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I can certainly relate with you there.

I recently stopped talking to my old friends from High School, because it seemed they liked to ignore me as well. I moved out for the first time two years ago, and not a single friend has ever shown up to my apartment no matter how many times I've invited them. But they seemed to have no problem jumping across town to visit others, and I would often join them (despite my resentment). After many times being dissapointed and trying to fix the problem on my end, I realized that while it is within their right to not acknowledge my presence, it is also my right to leave.

But you have to realize that there are two parties involved, them and you. If you find this consistently happening to you, make sure you go over what the potential causes are, and work to fix them.

Also, take it from me, do not give up on social interaction. When you stop interacting with people, it drags you down a deep and dark rabbit hole that is very hard to escape from. Instead, focus on creating a fresh start, and try and work from there.
Or, if you prefer. Talk to the people in your social group, and ask if anything is wrong. In my experience, it didn't amount to much, but I would argue it is at least worth the shot. It gives them a chance to defend themselves at least.

And hey, if nothing else, being a lone wolf is not so bad either. Learn to love your own company, develop some hobbies, and gain confidence. If you do those things, you'll find people will naturally flock to you. Try to develop a presence.

I agree with you. There has to be something that I’m doing or giving off that makes others react that way towards me. I really don’t know what it is though, and except for being very quiet sometimes and most people I know being outspoken, I can’t think of anything.
I’m working on being more outgoing. I’m sure getting better at it will help in the long run when I meet new people. Right now I’m still on the fence about whether it’s worth it, though.

I tried addressing the issue before with some people and apparently there is nothing wrong from their side. But they didn’t think about looking at their behaviour towards me or asking themselves why I might be feeling that way, either.

Your friends don’t sound like they were really your friends either. I completely understand that you stopped talking to them. I think if people consistently show that they don’t want to make time for you and treat you badly, the healthiest way of handling it is to step away and move on.
I hope you have better people in your life now.
 

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I agree with you. There has to be something that I’m doing or giving off that makes others react that way towards me. I really don’t know what it is though, and except for being very quiet sometimes and most people I know being outspoken, I can’t think of anything.
I’m working on being more outgoing. I’m sure getting better at it will help in the long run when I meet new people. Right now I’m still on the fence about whether it’s worth it, though.

I tried addressing the issue before with some people and apparently there is nothing wrong from their side. But they didn’t think about looking at their behaviour towards me or asking themselves why I might be feeling that way, either.

Your friends don’t sound like they were really your friends either. I completely understand that you stopped talking to them. I think if people consistently show that they don’t want to make time for you and treat you badly, the healthiest way of handling it is to step away and move on.
I hope you have better people in your life now.
I'm not too worried about it. Shit happens. It's all about how we respond to it.
 

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Do any of you feel like nobody likes you or wants to be around you?

I’m the only INFJ in my group of friends and acquaintances - as far as I can tell - and I have always had trouble connecting with other people. Every time I try to get to know others more, it becomes obvious that the person I talk to doesn’t want to talk to me. Even my ‘friends’ when they’ve asked me a question and I reply, interrupt me or turn and start talking to someone else while I’m mid-sentence.

I have even had people ignore me when I said hello or goodbye. Or I would make a joke in a situation and everyone ignores it but then 2 seconds later, one of them makes the exact same joke (word for word) and the entire group is laughing and telling that other person how awesome they are for thinking of something this funny...

It happens everywhere with pretty much all groups in my social circle, even at work.
I’m tired of that game and think I should just give up on interacting with people all together. It’s frustrating.

I don’t think I’m a bad human being. I’m just quiet, private, and shy sometimes so it can take a while for others to get to know me. But still, I would never want to treat other people like they treat me...
Go to infjs.com, your species is there
 

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Dirt poor finally got a stimulus check but all the banks are closed. Can't cash it. Should just throw it away, cuz it's not much of a meal.

Guess I'm not eating.
 

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Dude...there's always tomorrow ;)
Tomorrow I'll just be hungrier, weaker, and even more defeated than I am today. I'm out of money for water so I think I have a week left to live. Unless I can somehow cash this stimulus check. Then I guess I can eat again. Already went four days without water trying to end the misery but got pissed I didn't die so I walked to the dollar store for water. Legs hurt so bad.

Tomorrow just doesn't cut it.

How do you earn things in this country. All i have is my body. Six pack, chest, back, arms. I do pullups on a tree branch. But what's the point I still get rejected because I'm poor.
 

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Tomorrow I'll just be hungrier, weaker, and even more defeated than I am today. I'm out of money for water so I think I have a week left to live. Unless I can somehow cash this stimulus check. Then I guess I can eat again. Already went four days without water trying to end the misery but got pissed I didn't die so I walked to the dollar store for water. Legs hurt so bad.

Tomorrow just doesn't cut it.

How do you earn things in this country. All i have is my body. Six pack, chest, back, arms. I do pullups on a tree branch. But what's the point I still get rejected because I'm poor.
Dude, if you have a six-pack when you don't have enough for food and water, I'm wondering where you got the calories?
I think people are just trying to keep you away from their pets lol.
 

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Dude, if you have a six-pack when you don't have enough for food and water, I'm wondering where you got the calories?
I think people are just trying to keep you away from their pets lol.
Lol.

Used to eat free food but now with corona stuff cant do that. I was working a cafe to feed the homeless, cooking and serving, and got to eat there as well but they kicked me out for quote being a lazy shit end quote. Guess they didnt like my FREE labor. So i packed my stuff and left state. Im capable of walking long distances all day because you know im a lazy shit and all with a 6 pack who can walk all day and night carrying supplies on an empty stomach.

Trying to find PAID work. I think that would earn me more respect.

Everything i have done all day for years has been free. It's put me in a socialist circle that has really made me depressed. Ive helped so many people. Idk. Only the good die young.

How do I make money? Do i have to like rape people and do evil? People arent hiring me.

And now im being pressured by society even more. Annoying voices in my head. Images in my third eye. Angry people pushing me around. Life on the streets is a wild ride.

Oh and the place i was working at to feed the homeless threw out my anxiety medications!! I have ptsd and no meds. People are just so fucked up I dont get it!!!

Well back to "trying"... Just one man though.
 

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Lol.

Used to eat free food but now with corona stuff cant do that. I was working a cafe to feed the homeless, cooking and serving, and got to eat there as well but they kicked me out for quote being a lazy shit end quote. Guess they didnt like my FREE labor. So i packed my stuff and left state. Im capable of walking long distances all day because you know im a lazy shit and all with a 6 pack who can walk all day and night carrying supplies on an empty stomach.

Trying to find PAID work. I think that would earn me more respect.

Everything i have done all day for years has been free. It's put me in a socialist circle that has really made me depressed. Ive helped so many people. Idk. Only the good die young.

How do I make money? Do i have to like rape people and do evil? People arent hiring me.

And now im being pressured by society even more. Annoying voices in my head. Images in my third eye. Angry people pushing me around. Life on the streets is a wild ride.

Oh and the place i was working at to feed the homeless threw out my anxiety medications!! I have ptsd and no meds. People are just so fucked up I dont get it!!!

Well back to "trying"... Just one man though.
Sorry to hear your circumstances man, I wasn't aware of your situation.
I hope you find a way out though, if you keep pushing, I'm sure you will.
 

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Sorry to hear your circumstances man, I wasn't aware of your situation.
I hope you find a way out though, if you keep pushing, I'm sure you will.
Im already out lol. I live outside. I talk to birds and squirrels all day. Lone wolf.
 

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Being this way is hard... I think I just kind of broke it of with this guy I have been seeing because I see no future.. He is younger than me, so we are different places in life and want different things. On one hand I'm relieved and on the other I'm sad.. :/
 

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Being this way is hard... I think I just kind of broke it of with this guy I have been seeing because I see no future.. He is younger than me, so we are different places in life and want different things. On one hand I'm relieved and on the other I'm sad.. :/
So sorry, I do know how hard this is but at some point you have to just cut the cord and push forward. If not, any disappointments you experience now with increase a hundred fold, its just the way it is.
 

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Political stuff. Grrrgrumph.

I think one of the main problems with trying to push identity politics into fiction is...we're used to hearing about these identities from a state of how they've been victimized. That doesn't make for an inspiring story. It's a pity party at best. Or Mary Sue as they overcompensate for that at worst.

Now if these various minorities could come out with fiction works that teach something about their cultures, or that, most especially, focus on the conflicts and problems that drive a good plot forward, that may or may not have to do with their minority-ness...that I could get behind for sure.

We already have plenty of insufferable fiction about environmental activism and Gaia getting angry or whatever with humans--and that, unlike most of these recent movements, were written by authors wanting to talk about something, not for appeal to a broad audience. And that didn't go so well either--once you have to preach to the audience, you've lost all but your choir, most especially maybe those who were teetering and about to come over. So why do people think it'll go well now with identity politics? I know maybe a lot of this stuff should be common sense, but it isn't, and treating people like they're dumb or biased or poorly intentioned straight out the gate is just going to get everyone turning their backs on you...not helpful change.

This in due one of my favorite game franchises taking half of their monsters (which were mostly portrayed as male in the older games) and making them female. But not a nice, pleasing, well-mixed showing of female, with just as much diversity and lore-grounding that the male monsters had going for them. Instead, they were all booby sexy females that all look the same, down to the hairstyles and clothing/armor styles. That to me is an outrage, not a celebration of equality and diversity.

Another game recently changed all their elves so that they can have all shades of human skin without any reason why this should be so. The biologist in me wants to know what in the world happened, as skin color in humans is solely based on evolution of populations close to the equator vs. the poles, and tends to boil down to an even tan when mixed across families; aka not based on a bunch of gene combinations and random mutations like horse or dog colorings. So where do these elves come from and why are they suddenly dark? The culture scholar in me also wants to know what happened, as elves are creatures out of northern European legends, and frequently paler white than is even natural for humans--it's part of their shtick, even before Tolkien made some differentiations with his subtypes.

And I know, elves have become so common in our fantasy fiction that there's an elf for everything, but still...were there not other creatures from dark-skinned cultures we could have brought in instead for some much-needed love and recognition? Or at least preface a new dark-skinned (but not drow) brand of elves with their own awesome lore, when this game has already been so particular that each subrace of elf is a subrace for various story reasons? Some of these sub-races having no more different about them than blue vs. green eyes...! Either of those seem like they would be more respectful and inclusive, rather than just pasting dark skins on people who still have very white facial features, voices, styles of dress and culture, which is basically...blackface, isn't it? But what do I know?

TL;DR? Dumbing down of story, art and world-building, just to make a quota of minority representation, is a horrible policy and a mockery of these movements. And it's often finanically driven. Cut it out, Hollywood. Cut it out, game studios. Just cut it out. At the very least, start hiring people of minority groups to write these stories for you! That would be more empowering than any amount of pixels flung across our screens to make you a quick buck for appealing to the "masses": AKA, politically correct culture...

HaRUMPH.
I feel really dumb for saying this now, considering all of what's going on. Still steamed about the super booby women and calling it "diversity" ...but I can't really talk about race.
 

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I "broke up" with you and then I try to take care of your feelings because you need to process it and wants to talk it over. Then when I called you on the phone you sound all condescending and like it was YOUR idea! You fucking asshole!
 

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No longer identify as an INFJ but acknowledge what help it gave me identifying as one in the past. Put my flaws into the light. I still am an enigma that bounces between strong isolation to an over-abundance ball of compassion and love for people. Purposely fighting my introverted bad habits to secure more extroverted ones to attract more positivity in general rather than find myself in a anti-social depressive trap. Still a loner but I'm trying! Can I still keep my INFJ club card? Haha! :p
 

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No longer identify as an INFJ but acknowledge what help it gave me identifying as one in the past. Put my flaws into the light. I still am an enigma that bounces between strong isolation to an over-abundance ball of compassion and love for people. Purposely fighting my introverted bad habits to secure more extroverted ones to attract more positivity in general rather than find myself in a anti-social depressive trap. Still a loner but I'm trying! Can I still keep my INFJ club card? Haha! :p
As far as I am concerned, you are always welcome here bro.
But yeah, the characteristics for an INFJ at least put some insight into what I need to work on.
 

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I'm so tired of life.. Tired of being a feeler, tired of being bullied, tired of not feeling good enough, tired of feeling that my feelings aren't "right" and that I'm not fitting in..

Can I be an ESTP, please? My best friend is one and he seems to enjoy life way more than me. I feel like there is only room for extroverted thinkers in the world or maybe just the world I live in. Tired of being called "overly" sensitive, I would like to trade, please...
 

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My "introvert hangover" from yesterday is ironically making me feel so lonely.

Even my introverted acquaintances seemed to still have fun at the networking event but I got so drained out so damn quickly and just searched for some escape plan.

It would be great for me to connect with people there because I have plans for my career in the next few years but still don't have any strategy to survive small talk events without feeling like shit.
 
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