So, I got into a dispute with my ISTP "friend".
It was over something so simple as a meaning of words. It was simple but profoundly affecting.
He called me his "BFF" (Best Friend Forever)
Yes, this is silly, but I really was honored by this silly title, and I took him seriously when he said it. Once he said it though he started back peddling furiously. I felt him distancing over this last week, and when I asked him about what it meant to him to be BFF's he played off like, it was a joke, he didn't mean it, and I made it into something more than what it was. (even though last week he said I was the best friend he has had in 7 years) *shaking head in confusion*
Now I am left feeling embarrassed, and unsure that any of the other moments of verbal intimacy we had were real. I built a reality of our dynamic on words he used, and what that meant to me. Now I am unsure about our friendship, and in some ways, others. This situation really startled me. I did not know how literally I take spoken language. Language that I make an effort to develop, and ground in a well used Dictionary or Thesaurus.
Dictionaries and Thesauruses are...awesome. *smile*
Does anyone else that is ENFJ take language as seriously as I do? Do we apply more meaning to ones labels and words than we should?
It was over something so simple as a meaning of words. It was simple but profoundly affecting.
He called me his "BFF" (Best Friend Forever)
Yes, this is silly, but I really was honored by this silly title, and I took him seriously when he said it. Once he said it though he started back peddling furiously. I felt him distancing over this last week, and when I asked him about what it meant to him to be BFF's he played off like, it was a joke, he didn't mean it, and I made it into something more than what it was. (even though last week he said I was the best friend he has had in 7 years) *shaking head in confusion*
Now I am left feeling embarrassed, and unsure that any of the other moments of verbal intimacy we had were real. I built a reality of our dynamic on words he used, and what that meant to me. Now I am unsure about our friendship, and in some ways, others. This situation really startled me. I did not know how literally I take spoken language. Language that I make an effort to develop, and ground in a well used Dictionary or Thesaurus.
Dictionaries and Thesauruses are...awesome. *smile*
Does anyone else that is ENFJ take language as seriously as I do? Do we apply more meaning to ones labels and words than we should?