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I know I can't be the only ENFP (or xNFP) that has had (or is having) a hard time with the balanced introvert/extrovert thing. I know @viva has had trouble with this. I am serious when I say I break tests. XD I always seem to get 50/50 on introvert versus extrovert. Without trying. One recent test literally told me I was xNFP. When it comes to cognitive functions, Fi and Ne are equal. It depends on what mood I'm in which comes out over the other.

The thing that ties me to ENFP is just the feeling that I reach outwards. Yet so often I just feel like my Fi and Ne are tangled together in a big jumbled mess, and I can never tell which one comes out on top. You see, I like to think of functions as "filters". Ne+Fi are like two lenses - Ne is blue, Fi is red. One goes in front of the other. With me, I feel like one doesn't go in front of the other. I feel like I have a "two-in-one" combo. I just have one purple lens. o_O

At least that's what it feels like. Still, I just think I've got to be an extrovert... somehow. Gut instinct? x3

Anybody else out there have this dilemma?
 

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That's interesting, I tend to experience both functions in extremely seperate situations, using Ne in social situations without really feeling emotional although I try my best to be as animated and entertaining as possible, and then with entirely seperate periods of Fi in which I am completey introvert and don't try to extravert at all.

I too am having an I/E dilemma, but it seems we experience both functions differently, they seem to be quite disconnected for me.
 

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Me too; me too!

I lean ever-so-slightly more toward extroversion than introversion, but I'm pretty near the middle. And my Ne/Fi are neck-and-neck as well.

I've gone back and forth about it, but at the end of the day I identify much more with a quiet extroversion than an exuberant introversion. It just fits better.
 

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I'm the same way. 50% E/50% I, and I think Ne and Fi developed at the same time in me -- purple lens for sure. There's plenty of us. @cue5c and @Rim, among others.
 

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Looking at your tertiary and inferior functions may help.
If you are ENFP your Te is more prominent than your Si.
The problem being those are pretty equal too. >.<
 

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I think you are ENFP, at any rate.

Don't worry 'bout Fi. However, introverted perceiving should not be something you identify with readily. If you found yourself wavering from the extroverted way you perceive things, then yes, you might have to think about if you are actually an ENFP. However, your confusion probably stems from "??? I seem to do this introvertedly?" Fi. I've noticed that the more I searched myself the more "extroversion" I found was actually secretly introverted sensing. It's hard at times, cause' the dominant likes to squeeze itself in tricky little ways.

And there's also little moments of the inferior. It's easier to notice though because you tend to find them out of the ordinary.
 

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When you're faced with a new situation do you instinctively:

a) try to discern how it makes you feel or how it compares to your inner values?
b) explore it's possibilities and how it relates to the world around you and make connections between it and other things?

If you answered A you might be slightly more INFP, if you answered B you might be slightly more ENFP. Fi and Ne are quite different as the dominant function.

It took me forever to figure out if I was an ENFP or ENTP (more difficult because both lead with Ne) and also if I was an introvert or extrovert as I test nearly 50/50 on I/E and on F/T.
 

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I look at it this way:

Ne is a big net that you take out and toss into the ocean, dragging in all kinds of odds and ends. You may get it into an awesome treasure trove of common interests, anecdotes, and bits of interesting information, but no matter how awesome, the net can only hold so much. That's when you pick it up and carry it back to the quiet room that is Fi and start sorting through all the trinkets to see what's valuable and what shinies are just tin cans and old wrappers.

Needing downtime just means your net is full. :)
 

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@Enfpleasantly - I think I can, but I'm not entirely sure. ^^' I have trouble recognizing when I'm in the grip of the inferior function. I just know that I am feeling off and I will take a walk or cook or something. o_O And self-reflect a lot.

@Moxie - Lol, the problem being I really can't tell which one I do first, exactly.

@Alysaria - Hmmm... but don't you ever feel like as soon as something floats into the net you've got to process it? I don't feel like I really "wait" for the net to get full.

@Owfin - How would Ne disguise itself as Fi? Is it just so obviously there that I don't see it as easily as Fi? XD That would make sense, actually. I'm having trouble seeing my tertiary and inferior functions and how I use them (well, when I do). I have a hard time recognizing them. I'm more familiar with Si, as many of my family members use it, I don't know what to think about Te and where I can see myself using it.
 

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@Enfpleasantly - I think I can, but I'm not entirely sure. ^^' I have trouble recognizing when I'm in the grip of the inferior function. I just know that I am feeling off and I will take a walk or cook or something. o_O And self-reflect a lot.

@Moxie - Lol, the problem being I really can't tell which one I do first, exactly.

@Alysaria - Hmmm... but don't you ever feel like as soon as something floats into the net you've got to process it? I don't feel like I really "wait" for the net to get full.

@Owfin - How would Ne disguise itself as Fi? Is it just so obviously there that I don't see it as easily as Fi? XD That would make sense, actually. I'm having trouble seeing my tertiary and inferior functions and how I use them (well, when I do). I have a hard time recognizing them. I'm more familiar with Si, as many of my family members use it, I don't know what to think about Te and where I can see myself using it.
That article is really long and a bit overwhelming at first, but it describes what an ENFP does at different stages of Si; Also triggers and how it can appear in different areas, like work, social life, home life, etc.
 

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I know I can't be the only ENFP (or xNFP) that has had (or is having) a hard time with the balanced introvert/extrovert thing. I know @viva has had trouble with this. I am serious when I say I break tests. XD I always seem to get 50/50 on introvert versus extrovert. Without trying. One recent test literally told me I was xNFP. When it comes to cognitive functions, Fi and Ne are equal. It depends on what mood I'm in which comes out over the other.

The thing that ties me to ENFP is just the feeling that I reach outwards. Yet so often I just feel like my Fi and Ne are tangled together in a big jumbled mess, and I can never tell which one comes out on top. You see, I like to think of functions as "filters". Ne+Fi are like two lenses - Ne is blue, Fi is red. One goes in front of the other. With me, I feel like one doesn't go in front of the other. I feel like I have a "two-in-one" combo. I just have one purple lens. o_O

At least that's what it feels like. Still, I just think I've got to be an extrovert... somehow. Gut instinct? x3

Anybody else out there have this dilemma?

Why do you care? That should give you the answer.
 

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@Julia Bell Absolutely! It depends on a lot of different factors - my energy level and interest in the topic and/or person talking are big ones....but even just the general atmosphere, how much or little I feel like I'm contributing or being paid attention to (I wouldn't say I'm an attention whore, but not getting acknowledged at all sucks the fun out of an event), and my physical comfort (crappy chair, uncomfortable shoes, too hot, too cold, thirsty, hungry, etc...). I usually find that an interesting person with an interesting topic can keep my Ne engaged for hours without my realizing that any time has passed at all - likewise, if I latch onto a topic that interests me that the other person is interested in as well I can talk for hours. :p But there are definitely situations where Fi needs to immediately assess a concept.

I'll use a big example here: death. It's a concept with a lot of different facets to it that tend to be explored in intent detail when the subject comes up. Because generally the subject only comes up when someone has died recently.... The more information about the deceased, the more Fi has to make sense of and process. The potential of a life is a lot to get caught in Ne.
 
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Why do you care? That should give you the answer.
Why do I care? For one, I wonder if other people feel the same way, or have felt the same way. I'm also not 100% sure which is why I'm asking. ^^
 

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I know I can't be the only ENFP (or xNFP) that has had (or is having) a hard time with the balanced introvert/extrovert thing. I know @viva has had trouble with this. I am serious when I say I break tests. XD I always seem to get 50/50 on introvert versus extrovert. Without trying. One recent test literally told me I was xNFP. When it comes to cognitive functions, Fi and Ne are equal. It depends on what mood I'm in which comes out over the other.

The thing that ties me to ENFP is just the feeling that I reach outwards. Yet so often I just feel like my Fi and Ne are tangled together in a big jumbled mess, and I can never tell which one comes out on top. You see, I like to think of functions as "filters". Ne+Fi are like two lenses - Ne is blue, Fi is red. One goes in front of the other. With me, I feel like one doesn't go in front of the other. I feel like I have a "two-in-one" combo. I just have one purple lens. o_O

At least that's what it feels like. Still, I just think I've got to be an extrovert... somehow. Gut instinct? x3

Anybody else out there have this dilemma?
I have exactly this dilemma, except I lean more towards INFP but I although I don't do much socialising (not by choice :( ) I seem to enjoy it a hell of a lot more than a lot of INFPs do. My dual nature is complicated by my enneagram 4w3 type, it creates even more of a feeling of being two different things that don't always see eye to eye. I also have weirdly good Fe for an INFP which makes me a bit of a function switcher, people with high Ne make my Ne higher too while I'm around them. Really, I'm just a personality slut ;D
 

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Im the most introverted extrovert I know. I could totally use a vacation on a deserted island right about now but instead I am in charge of the 5th grade portion of the school carnival tonight. YAY ME! So, I accepted to be in charge when I was in some moment of great extrovertedness but I have SO MANY THINGS going on right now I just need to bring my net in and search through my trinkets. Ya know?

Give me a month on a deserted island and I will come back ready to tackle the world.

I understand what you are saying.
 

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So Julia I'm thinking that you probably have an SP/SX variant thing. If you really analyze it, most ENFP's that are SP/SX or SX/SP are usually the ones that are the most introverted.
 

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@Julia Bell

So Julia I'm thinking that you probably have an SP/SX variant thing. If you really analyze it, most ENFP's that are SP/SX or SX/SP are usually the ones that are the most introverted.
Conversely, as I've got the same problem but from an INFP home, I think I have an SX lead.
 
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