I would just walk around with no shoes in the grass(assuming it hadn't rained and turned it into mud). But I don't think about it, except sometimes I wonder why I'm staying on a sidewalk when I could just skip over it.

6) Do you find yourself compulsively stroking soft things, like velvet upholstery? or do you always want to take advantage of the chance to pet animals? Or is that not really something you'd be particularly compelled to do?
I'm not opposed to feeling inanimate objects up. I am compelled to interact with friendly dogs. Usually the owner is just trying to pull it away from everyone though, :p
7) Is how comfortable something is one of the top deciding factors in choosing/buying it? is it the factor that almost always trumps the rest or tips the balance? Or is comfort more often a nice bonus or after thought?
Here, we really have to define what comfort is. For something to be comfortable to me, it cannot swallow you. If a thing strikes a really good balance between supporting and comfort when needed, that is the object I would be drawn to buy. It's not in the back of my head, although I may buy a stiff wooden chair and be fine with it where others would not, but I hate metal chairs because they are much less forgiving.

8) Is curling up and relaxing in a cozy, comfy spot something you really love to do as often as you can? Or is it nice sometimes, but not something you're always in the mood for?
Heh, I'm one of the people who likes to put their legs up on the desk. I read a lot of shit on the computer, so yeah, you could say that's my comfort zone.
9) Do you really enjoy just hugging and cuddling and snuggling with someone you care about (or if you don't have someone who will do this, perhaps some pillows or fleece blankets will do) any and every time you get a chance? Or is cuddling and simple affection not particularly important to you, or even perhaps boring or annoying or uncomfortable?
Simple affection is ecstasy, tbh.
10) Do you crave, or you might even say lust for, being comfortable? Or is it only nice sometimes but certainly not a priority? Do you live by the phrase 'no pain no gain'?
There is certainly a reward to going out, being uncomfortable, and then coming back to a comfort zone. A hard day of work is very satisfying to me. I have a lot of perfectionism that causes indecision and decadence though.
11) And finally, do you think there is any correlation between valuing physical comfort and valuing emotional comfort? Do you like people to tell you the hard truths straight, or say things 'gently'? Do you like consoling words or would you rather be told to something like 'life is hard, suck it up.'? Do you avoid social/emotional conflict or discomfort as much as possible? Or do you not mind butting heads or taking criticism etc.?
Things said neutrally with a helpful spirit can never go wrong with me(unless what was said was really stupid). This is how I treat other people in my daily life, and they often don't understand that my lack of a consistent persona doesn't equal hostility or inferiority. I often dissent, but I do it in order to make things better, that infuriates people, and they in turn infuriate me.

I think there is definitely a correlation between the two. Exceptions will be there, but how "hard" you are applies in multiple settings.
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