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Ok, so this has always interested me about being an ENFP, in that we tend to get vibes when we interact or speak to someone, or even see someone speak in a show/film or whatever that tells us if they're trustworthy or not. It's probably more complicated than that, but I always get positive or negative vibes when I'm talking or interacting with someone and honestly, I usually go with them :p

I'm guessing this is another product of our Ne/Fi?
 

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These vibes are everywhere..sometimes I almost wish for a tin foil hat..
 

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Ok, so this has always interested me about being an ENFP, in that we tend to get vibes when we interact or speak to someone, or even see someone speak in a show/film or whatever that tells us if they're trustworthy or not. It's probably more complicated than that, but I always get positive or negative vibes when I'm talking or interacting with someone and honestly, I usually go with them :p

I'm guessing this is another product of our Ne/Fi?
I do too, my intuition is really strong. I usually make up my mind about people within a few minutes of meeting, i don't usually change it ;) If there is something off about someone, i can sense that. I don't always know the what immediately, but i do know there is something. It shows up sometimes sooner than later, but it always presents itself. I pick up on Aura's also, sometimes strong. I stay away from people who give me bad vibes, because i already know i can't trust them. I rarely give second chances, i trust and follow my intuition. Nothing like looking at a black Aura, and i see it often, here , there and everywhere ;)

I know that sounds cray cray, hah! but whatever, it's real and i know exactly what you are relating too. Yes, it is Ne/Fi and Si too.
 

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My ENFP boyfriend has this magic power...he has incredible intuitions about people, especialy when it comes to their true essence and the things they are hiding, while I'm better at interpreting the meaning of more superficial layers of social behaviour. Also, I can be as dumb as fuck when it comes to trusting people because I always believe in the best in them, and I put too much weight on external appearances and signs...so having someone strong in Fi in these situations can be a true blessing!
 

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These vibes are everywhere..sometimes I almost wish for a tin foil hat..
The initial vibes aren't that bad, in fact I'd say they are useful. I had them since I can remember and they usually don't fail me. However..

...yeah it gets really bad when the vibes get to me and infect me with all those unwanted feels :\. Situation ripe with hidden conflict, passive aggression, hidden moodiness and the sort which are there and felt, but never openly manifest are the worst. Its like I just feel what emotions the other person is hiding / silently projecting and get these gut feelings as to why and what it really means.

The worst part thou is the anticipation of it all erupting suddenly. I guess I'm just trained for this since childhood, because my home situation ALWAYS had this tension to it, you could feel it in the air and anticipate the exact moment when the fighting, yelling, door slamming and plate breaking would begin.

Ugh...I'd want a bomb shelter to somehow isolate against this sort of crap.
 

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My older friend says I can be given pieces about a situation or about a business proposition about someone I know and I can pick out what happens very accurately.

In terms of face-to-face, I do feel out vibes, but I have to be receptive to them... sometimes they do change about people though, but the initial is really important.

I find when I give presentations to a large group of people, I get very overwhelmed about all the vibes or emotions that are coming off of people and it sometimes makes me freeze or trip up... any one else have this problem?
 

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The initial vibes aren't that bad, in fact I'd say they are useful. I had them since I can remember and they usually don't fail me. However..

...yeah it gets really bad when the vibes get to me and infect me with all those unwanted feels :\. Situation ripe with hidden conflict, passive aggression, hidden moodiness and the sort which are there and felt, but never openly manifest are the worst. Its like I just feel what emotions the other person is hiding / silently projecting and get these gut feelings as to why and what it really means.

The worst part thou is the anticipation of it all erupting suddenly. I guess I'm just trained for this since childhood, because my home situation ALWAYS had this tension to it, you could feel it in the air and anticipate the exact moment when the fighting, yelling, door slamming and plate breaking would begin.

Ugh...I'd want a bomb shelter to somehow isolate against this sort of crap.
Freebeer, thanks for sharing:)

I do not always know what it is I pick up. But I think we meet people with a sincere and approachable mind and thereby pick up quite fast. I used to think it was something wrong with me, being intuitive and when I "crashed" with a non-intuitive.

I have attempted to suppress my intuition but that does not work well. It is like giving up the best card on your hand.

I think intuitive people just have to live with both sides of the "gift" :)
 
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I am a INTJ, and I get the same type of vibe from people that you guys are describing, but I have to have a reason to focus on someone before I can get a vibe from them. It is also not as strong as what you guys are describing.

It also took me a long time to learn to trust it, I probable did not start trusting it until my early 20s. I never tell anyone about the vibes I get from people, and I am not sure why I don't tell people about it.
 

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I am a INTJ, and I get the same type of vibe from people that you guys are describing, but I have to have a reason to focus on someone before I can get a vibe from them. It is also not as strong as what you guys are describing.

It also took me a long time to learn to trust it, I probable did not start trusting it until my early 20s. I never tell anyone about the vibes I get from people, and I am not sure why I don't tell people about it.
Very interesting:) I have to focus hard on NOT getting the vibes (as already stated above) and also often like to tell;) But I also did not trust or become aware of my intuition until a few years ago.
 

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I am a INTJ, and I get the same type of vibe from people that you guys are describing, but I have to have a reason to focus on someone before I can get a vibe from them. It is also not as strong as what you guys are describing.

It also took me a long time to learn to trust it, I probable did not start trusting it until my early 20s. I never tell anyone about the vibes I get from people, and I am not sure why I don't tell people about it.
Very interesting:) I have to focus hard on NOT getting the vibes (as already stated above) and also at least wish to tell;) But I did not trust or become aware of my intuition until a few years ago.
 

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Gift and a curse. The gift is I can read someone almost instantly by just looking at them, if not then definitely after a short conversation.

I also pick up on a lot of peoples emotions (including people who are depressed, angry, sad etc) so that's the curse aspect.

I'll just look at a person. gather a vibe subconsciously that they're really unhappy with their life but a good person at heart or something along those lines then I just start feeling their pain, fvckin annoying lol.
 

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Maybe even more challenging is to "explain" others what is behind your opinion...especially since not always know oneself.

Experienced often how I have a "hunch" and then express my opinion based on that. And even if I am correct the disorganized and intuitive expression is not always valued by the non-intuitives who think you just say something without being able to back up your argument.
 

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Goodness, I know the feeling! I tend not to tell people when I've already made up my mind by just looking at somebody because people usually ask why and you can't explain it! And if I have a conversation with them and people they hang around with for a short amount of time, I can usually know why I had the vibe. I've never been proven wrong though, but I tend to be drawn to the bad vibes (less so than the bads) because I want to know what cause that vibe then I try and understand why they have it and well yeah.... fun xD
 

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Goodness, I know the feeling! I tend not to tell people when I've already made up my mind by just looking at somebody because people usually ask why and you can't explain it!
Yes, exactly. I sense almost right away if people have something of value to tell me. I especially hate being forced to follow a sensor path of receiving information. Most people wont understand that you picked up early. But since an enfp are more interested in the outlines we can tend to ignore the details.
 

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The thing is not "getting the vibes" of people. What we need to do is reserve judgement of that person until they actually do something to confirm that vibe. I know whether I like someone or not pretty quickly, for the most part, but there have been times where I initially didn't like the vibe I got from someone and they turned out to be a great person. Sometimes it is so strong it is hard to get passed though. My old man advice is to wait till someone does something to confirm your feelings to decide what to do about them in your life.
 

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Most people wont understand that you picked up early. But since an enfp are more interested in the outlines we can tend to ignore the details.
I've actually learn to love the details because when I look at beautiful things, I see so much details, I just want more! Even though I pick up on people, I only avoid those who make me uncomfortable just being around, those give me just a bad vibe I try to make them happier so they give out better vibes!
 
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