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@birdsintrees glad to hear it. Also, social media is a giant time suck and while I'll probably never ditch it (run it at work and at my volunteer gig, plus I belong to several office-type and roller-skating-type groups), I've cut way back on my personal involvement in the three-ring-circus. I have enough issues of my own to deal with; I don't want to get sucked into someone else's or get caught in the crossfire of the constant political stuff. Nevermind the "look what I'm having for dinner for the 246768th time" stuff. Literally, I don't care what you eat.
Anyway, I'm still waiting for my permanent plate to come in the mail; in the meantime I still have the paper plate in my back window. It runs out on the 16th though, so they better hurry it up. My front vanity plate came yesterday. It says, "I don't get mad, I get even". Haha.
My Super asked me how the early schedule modification was going. It's going fine, and the Dean approves, so we're going to fill out the paperwork with HR to make it permanent. Getting up at 545a sucks, but getting off work half an hour before everyone else and beating the mass exodus is great.
 

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ISTPs are stereotypically brave to the point of stupidity, but there ARE things that give them pause.

Me (to ISTP landlord): Will you cut my hair? I can do it myself but have trouble getting it straight in the back so I thought I'd ask if you wouldn't mind helping. We can just put a piece of tape across the bottom and you can cut across that to keep it straight.
30 seconds later
Me: Jeez, LL, close your mouth before a fly gets in.
LL: I don't know. I mean, that's...I don't know.
Me: Worst case scenario you botch it and I pay someone to fix it. You can take some time to think about it. I need to get back to work now anyway. starts to walk away
LL: Okay, but that's just...I don't know.
20 minutes later
LL: Well now you've got me intrigued. You're right, worst case scenario you go Sinead O'Connor.
Me: I was literally just looking at a video on how long it takes to grow hair out from none. I mean, if I'm ever going to try that, now's the time.
LL: Yeah, true, but I think I can do it. walks around me looking at hair You working?
Me: clearly engaged with computer and foreign languages clearly visible on screen; refrains from saying "duh" Yeah, but you can look at my hair, it won't bother me.
LL: picks up hair and moves it around We'll do it in my bathroom so you can use the mirrors to see what I'm doing.
Me: I don't need to see what you're doing, but okay.
LL: Yeah you do. moves hair again and steps back Huh. Maybe, maybe.
Me: continues working
LL: I mean, at first I was worried about the pandemic but, I mean, we already walk past each other a couple times a day. wipes hand all over my shoulder There, now there's no going back.
Me: Yep, now you've done it.
LL: Wow, you're the first person I've touched in the last five months.
Me: refrains from saying "funny, I'm the only person I've touched in the last five months too" because LL is also former father-in-law, and that would just be weird

Ti curiosity, man. Always amusing to witness once it's sparked. Guess we'll see in a few days how well he can cut in a straight line.
 
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i'm still waging my dandelion war. running out of steam but not willing to admit it yet. end result: sunburn and deeper flat-footed squat.

from up here i can count individual flowers in the front yard, and i do. i'm doing really tedious work - the kind of thing that people are probably thinking of when they say 'i could never do what you do, don't have the patience'. neither do i. so every morning i count up the open flowers from the balcony, and then every hour or so i leave the keyboard, go downstairs and dig a certain percentage of that number of plants out of the ground. well, they tell you to get up and move around, right :p.

there were 37 visible flowers in the front yard on monday. at around quitting time this afternoon, there were 36. it may look as if they are winning, but in actual fact this is evidence that they're not onto me yet. my cunning plan is working out fine.
 

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today the met offering is rigoletto. i want to see this because i liked cornell macneil a lot when i've heard him, but have so far been too lazy to go around looking for him. but . . . i am opera'd out.

sigh. poncey first world problems sowaar.
 

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ISTJ humor. My ISTP friend thought it was the funniest thing she'd heard all day. She said she could imagine me saying it in a completely deadpan voice (which I did) -

Upon seeing a picture of my car -
S5: I could drive OVER your car with my SUV.
Me: I would appreciate it if you did not.
 

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This managerial shit is for the birds.

I'm fine with directing projects, crisis management is okay since I already know that many of my superiors aren't qualified and playing to peoples' strengths for assignments is actually enjoyable. But what I absolutely cannot stand is when people refuse to think for themselves.

What is it about the words 'leader' or 'manager' that entices people to entrust their thinking capacity to another? I don't get it. Just because someone has a title, that doesn't give you carte blanche to stop using your damn brain.

Every day is full of stupid ass questions!! Next, I'm sure someone is gonna ask me if they should put clothes on before coming to work. Uuggghh!
Dude, it's so true. Management is like being a referee/babysitter/slack-picker-upper. And this is coming from someone whose immediate staff was about as good as it gets.

Managing people defies gravity in that the shit rolls uphill by the truckload.
 

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this week has been opera heavy, but i'm on the third and last one that i want to see (for this week). got to say i'm hoping next week is a bunch of stuff i don't care about so i can take a breath.

anyway, the last one is trovatore, cast is alvarez zajick, hvoratovsky and radvanovsky. i am just having so. many. reactions. i don't know which way to turn.


zajick is KILLING it. apart from her though.

 
1. did i mention zajick?
2. the acting is so awful and junior high in so many places, sometimes i don't even know which direction to laugh in first.
3. have i talked about zajick yet?
4. hvoratovsky is awful in spots. i swear that this isn't just me. he seems to be good when he's singing with power and in the middle or lower range, but there's no agility. some of his upper notes are like a non-ballerina trying to hold still on one leg. he actually butchers il balen (according to me) - as opposed to just not doing it especially well. i swear he missed a bunch of hte higher notes by a mile, and then his final sustained note was really nice. jerkface.
5. alvarez same. i've heard alvarez do other things and really liked him. in this, no. i know that on paper a ben si mio is the tenor's big moment in this one and i've never much gone for it. but this one was also actually bad. thin acid notes, no phrasing, no depth . . . according to me.
6. into final scene now and i'm enjoying the fake bruises and blood. plus the wrist-wrapped fetters that are coming loose.
7. and now alvarez is fetching me properly in the riposa madre duet. so long as i don't look at him.
8. zajick is so pure and sweet, and so fucking solid.
9. why is leonora barefoot? and what's with the nightgown?
10. i don't think i like her vibrato.
 

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Is it weird that I found a sense of glee when I realized just now that I can delete my alarms 😅
i've never been a boss. i've defaulted my way into 'senior' and 'go-to' positions though, and yeah. i kind of enjoy it while there's still novelty - i like the feeling of a level-up to my 'i'm contributing' score, and i also like the whole sense of an enhanced input-to-end-result ratio. plus, something about it does reach my personal version of a social itch; i think it has to do with feeling like 'one instance of a leadership moment that's NOT being done in some other way i wouldn't approve of, because it's being done in myyyyyyy way.' but as a lifestyle or thing that you can't get out of because it's your job, kill me now. tl;dr: i only enjoy it when it's in-each-individual-moment voluntary. so completely relate to your glee.
 

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... also, at points in some of his arias you can actually hear hvoratovsky heaving for breath. like an actual 'haaaaah' noise. i'm not saying 'string him up' - i mean, the guy's dead already anyway, so it wouldn't make much difference. but i just mention it because yeah.

on the other hand his acting was not-taking-himself-too-seriously fun. he seems to have really gotten into the count-as-monster spirit, as opposed to alvarez who i think thought he was actually acting for real. hvoratovsky just seems to have been playing it ot the hilt for the sheer 'look, i look the part and i have a splendid uniform and a sword' giggles of it. i mean, he's the villian; he gets the leeway for that. and he does look the part.

but between him megalomania'ing and radvanovsky doing [i'm not entirely sure what - weird laughter faces at various points], and alvarez swaggering and rough-trading all over the stage there were points where the most fun could be had by just rolling the eyes and deciding ALL of them are treatably ill with something.

hvoratovsky did play the count as someone with a fairly serious megalomania disorder and iyam it worked. it's the 'not even god' part where he's preparing to abduct her from the doors of the convent that slotted it all into place. i've never paid much attention to that in the past. and can i just give the forgotten shout-out i planned to the bass? idk the singer, but he did a really cold, sinister ferrando who becomes progressively more watchful and wary as well as the story goes on and it becomes more and more clear that di luna has gone off the rails.

zajick said an intersting thing in the intermission about azucena this time. said 'she spends the whole first act trying to get manrico to kill the count, and when she finally realises he's not gonna do it she does it the other way round.' that puts a whole other construction on her reveal at the start of act 3, i.e. that it was intentional. i watched zajick and i could see her doing it and it works.

i've always seen more humanistic reads of trovatore, and always wanted to see it that way as well. i want azucena to be sick, but to genuinely love manrico. i want manrico to be an emotionalistic twat, but genuinely torn. i want ferrando to be honestly committed to finding the lost child and/or putting the backstory right out of commitment to the original count. . . and i want di luna to be vulnerable and sincerely in love. but this one was more like 'okay, every single person in this giant train wreck is a basket case' and it works out too. it wouldn't if it weren't for zajick giving you enough reason to hang in with it though.

okay, enough of all this.
 

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Finally a small win. Legal case is going well. The couple didn't dispute and they have now missed the deadline to do so, so we can go and apply for a default judgement in our favour.
i hope it works out. for what it's worth, around here reversing a default judgement and sending everyone back to square one seems to be about as challenging as bothering to tell a judge you aren't happy about it . that's true even if the other person did everything the way they should have and you didn't bother to lift a finger to defend it the first time around. that's good in a way, i guess - legal shit seems way less terrifying now that i've got a better sense of all the leeway you don't find in the rules. but it's frustrating as well.

i say seize for sure, if you can.
 

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I'm pretty well transitioning out of my 'previous' role at work - thus far they have yet to formally commit to me beyond the end of August though, so I'm still having to make sure I'm applying to jobs and trying to find something else out there. Getting to the point of applying to jobs I really don't want (but am more likely to be "noticed" for) since I really don't want to be joining the crowds of entirely ruining my life financially due to this stupid pandemic.

That said, I'm hoping, and both of my immediate supervisors are counting on, me getting extended at least until November if not the end of the year. If they will do that, then I would be doing well. It would get me through summer, and give me time to perhaps purchase a home (much cheaper than renting around here), and then I'd be sitting a lot more prepared to deal with a drastically lowered income if it came to that. Right now it's still just a little too soon after the move for my finances to be in a place to get that final purchase approval (plus I'd rather not break the lease if that is avoidable).

Other than that, I decided yesterday to skip my next race round - I just have not been enjoying the racing like I should be. I think I just put too much pressure on myself, along with way too much stress, and I may end up taking a good portion of the summer off. I decided to spring for a horse show instead and show one of the horses I've been taking my riding lessons on - I've been enjoying the (horseback) riding a lot more here lately, and while part of me feels guilty (I've sunk so much of myself - financially, mentally, physically) into the bike thing, that even taking ONE race off has me feeling guilty - but I know I would enjoy showing the horses a lot more right now.

I'll still be riding the bikes and will probably do some track days, and will probably make it out to some races again this fall, but right now, ya - taking a little break and go do something I'm ENJOYING doing.
 

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go do something I'm ENJOYING doing.
YESSSSSS. and on that same note, wonder if i should go make some cookies.

i was reading around the internet today - work has screeched to a halt again, the met has come through with a week's worth of operas i could not give fewer fucks about, and i feel at a loose end. turns out there is a gaggle of fancy-pants opera houses and other similar things around the world who are also streaming free content to try and keep everybody at home.

one one of them, i was reviewing their set of offerings, and i'm not kidding; i came across a tile entitled 'rigoletto for children'. i did click into it but i might as well not have because i didn't absorb a word of wahtever they said. you don't need to. it's such a big fat obvious no.
 

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Me: wears shorts
Other people: You have nice legs. :)
Mom: shrieks LOOK AT THOSE WHITE LEGS!
 

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ALSO WHO THE FUCK HAVE I BEEN SUPPOSEDLY STALKING!? I'VE BEEN MATCHED WITH OVER 50 PEOPLE ON TINDER FOR THE PAST 3 MONTHS PLEASE TELL ME WHO, THANKS
 

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dandelion death. that's what i aim to do with my time.

not to imply i have no life at all (i may not, but that's none of the public's business). i'm just saying. i actually cleared both front and back yards today; not only of visible flowers, but of any other plant that had a stalk visible to the naked eye. the 'lawns' look they've been chewed by a hippogriff, and there's a couple of spots where if you fell down there you'd probably get eaten by a grue. but i've got the technique down by now and i'm on a Mission.

damn, i miss the days when you could make an grue joke with at least a 2% shot that somebody else in the room would look at you with a vestige of wild surmise. but i'm capable of entertaining myself ... obviously.

i mean, look what i just spend the past 180 or something hours doing.
 

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court results have been extremely boring this week. i mean extremely. great endless sea-to-sea screeds of 'x province association of insurance adjusters vs [some insanely obscure and meta government regulatory body or other]', and not a lot else.

not only the insurance industries but also the judges of the entire system seem to be up for some form of collective review, because i also saw quite a swath of iterative 'provincial judges' association of province x vs attorney general of canada' which sort of amused me. although it's probably the sign of some kind of end-times that these cases are even there, so it probably shouldn't.

needless to say, i didn't read any of them. i entered the keyword 'recalcitrant' into the search and focused my time on the selection that put before me. it's kind of fun to random-keyword a legal database like can lii just to find out what the boundaries actually are.

the range of causes and circumstances over which canadians have managed to sue each other over the years is quite fascinating. it's sort of like the 'if it exists...' rule for porn, especially in a record that started with something from 1838 [regina v hodge, in case you wonder - a murder case].

llamas have been a factor in litigation. tortoises too. my imagination's run dry atm but i just entered 'gumboil' and got one result.
 
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