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Ah, yes. Another thread for the ESFP's. We already know what the personality description says about the ESFP, but how do people really see them?

You have to be 100% honest.
It does not matter if you are right or wrong.
Both positive and negative comments appreciated.

I tend to see most ESFP's as fun loving and easy going. They don't think before they do stuff; impulsive, but always entertaining. They usually know the right thing to say. They aren't that bright, but they've got such good people skills and good charisma that it doesn't matter. It's hard to connect with them on a deeper level, they don't seem to like talking about things that are more in-depth. They've got so many friends and so many people feel like they connect with the ESFP. ESFP's sometimes come off as shallow. They are always in the middle of the crowd. They like to have a good laugh. They don't mind being human lab rats for their friends latest idea or experiment. Overall, they are really cool people to talk to and be around.

What is everyone else's input on the ESFP personality type? ™
 

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Well I only know one ESFJ and he is a guy.
He is caring, funny and as I have told him many times, he can charm a lamp post! I never see any of this supposed controlling nature in him. He is generous with his time and will help out when he can.
 

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The only ESFP I know personally is my mother, who for the most part just cannot keep her promises, and sucks with money lol. Likes to have fun and is caring in a genuine way. She cannot understand me when I try to talk about more deeper topics but at least she's willing to listen. She's very patient and forgives whenever I screw up (unless it's something major), and loves little kids and babies. Yea that's all I got.
 

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lol oh this is about Ps
oops!
I don't know any of them
 
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lol oh this is about Ps
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I don't know any of them
Haha, fail.
Your missing out, they really are great people.

The only ESFP I know personally is my mother, who for the most part just cannot keep her promises, and sucks with money lol. Likes to have fun and is caring in a genuine way. She cannot understand me when I try to talk about more deeper topics but at least she's willing to listen. She's very patient and forgives whenever I screw up (unless it's something major), and loves little kids and babies. Yea that's all I got.
True that. She sounds like a great mother.
 

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I'm baffled that anyone could not know an ESFP. They pretty much make up the human population.

I have trouble relating to them. Typically we share so few interests that conversations are shallow and awkward. They can be alot of fun sometimes, provided they aren't too much for me. I've met nice ones, mean ones, and self absorbed ones. I respect that they know what they like and then go out and do it, but dislike when that same trait is a complete disrespect or disregarding of the people around them.
 

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The only ESFP I know personally is my mother, who for the most part just cannot keep her promises, and sucks with money lol. Likes to have fun and is caring in a genuine way. She cannot understand me when I try to talk about more deeper topics but at least she's willing to listen. She's very patient and forgives whenever I screw up (unless it's something major), and loves little kids and babies. Yea that's all I got.
My mother is an ESFP as well.
She truly lives in the 'here and now' of the moment - sometimes worries about the future but hardly ever plans for it. She seems to enjoy reading/talking about spiritual topics, which isn't shallow, but perhaps in her prefered way. She also loves kids.
 

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I had an internet boyfriend that was an ESFP and I have at least one as a coworker.

One of the most endearing things about them is how they go out of their way to make sure everyone is involved in the fun - which can frazzle introverts because they can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to join in on their partying and craziness. They're very attentive to details, which may not be readily obvious since they don't always act on their observations or even comment on them. One of the more frustrating things about dating an ESFP (especially long distance) is that they don't seem especially committed. They live so much in the moment that even considering the future takes effort. Consequences are outweighed by the potential for fun or experience. >.> If people were cars, an ESFP would be a dragracer, tearing through life at top speed. What's the point of life if you never really live? The only thing ESFPs regret is missing an opportunity, but even that doesn't last very long.
What they appreciate the most is being acknowledged as having a mind of their own and they prize the ability to make their own decisions.
What annoyed me the most about my ex was his inability to acknowledge when something was wrong. He gave himself a hernia doing something stupid at work and refused to go to the doctor for a week while he was in bed in horrible pain. He even went to work and made it worse trying to do some heavy lifting. He only went after I nagged him and called him a wuss for being afraid of a little old nurse who had the hots for him. >.> When anything upset him, he'd clam up and not talk to me for days at a time. For being such chatterboxes and spotlight stealers, ESFPs are surprisingly tight-lipped about their problems...as if it's a huge crime to be unhappy. The breakup was pretty painless. ESFPs can move on with relative ease - which could be really annoying to a more committed type.
 

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I'm baffled that anyone could not know an ESFP. They pretty much make up the human population.
What she said.

They're fun people. You just can't have an interesting conversation with them, at least as I define interesting.
 

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am I the only one who thinks it's weird talking about ppl as types?

What I mean is, it's like, if you were talking off the internet and you knew a redhead could hear what you were saying, you likely wouldn't say "here's my experience with redheads" to somebody else.

Maybe that's a sucky analogy but it just feels weird being talked ABOUT as a type. I like being talked about as a person, I pretty much can't get enough attention. :tongue: But this is like detached, so its weird.



I had an internet boyfriend that was an ESFP and I have at least one as a coworker.

One of the most endearing things about them is how they go out of their way to make sure everyone is involved in the fun - which can frazzle introverts because they can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to join in on their partying and craziness. They're very attentive to details, which may not be readily obvious since they don't always act on their observations or even comment on them. One of the more frustrating things about dating an ESFP (especially long distance) is that they don't seem especially committed. They live so much in the moment that even considering the future takes effort. Consequences are outweighed by the potential for fun or experience. >.> If people were cars, an ESFP would be a dragracer, tearing through life at top speed. What's the point of life if you never really live? The only thing ESFPs regret is missing an opportunity, but even that doesn't last very long.
What they appreciate the most is being acknowledged as having a mind of their own and they prize the ability to make their own decisions.
What annoyed me the most about my ex was his inability to acknowledge when something was wrong. He gave himself a hernia doing something stupid at work and refused to go to the doctor for a week while he was in bed in horrible pain. He even went to work and made it worse trying to do some heavy lifting. He only went after I nagged him and called him a wuss for being afraid of a little old nurse who had the hots for him. >.> When anything upset him, he'd clam up and not talk to me for days at a time. For being such chatterboxes and spotlight stealers, ESFPs are surprisingly tight-lipped about their problems...as if it's a huge crime to be unhappy. The breakup was pretty painless. ESFPs can move on with relative ease - which could be really annoying to a more committed type.
Most of this sounds really familiar, pretty true about me too. I hate going to the doctor too, and I spend a lot of time trying to convince people to do fun things when they're all "I need to save money" or "I'm worried it might thunderstorm" or all this mess, and it's like, to me, you take all these precautions, and meanwhile you forget to actually LIVE. Then, BAM. You get hit by a bus tomorrow and what the hell did you spend all that time being cautious for? Nothin because you still got your ass killed like everybody else but at least when I exit this world, I will know I enjoyed myself. :cool:

What she said.

They're fun people. You just can't have an interesting conversation with them, at least as I define interesting.
Harsh. But maybe you're right. I think it's a big assumption to make, though. I've had some pretty interesting conversations with N types, so you never know until you try.
 

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am I the only one who thinks it's weird talking about ppl as types?

What I mean is, it's like, if you were talking off the internet and you knew a redhead could hear what you were saying, you likely wouldn't say "here's my experience with redheads" to somebody else.

Maybe that's a sucky analogy but it just feels weird being talked ABOUT as a type. I like being talked about as a person, I pretty much can't get enough attention. :tongue: But this is like detached, so its weird.





Most of this sounds really familiar, pretty true about me too. I hate going to the doctor too, and I spend a lot of time trying to convince people to do fun things when they're all "I need to save money" or "I'm worried it might thunderstorm" or all this mess, and it's like, to me, you take all these precautions, and meanwhile you forget to actually LIVE. Then, BAM. You get hit by a bus tomorrow and what the hell did you spend all that time being cautious for? Nothin because you still got your ass killed like everybody else but at least when I exit this world, I will know I enjoyed myself. :cool:



Harsh. But maybe you're right. I think it's a big assumption to make, though. I've had some pretty interesting conversations with N types, so you never know until you try.

Yea... and maybe that's part of what shut down my ex. I had just started getting into this personality stuff and was using all my close friends as typing guinea pigs. I think it annoyed him that I kept bringing up his type to point out things that he did. I just get so excited about things, and I see something he'd say or do that reminded me of the descriptions and I'd just have to tell him. >< I don't want to enforce the idea of "This is how you're like everyone else who fits into your type"...but it's kind of intriguing to think that there are distinct similarities and behaviors that match up like that.

Not that everyone is the same.. It's hard to explain, but it's kind of amazing to think that an architect, a surgeon, and a clown could all have the same personality type....and regardless of the differences in their lives and lifestyles, they follow the same functions. That you can watch how life experience and coincidence can alter history...and how who a person is affects how they react to it. History could've been so different if key figures had been different types, and thus reacted differently to outside influences. If Alexander the Great hadn't been so ambitious. If Hitler hadn't been an idealist.

People just don't like to think that they're not unique, and that isn't what typing is trying to do. Social Psychology will really mess with you in regard to being "just like everyone else." Typing is a step in trying to understand where personality comes from and why people have them. Using it as more than a tool is silly. It's not a religion or anything.

And as a person, you seem pretty fun and random, Bozo. You've obviously got a quirky sense of humor with that icon (and your demand for hugs in another thread). Consider yourself special - you get your own personal hug. l ^_^ -hug- ...just don't tell the ENTPs... They got a little competitive about their hug thread.
 

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ESFPs create a sense of comfort right there and then, they seem to really love action... also, the N and S does clash in conversation, but only provided that you go into the N stuff with them, not necessarily 'deep' stuff... Deep as defined by ESFPs is different to the definition I'd have for myself... If you allow them a chance to ramble about their inner thoughts or feelings about something, it can be quite an interesting convo... with limitations on your part, of course :crazy:

Con: They can be very pushy sometimes, and that's when I have to crack witty jokes or do one outta there!
 

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hey hey everyone.. i think, because i'm so into activity, bars, parties, i really get along with people, who are esfp, like me.. and no lies - i have about 6-8 esfp, whom i meet occasionaly to spend time with, cause then its an evening with people, who are relaxed, and not searching for the problems themselves, and trying to get the best from every situation they are involved..

i dont know, how people see me, personaly and i dont want to guess, because when you start to describe yourself to others, you always tell what kind of person you want to be, but not who you are.. but if other types are reading this topic, maybe giving my examples i could help understand each other :wink: :blushed: i know how I dont want others to see me - just cant stand criticism, usually take it very personally, can easily start a conflict and argument (now working hard to avoid this shit), but i just cant be angry for a long time..
esfps' i associate with are very optimistic, they dont spend much time analysing the problems and other people, easily forgiving, happy with themselves (who they are, how they are, having no ideas about maximalism and perfecionism as "their own", that come from inside).. besides men are very into changing partners, but as i see mostly because they need the attention, the play and they'll seek for relationship till they notice that they have it and then they go for hunting again:bored: and i think esfp partner should always keep the cards not open and keep the secret, something that will keep an esfp by her/his side..:wink:

what i noticed about people around me in virtual space and in real life - very often they under- estimate me.. i like joking and sometimes show myself as a real clown, i dont care so much - how people see me, but still when meeting new people, i never start asking questions - what people work or what kind of education they got (cause i look for emocional comfort), and then people know, that i'm a doctor and i am starting the third degree in university, thay are very suprised (slightly said) :)) but the main reason i told you this is because i wanted to accentuate, that in my job as a esfp - i'm very responsible, even sometime a workoholic, i never been disappointed in my memory and skills, maybe only in planning my work :) but i dont put high goals like being the best of the best and pressure, maybe protecting myself from disillusions :) (i didnt think i'll write so much, and i should stop now, cause you might be very tired to read all this, and now i'm even too tired to read all this myself and sorry in advance for grammar).
 

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am I the only one who thinks it's weird talking about ppl as types?

What I mean is, it's like, if you were talking off the internet and you knew a redhead could hear what you were saying, you likely wouldn't say "here's my experience with redheads" to somebody else.
Oh yeah, same here. I find it awkward when people make too many assumptions about me due to my type or say I should or shouldn't do this because it's not in type. I want to do something super out of character just to prove everyone wrong! :crazy:
 
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Some I see as overly impulsive when it comes to emotions. They can also be insufferably stubborn, heedless, and naive. More well-rounded ones are pleasant and difficult to really dislike though some come off as a bit superficial without really intending to. Most all are quite funny.

Overall, a mix of aggravation and fascination.

For some reason, I want to have mind-blowing sex with them, provided they're not related or out of my age group, more than most people and more than most types.
 

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For some reason, I want to have mind-blowing sex with them, provided they're not related or out of my age group, more than most people and more than most types.
You just tell me what age group you need me to act like, baby, and I will adapt. :cool:
 

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I had an internet boyfriend that was an ESFP and I have at least one as a coworker.

One of the most endearing things about them is how they go out of their way to make sure everyone is involved in the fun - which can frazzle introverts because they can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to join in on their partying and craziness. They're very attentive to details, which may not be readily obvious since they don't always act on their observations or even comment on them. One of the more frustrating things about dating an ESFP (especially long distance) is that they don't seem especially committed. They live so much in the moment that even considering the future takes effort. Consequences are outweighed by the potential for fun or experience. >.> If people were cars, an ESFP would be a dragracer, tearing through life at top speed. What's the point of life if you never really live? The only thing ESFPs regret is missing an opportunity, but even that doesn't last very long.
What they appreciate the most is being acknowledged as having a mind of their own and they prize the ability to make their own decisions.
What annoyed me the most about my ex was his inability to acknowledge when something was wrong. He gave himself a hernia doing something stupid at work and refused to go to the doctor for a week while he was in bed in horrible pain. He even went to work and made it worse trying to do some heavy lifting. He only went after I nagged him and called him a wuss for being afraid of a little old nurse who had the hots for him. >.> When anything upset him, he'd clam up and not talk to me for days at a time. For being such chatterboxes and spotlight stealers, ESFPs are surprisingly tight-lipped about their problems...as if it's a huge crime to be unhappy. The breakup was pretty painless. ESFPs can move on with relative ease - which could be really annoying to a more committed type.

WOW great insight I see myself lol! I love my man (ISTJ) but he is sooo boring to me sometimes :( and he never gives me enough attention or stimulation. It is wrong to go out and find other guys I know I have already hurt him in the past. But I am soooo tempted sometimes.

Man I think I am a good person. Just very weak towards temptation :(
 
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