I find guys attractive because they are more different from me as well -- more logical, more adventurous, more outgoing, jokes more, more spontaneous, etc. etc. etc. But I am guilty in making them want to see things with a more open mind too.God No. The reason I find a girl attractive is because she's different from me. She should put up a fight to be herself. The only time I was guilty of this in any fashion was with my last ex. She was an ISFJ, with a high S. The only thing I wished was that she would try to see things in the bigger picture so that way I didn't have to explain every little detail and thought whenever we would talk.
That's how I learned too. My girlfriend was opening a soda can with a spoon because she bites her nails. I was laughing at her and she looked at me like "This is how I have to open it though?" and started tearing up. I was like, oops...I'm sure I used to do this, but after an incident where I almost made a girl cry, I realized that if I try to make them into someone else, then that's not who I would be with most of the time and that every idiosyncrasy that they carry makes them unique and that's how I think it should be.
See, I've never commented or cared on little stuff like that. I have had my ex's do that to me though.That's how I learned too. My girlfriend was opening a soda can with a spoon because she bites her nails. I was laughing at her and she looked at me like "This is how I have to open it though?" and started tearing up. I was like, oops...
Well of course the story conveniently ends on a happy note. No one knows what really happened the next 20 years, but those who are married can easily imagine haha! :tongue:It's worth noting that the idea of Pygmalion as a cautionary tale against trying to change others is a recent literary development. Originally the story was a morality tale. The Cyriot sculptor carved Galatea from ivory because all the women in his area were immoral and were living a bad lifestyle. He wanted a virtuous partner so he created this sculpture. Venus had mercy on Pygmalion and turned Galatea into a real woman for him. Happy ending for him I guess.
Their daughter became a goddess. I can tell you what happens when a man lives in a house full of goddesses. LOLWell of course the story conveniently ends on a happy note. No one knows what really happened the next 20 years, but those who are married can easily imagine haha! :tongue:
I think I know someone like this, too.... do you know what type this friend is by any chance?If I see a missed call from a friend, I'll call them back. But one of my friends, if she sees only 1 missed call from you, she won't call back and she'll be pissed off at you, she expects you to keep trying to call her serveral times to show how you really do want to talk to her.
I think she is ESFP. She has been hard for me to type. She did the test once, but didn't like it because she's indecisive, and she got ENFP, she has a lot of N preferences, but I think we would relate a bit more if she was N (and I know other ENFPs). I know another ESFP male from work, and he seems more laid-back than her, I can't imagine him getting pissed off that easily. But she's also pretty laid-back at times.Fillet - I have a question for you.
I think I know someone like this, too.... do you know what type this friend is by any chance?
This is an interesting topic -- personally, I dislike it when someone calls me consecutively: 1030, 1031, 1032, unless it is something very urgent. My preferred form of communication is calling once, leaving a voice message or text message, and getting back to missed calls when I have free time. There's something that really annoys and irks me about someone that calls me consecutively. I find it annoying, selfish and pointless, really. I mean if I were in the restroom.... or in class.... or in a meeting... I obviously won't answer a minute later... I'm not going to put my life on hold for your call... This doesn't apply to emergencies or urgent situations, but yeah, I just get frustrated by this. I knew someone who would call me consecutively (like 5:45,5:46,5:47,5:47, 5:47) when I was at a dinner-meeting. And then when I got a chance to get back at them via text message/email, they were pissed off and gave me the cold shoulder.
Sorry, my little OT vent.