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I feel like this is important i read those word quite often but still i have no idea of what it truly is

1 how do you know your unhealthy ?
2 does it affect you more mentaly or physically ?
3 mentaly what happen ?
4 physically what happen ?
5 how do you become an healthy ISTJ ?
 

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1 how do you know your unhealthy ?
2 does it affect you more mentaly or physically ?
3 mentaly what happen ?
4 physically what happen ?
5 how do you become an healthy ISTJ ?
1.) I would say an ISTJ becomes unhealthy they allow the things we're prone to hold them back in life or hurt others. Some of these things would be like being so afraid to show any emotion that you push everyone away and are only concerned with duties to yourself...not to others. If you never break out of your comfort zone (even around best friends or family) then there could be an issue, because growth comes from pushing ourselves, which I know can be a nightmare at times, but has to be done. Whenever compulsions rule our lives and force us into a "robot" state of being at all times we lose touch with reality and some more balance in life would be beneficial.

2.) I would say it could do both. If you're completely stressed out from planning and trying to do everything possible all the time then you're going to run down your mind and your body. (More details below...)

3.) Mentally, trying to hold on to every detail and schedule everything can be exhausting. Feeling that sense of duty to accomplish everything as it should be is unrealistic, and it's not wrong to ask for help and allow others in who can help lighten the load. When you allow this type of exhaustion to progress you're only going to be doing the opposite of what you want to. This is because you'll be so mentally drained that you simply can't process all the things you need to like you could if you were in a healthier state of mind.

4.) Physically there will likely be a lot of tension...leading to sore joints and muscles. When I've had a particularly stressful day I feel it the next morning after I've had sleep and time to relax. My muscles will be in knots from the previous tension and it's never fun. With stress or over-working to get everything done a lack of sleep or poor eating habits can often develop. These things come with their own set of problems such as headaches and being more prone to illness.

5.) To be healthy overall (though we all have our unhealthy ISTJ days) balance is really key. Learning to embrace your personality and still take care of yourself and participate in life is definitely beneficial. Also, if you find people you can place a lot of trust in when you're taking on too much, or whatever else, then you can feel more secure that the world will not fall apart if you are late for one meeting or don't have time to plan out every aspect of something, for example. Develop skills in analyzing your own behavior and notice patterns to see if you're letting yourself get run down and overwhelmed.

I hope that helps, I'm sure there are many other aspects to all of this but these are things I've noticed in my own life and other ISTJs I've been around.
 

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I feel like this is important i read those word quite often but still i have no idea of what it truly is

1 how do you know your unhealthy ?
2 does it affect you more mentaly or physically ?
3 mentaly what happen ?
4 physically what happen ?
5 how do you become an healthy ISTJ ?
how do you know your unhealthy: I start trying to show how I am different in ways, as I have lost faith in my own beliefs being the correct way.

does it affect you more mentaly or physically: mentally I begin to try to escape the responsibilities of life, and often that has no effect on my physical attributes.

mentally what happens: I lock myself in the video game world and try to find ways to amuse myself, and potentially find purpose in video games, though there is none, its a waste of time.

how do you become an healthy ISTJ: Well I consider myself an Enneagram type 1 more than ISTJ because that is the motivation of the characteristics of ISTJ life. You begin to talk with people more and make friends to become more healthy. More friends opens the door for more fun, and you must be outgoing to have fun in those situations such as parties and going to bar. The ISTJ must let the conscience go and live less rigidly.
 

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I am still learning about this, but I am led to believe that an unhealthy ISTJ would become a lot like an immature ESTP since an ESTP is our shadow functions and our shadow functions are underdeveloped. I think it is that our inferior Ne is what can lead to this behavior.


so stress from our Ne leads to: SeTiFeNi


I am not 100% positive, but I think this is what happens
 

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I'd like to address a couple of ways of quantifying emotional health: first, in MBTI terms, and secondly on universal, global scale.

I have spoken at length about my unhealthy ISTJ mom. Her emotional and personal development was damaged because of childhood abuse: verbal, emotional, physical and (suspected) sexual. She wasn't just unhealthy, she was extremely damaged.

Her unhealthiness manifested itself in many ways, some of which were:
-needing to be in complete control of her environment, schedule
-needing to be in complete control of her loved one's environment, schedule
-anorexia and bulimia in order to control her appearance
-heavy smoking in order to relieve stress

(As a note here: My mom is my hero. The fact that she was able to overcome that kind of abuse and become not only a functional person, but a well rounded one who has also become accomplished in her line of work leaves me in awe. She possesses an inner strength I can only dream of.)

Through the lens of the MBTI, unhealthiness can be described as operating in your shadow (as mentioned earlier). Here's a good description of "being in the grip" for introverted sensing types (ISTJ's and ISFJ's).

Now, on a more global scale, I believe emotional and mental health is a combination of environmental, physical, and emotional factors that can lead to an array of disorders and/or destructive behavior: codependency, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, body dimorphism, anxiety, depression, OCD and the like.
 

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I agree with all of the above posts. And heres my input; what I've experienced in my own life:

1. How do you know your unhealthy? You're very negative. You hate your life, hate school, hate work, maybe hate famiily, etc.. Some responsiblities you just don't care about so you don't put in enough or any effort at all to fulfill them. There may be eating problems; overeating or anorexia. Some things that people do that annoy you a tiny bit become so big to you. You may talk to other people harshly, especially those close to you.
2. Does it affect you more mentally or physically? It can be both.
3. Mentally what happen? Mainly what I described above. You assume more responsiblity than what you can actually handle.
4. Physically what happen? Some may be getting a lack of exercise. Some may get ill or sick. And some may be unhealthy.
5. How do you become an healthy ISTJ?You need motivation/inspiration to just get on with life and accept yourself for who you are. Accept your flaws, mistakes, and regrets. Hang out with friends or people!! Socialize and get a break from all of your responsiblities.
 

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I think im quite an unhealthy istj.

Im not going to answer your questions one by one.

Basicually. When I go out socialising, I have to drink to make myself more extroverted, otherwise I wont stay out for very long.
I drink 1. because i like the taste and 2. to hide my innerself because I find myself boring and quiet around others and i find things more interesting after having a drink.
I'm quite selfish and put myself before others and I'm very nasty towards my mum. I dont know her type, but shes very annoying to me.
When I was younger, I used to be in a group of girl mates, who used to put me down alot and I think since leaving their group, I have become very defensive and I hide my feelings towards people I care about because im too scared of being rejected. I think I take this out on my mum.
I'm very insecure in relationships because of how my ex treated me.
In my defense, I have become like this because of other people and I will never forgive them. They have made me stronger though, but very defensive.
 

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@Simba I kinda agree with @MBTI Enthusiast. It might help to look into the enneagram.

Basicually. When I go out socialising, I have to drink to make myself more extroverted, otherwise I wont stay out for very long.
I drink 1. because i like the taste and 2. to hide my innerself because I find myself boring and quiet around others and i find things more interesting after having a drink.
It sounds like you need to relax. Drinking a bit relaxes you and allows you to 'let loose' a little bit and not be so uptight. I'm learning for myself that when I am not relaxed, I inhibit myself from taking action.
I'm quite selfish and put myself before others
I think this is something you can actively change. It is entirely in your power. Throughout your day, tell yourself. "I'm a helpful person. How can I help out?" Actively look for ways to help out the people around you. Ask, "How can I help?" Don't worry about what you'll get from it. You'll create positive energy between you and everyone you interact with, and in this way will get back what you give.
and I'm very nasty towards my mum. I dont know her type, but shes very annoying to me.
I think I'm fortunate that no one I've ever found extremely annoying is someone I've *had* to spend a lot of time with. However, it makes it difficult for me to figure out how to handle this sort of situation too. I think you need to learn to accept her though. Do you think you find her annoying because she's trying too hard to get you to open up? Maybe just when she gets overbearing you can simply state, "Mum, I just need some alone time for a bit, please." Other times perhaps you need to give her a certain amount of attention to keep a balance. Does this help? Or maybe you can be more specific about the situation.

When I was younger, I used to be in a group of girl mates, who used to put me down alot and I think since leaving their group, I have become very defensive and I hide my feelings towards people I care about because im too scared of being rejected. I think I take this out on my mum.
I'm very insecure in relationships because of how my ex treated me.
In my defense, I have become like this because of other people and I will never forgive them. They have made me stronger though, but very defensive.
This is really unfortunate. I think all you can do is do your best to move on and put them behind you. Worry less about the past. Learn from it, but realize what you have is right NOW.
 

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@Adesi thanks for your post...

Im quite a negative person and the past just plays over and over in my head, bringing me down.
I have got a lot now. A son, a home etc.
I have got to try to control my thoughts better and figure out what I want from this life.
Btw I did an Enneagram test and I am a type 5.
I have to admit when I am with someone, they always say " you worry too much" lol
 
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I feel like this is important i read those word quite often but still i have no idea of what it truly is

1 how do you know your unhealthy ? When you start messing with other peoples heads
2 does it affect you more mentaly or physically? Mentaly
3 mentaly what happen ? You REALLY screw people up and you enjoy it like a psciopath
4 physically what happen ? Nothing really, unless you have a addiction to something.
5 how do you become an healthy ISTJ ? Get help like i did. Go to someone. Pscharitrist, or spiritual leader.
 
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