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yes, I know, I still believe there is a lot of Sensor-Intuition clash/conflict which has a tendency to oppress either group, from either end. However, there are times where some of that conflict leads to growth and betterment, and times when a certain level of 'clashing' is necessary for change and productivity.

For example, I remember I had this 7th grade teacher. I was really unmotivated in 7th grade subjects and I would never give in my homework. So my teachers, all these people around me were like 'oh well he's just some unmotivated moody teenager'. this guy, I think he was some sort of ESTP, does not give up on me, he keeps putting forth more and more resources, and i remember i could just feed on his energy. He was just as the descriptions say a 'smooth talker'. Something about him even reminds me of Jack Nicholson's character from One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest (Or just Jack Nicholson in general lol). I haven't seen him in years, but he's one of the reasons i didnt get too involved with the wrong sorts of people and got my head into school and got through all that stuff onto university. he didn't look at all the unnecessary notions about learning and got straight into the harsh truths and that 'tough love', and if people were to 'pep talk' me when i was in 7th grade, i would definitely have just thrown them aside ('Cause who cares? whatever!'). So his approach to my situation was exactly what I needed at the time.

i still remember the type of things he taught me, and the lessons he passed down about work ethic and perseverance.

I am actually a better person because of him, and I'm certain from his behaviors, thoughts, etc , that he was a Sensor.

Have you had any similiar personal experiences with friends, family or acquaintances, who were also Sensors? Has a Sensor or suspected Sensor ever helped you in any aspect of your life which made a lasting impression on you?
 

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An ISFJ ex stays in my life because he's the nostalgic kind. It's nice to have an ex BF to be supportive and caring.

I am a member of a choir. There are about 20 to 30 regulars. Sensors/Intuits ratio is about 70/30. Every rehearsal and dinner become fun events mostly thanks to several Se-dominant types. Their ability to be in the moment and make it LOL is unmatched. I often watch them in action with awe.
 

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This is worse than the "#blacklivesmatter" movement for fuck's sake.
 
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Yes my best friend is ISFP and she's helped me so much. None of this is deliberate hyperbole, I've talked about her so much on this forum because of how much knowing her so well helped me. I tend to take everything so seriously, especially personal stuff, and being around her, who takes herself so lightly, was like a miracle that made me grow so much as a person. She has such an innocent view towards society in general, that I really needed to learn. I can be so cynical about people and so easily hurt...

Also getting to know her so well made me feel so much more comfortable around people in general..... I'd always had this notion of "people like me" and "people not like me" in my mind-- which I didn't know until recently correlated with Intuitives vs Sensors-- and I always felt so uncomfortable around most people (i.e. Sensors-- people not like me), because I didn't know how to talk to them, and I (falsely) thought they all hated me and thought I was weird. But now I'm comfortable talking to almost anybody, because I learned that Sensors and Intuitives are really not as different as I thought, and that I'm capable of building real relationships with either....
 

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This is worse than the "#blacklivesmatter" movement for fuck's sake.
this is totally irrelevant. but are you saying that movement was a bad thing? I'm not sure because I'm not American and adding to that, the US is not the centre of the universe so we only get half the story in other countries
 

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Have you had any similiar personal experiences with friends, family or acquaintances, who were also Sensors? Has a Sensor or suspected Sensor ever helped you in any aspect of your life which made a lasting impression on you?
I've been dating an ISTP for two years now. His worldview is exremely different from mine which causes conflicts time to time, but these differences are nothing in comparison to the advantages of this relationships, expecially for me. I admire how he's in touch with the real world. I'm too impractical and head in clouds, he's the opposite. It's just so great for an impractical, theoretical, introverted iNtuitive like me to have someone who can pretty well deal with the real world issues which I am very often just too afraid of. As an entrepreneur he's learned to be more extroverted up to being an ESTP who can arrange everything, talk to people, earn money, take action, hande with the I cant or don't want to. It might sound utilitarian and that it is. It's just advantageous for me to live with a Sensor like this.
 

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The thing that strikes me most is I don't get when or why N became the "preferred" preference. Why is constantly being wrapped up in your head seen as better again? Ns are a special kind of stupid, honestly. I didn't notice a "new" sign in my workplace for a year. I constantly miss things, like the message ON the time clock. And I fail at enjoying things in the moment. Why does there even need to be a Sensor appreciation thread? Seems like being observant, realistic, and adaptable are kind of great in the first place.
 

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The thing that strikes me most is I don't get when or why N became the "preferred" preference. Why is constantly being wrapped up in your head seen as better again? Ns are a special kind of stupid, honestly. I didn't notice a "new" sign in my workplace for a year. I constantly miss things, like the message ON the time clock. And I fail at enjoying things in the moment. Why does there even need to be a Sensor appreciation thread? Seems like being observant, realistic, and adaptable are kind of great in the first place.
agreed. iNtuitives can be lost in their heads, and i know, i can generally get carried away with trivial details, much like many other intuitives i know. Sensors are typically better in handling these problems I've also noticed.
 

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this is totally irrelevant. but are you saying that movement was a bad thing? I'm not sure because I'm not American and adding to that, the US is not the centre of the universe so we only get half the story in other countries
americans dont even get the whole story
i which is why we freak out when we hear stuff like the iran nuclear deal and stuff cause were like
wereeeeeee aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllllll goooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnaaa diiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
 

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@O_o i like youre username
anyways i dont think sensors are bad people ive never met one (that i actually know without trying to type them) but if i did it would probably be great
 

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@O_o i like youre username
anyways i dont think sensors are bad people ive never met one (that i actually know without trying to type them) but if i did it would probably be great
 

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@o_O i like youre username
anyways i dont think sensors are bad people ive never met one (that i actually know without trying to type them) but if i did it would probably be great
*logs on and sees two notifications : two new mentions*
My insides shake. My soul shakes : what horror could this possibly be? What nerve wrecking topic am I possibly being called over to? What attack have I just received? TWO MENTIONS! Is this about to ruin my night? My week? Life?

"I like your username" : THANK YOU! How nice :) I picked it because it's silent
 

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Sensors are great! They keep me grounded when my Ne takes off too far. My ESFJ best friend is honestly the best person that I have ever met, and I think the sensor-intuitive relationship works very well (although so many people say that it doesn't).

Personality types do not define intelligence. There are many, many sensors who are much smarter than intuitives, and vice versa. I personally just love sensors and think it's unfair that everyone kind of disregards them.
 

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*logs on and sees two notifications : two new mentions*
My insides shake. My soul shakes : what horror could this possibly be? What nerve wrecking topic am I possibly being called over to? What attack have I just received? TWO MENTIONS! Is this about to ruin my night? My week? Life?

"I like your username" : THANK YOU! How nice :) I picked it because it's silent
we think the Same way!!!!!
whenever i see a notification i think Oh god what havent i done this time

and then i think oh no i said something stupid again

and then its a notification like "i know i was just thinking that" and im like

whew i dodged a bullet
 

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we think the Same way!!!!!
whenever i see a notification i think Oh god what havent i done this time

and then i think oh no i said something stupid again

and then its a notification like "i know i was just thinking that" and im like

whew i dodged a bullet
Exactly. It's just a matter of time. I know that somewhere, someone will be offended by some post of mine or find it incredibly stupid, it's only a matter of time before they let me know and reply with an essay lol.
 

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*logs on and sees two notifications : two new mentions*
My insides shake. My soul shakes : what horror could this possibly be? What nerve wrecking topic am I possibly being called over to? What attack have I just received? TWO MENTIONS! Is this about to ruin my night? My week? Life?
Bahahaha, this is what I'm like every time I get a notification that isn't a thank. Every time.
 

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I think the sensor-intuitive relationship works very well (although so many people say that it doesn't).
I think so as well.

I wasn't able to be around many peers when I was young because I had a medical condition that made me really susceptible to infection, so I mostly hung around with my ESFJ mom. She played with me and taught me, and I went on errands with her. To this day we still get along like two peas in a pod. She grounds me and I am supportive of her. I think it works great for both of us! She's incredible at handling difficult interpersonal situations smoothly and I think she has a perfect 4-D mental map of our city in her head, because she always can tell you the fastest way to get somewhere, including accounting for traffic patterns during the specific day and time. She plans and executes basically every family group effort. And she's just really pleasant to be around.

I'm in a long-term relationship with an ISFJ, and the dynamic is similar. We're both a little private and nerdy but opposite in many other ways. It was a little challenging sometimes in the beginning to communicate fluidly, but I think that was mainly Fe/Fi clash. Regardless, the relationship balances very nicely, and it's so easy to get along with him in general. I feel like we both have something unique to bring to the relationship and we both gain from the other's perspective. He brings so much interesting knowledge into my life.

My ISTP brother and I clash sometimes, but that's kind of the nature of sibling relationships, too. He's a breath of fresh air to me because he does things so differently than I do. I like it. He's fun to hang out with - laid-back, realistic, logical, observant. Good at all the things I'm not, but with the same IxxP attitude. He spends a fair amount of his downtime reading about pharmacochemistry and sports car specs. He has a confident, relaxed demeanor that I aspire to.

And then my brother's best friend is an ESFP - he's like my second little brother, since they've been friends for so long. Where he really excels is talking with people. That kid can get anything out of anyone. He's also just fun. There's never a dull moment with him - and then he always surprises me with the depth and insight of his political opinions and observations on human behavior.

So... yeah. I don't really get how anyone can spend time interacting with Ss IRL and still have negative opinions on all of them. I feel like negative S descriptions probably originate from Ns who have a chip on their shoulder and are looking for someone to blame it on.
 

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Thank you, my ESTP friend, for teaching my lazy ass how to change a tire and for all the parties we went to.
Thank you, my ESFJ friend, for being there for me in the times I needed you.
Thank you, my ISFP best friend, for being the shit.
 
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