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Here's the situation:
We live almost a thousand miles apart and want to live together as soon as possible. The original plan was for him to finish a semester early and move to my city. But he would need to find a job to last 8 months until he starts grad school next fall. Then we both move to wherever he gets accepted.
Now things are changing up a bit.
My boyfriend:
I:
If he moves to me, he'd be giving up awesome roommates and affordable rent, but he would possibly get a job where I work (which is in his field).
If I move to him, I gain awesome roommates and don't have to pay rent, but I probably won't find a job, in addition to giving up my hard-to-get job. And I need a job to pay my bills.
Another possibility we don't want to face is that we can continue doing long-distance right up until he starts grad school, which is something we both don't want to do.
Help. :sad:
We live almost a thousand miles apart and want to live together as soon as possible. The original plan was for him to finish a semester early and move to my city. But he would need to find a job to last 8 months until he starts grad school next fall. Then we both move to wherever he gets accepted.
Now things are changing up a bit.
My boyfriend:
- lives in a very affordable area where he is paying less than $300 a month for rent
- his roommates are welcoming and awesome
- there are also few jobs where he lives because it's so insulated
- can get around without a car
I:
- live with my parents so I'm rent-free, but if I move out...then I would need to get a 2nd job because I have lots of student loans to pay until I can start taking classes again
- live in a place where rent is in the $1000/mo range
- live in a a place where people are not that nice, mainly because it's so urban
- need a car to get anywhere
- there probably won't be roommates, unless they are strangers
- live in a place that has lots of jobs
- have a job at a world-renowned institution
If he moves to me, he'd be giving up awesome roommates and affordable rent, but he would possibly get a job where I work (which is in his field).
If I move to him, I gain awesome roommates and don't have to pay rent, but I probably won't find a job, in addition to giving up my hard-to-get job. And I need a job to pay my bills.
Another possibility we don't want to face is that we can continue doing long-distance right up until he starts grad school, which is something we both don't want to do.
Help. :sad: