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background:
i live in india. as you may be aware, the last time around (2004) that there was such a massive earthquake in indonesia, the southern part of the country was slammed by a tsunami. having seen the appalling destruction, and the sheer inexplicable randomness of such a scale of disaster, this time's tsunami warning had me sitting tensely and monitoring all the news sites for updates.
events:
as soon as we got to know the news, these were the reactions:
me (Fi): called family and very close friends to check if they were ok. then went away to be by myself, sat and remembered how many people died last time and how many survivors' lives were wrecked and hoped frantically that we wouldnt have to experience that again. pulled out all the relief work contact numbers and prepared to fly to the south to volunteer should the worst happen. i think i also wept a bit because i was feeling very upset and helpless.
2 INFJ colleagues: i asked them if they had family in any of the areas where the tremors had been felt and if they were all ok. they said no family and carried on talking. one cracked a 'joke' about the possible tsunami saying 'finally...some excitement!'
an INTP friend outside work: said yes, she'd heard about the earthquakes, said probably family was fine, we just couldnt get through because all the lines were jammed, and then carried on to class.
now days later i'm looking back at our reactions and i'm pretty surprised. i thought Fi was reputedly callous about people, while Fe was reputedly all about the community.
my new theory: Fe only cares about people it can put a face to. it doesn't care about the community as a whole, really.
Fi cares much more for the community as a whole, and doesn't discriminate as much in bias of people it can put a face to.
would you agree?
i live in india. as you may be aware, the last time around (2004) that there was such a massive earthquake in indonesia, the southern part of the country was slammed by a tsunami. having seen the appalling destruction, and the sheer inexplicable randomness of such a scale of disaster, this time's tsunami warning had me sitting tensely and monitoring all the news sites for updates.
events:
as soon as we got to know the news, these were the reactions:
me (Fi): called family and very close friends to check if they were ok. then went away to be by myself, sat and remembered how many people died last time and how many survivors' lives were wrecked and hoped frantically that we wouldnt have to experience that again. pulled out all the relief work contact numbers and prepared to fly to the south to volunteer should the worst happen. i think i also wept a bit because i was feeling very upset and helpless.
2 INFJ colleagues: i asked them if they had family in any of the areas where the tremors had been felt and if they were all ok. they said no family and carried on talking. one cracked a 'joke' about the possible tsunami saying 'finally...some excitement!'
an INTP friend outside work: said yes, she'd heard about the earthquakes, said probably family was fine, we just couldnt get through because all the lines were jammed, and then carried on to class.
now days later i'm looking back at our reactions and i'm pretty surprised. i thought Fi was reputedly callous about people, while Fe was reputedly all about the community.
my new theory: Fe only cares about people it can put a face to. it doesn't care about the community as a whole, really.
Fi cares much more for the community as a whole, and doesn't discriminate as much in bias of people it can put a face to.
would you agree?