I don't really know who else I can vent to about this other than my family, who are unavailable to talk to right now. So here goes..
My best friend is an ENTP, as I have mentioned in other threads. We both agree that we are probably the best friends out of our entire group of friends, because we "get" eachother a lot better than the rest of the world. She is very smart about life, and we understand what it is to be a healthy, happy human being. We agree on a lot, but we also disagree on several things. Lately we have been disillusioned with several people in our circle of friends, and often vent about them with one another. Although I don't enjoy gossiping, it was a nice feeling (for both of us) to solidify once again how grateful we each are to have one another.
Anyway, last night we went to a party with some of our friends. I got there before her, and was having a nice, normal time. Feeling happy, having fun, not drinking much at all. Since I drank too much last weekend, I decided I was not drinking much this weekend. The most I felt the entire night was a nice buzz. So, she arrives and almost immediately starts taking jabs at every single thing I say. I am used to this, it is normal for her to make fun of me every once in a while. So I roll with the punches for a while, I either just laugh it off or try to explain myself in a good natured way. After a while I'm noticing that I literally cannot talk normally or have a conversation because after every single thing I say, she makes a jab at me, talks over me and drowns me out. By now she has an accomplice; our mutual guy friend who has been hanging out/talking with me. He also has a part in this...
This guy and I have been friends (through my ENTP friend) for a little more than a year. We have recently made-out a couple times just for fun, as friends. I mean, I don't like him as something more, but he's attractive to me or whatever. So we have been having normal conversation before she got there, and he always jabs at me a teensy bit too, but his was good natured and I had no problem laughing and joking back with him. When my friend starts, however, he just goes right along with her and won't stop making fun and talking over me when I try to say normal things. Also, my best friend is trying to get him to hook up with other girls right in front of me. Which isn't that big of a deal, but as a best friend, I found it incredibly rude and even more insensitive than usual.
So this continues all night. I eventually just stop talking because it's basically like I'm not talking anyway. It continues even after my silence. She is percieving my silence about being extra emotional and sad, which peeves her even more, thus causes more making fun. Our guy friend is getting hit on by this one girl. My best friend is egging it on. But we leave eventually and as she is taking us home, the guy, right in front of me, is like "aw man you should have given me ten more minutes with her, i could have taken her home, blablabla." Again, I understand that he's entitled to do whatever he wants, but is it really necessary to do that right in front of me? I just found the way they were acting incredibly rude.
So when I get home, I cry for a while, and then decided to text her. I feel like she must have thought I was drunk in order for her to treat me so carelessly. I said "so how drunk do you assume I was?" She replies: "I don't know, all I though I noticed was you were way too emotional for my taste.. and you know I have bad taste so... it's really not a big deal". I replied that I hadn't been emotional, that I had stopped talking because every thing I said was made fun of, so I couldn't have a normal conversation with friends. She replied "Lol whoa you're hilarious". And then I turned off my phone.
I never, ever blow up at people, and I feel like I wasn't really that angry sounding in my texts. But I certainly don't usually talk like that to her. I thought she'd appreciate my directness. But whatever, if she doesn't care that I was hurt by her behavior, then I'm done making an effort to always agree with her side of the story.
I guess something that also hurt about it was that she and I usually talk about what has been bothering us about our other friends, and when it's me she's throwing backhanded anger/discontentment/frustration at, it really bothers me. I thought maybe she'd just tell me outwardly what's bothering her.
Anyway, I don't really particularly enjoy being friends with the people in our circle of friends other than her. And she's the only reason I hang out with them, so that wouldn't be a big issue.
I would miss her a lot and it would be hard to find a friend like her. But I don't know how I'll feel about our friendship if she doesn't apologize for being, well, it sounds silly, but a "bully". I don't understand why she feels like I was being too emotional BEFORE she even got to the party. She's like jumping to conclusions or something. It's baffling to me. Maybe she was pushing other annoyances on to me without realizing? Whatever. I'm kind of numb to the idea right now, but it'll probably hurt more as time goes on.
I'm glad that she knows I'm pissed at her, though, usually I just keep it to myself when she makes me mad.
Sorry this thing is so long. It's okay if it was tl;dr. It feels good to get it out somewhere.
My best friend is an ENTP, as I have mentioned in other threads. We both agree that we are probably the best friends out of our entire group of friends, because we "get" eachother a lot better than the rest of the world. She is very smart about life, and we understand what it is to be a healthy, happy human being. We agree on a lot, but we also disagree on several things. Lately we have been disillusioned with several people in our circle of friends, and often vent about them with one another. Although I don't enjoy gossiping, it was a nice feeling (for both of us) to solidify once again how grateful we each are to have one another.
Anyway, last night we went to a party with some of our friends. I got there before her, and was having a nice, normal time. Feeling happy, having fun, not drinking much at all. Since I drank too much last weekend, I decided I was not drinking much this weekend. The most I felt the entire night was a nice buzz. So, she arrives and almost immediately starts taking jabs at every single thing I say. I am used to this, it is normal for her to make fun of me every once in a while. So I roll with the punches for a while, I either just laugh it off or try to explain myself in a good natured way. After a while I'm noticing that I literally cannot talk normally or have a conversation because after every single thing I say, she makes a jab at me, talks over me and drowns me out. By now she has an accomplice; our mutual guy friend who has been hanging out/talking with me. He also has a part in this...
This guy and I have been friends (through my ENTP friend) for a little more than a year. We have recently made-out a couple times just for fun, as friends. I mean, I don't like him as something more, but he's attractive to me or whatever. So we have been having normal conversation before she got there, and he always jabs at me a teensy bit too, but his was good natured and I had no problem laughing and joking back with him. When my friend starts, however, he just goes right along with her and won't stop making fun and talking over me when I try to say normal things. Also, my best friend is trying to get him to hook up with other girls right in front of me. Which isn't that big of a deal, but as a best friend, I found it incredibly rude and even more insensitive than usual.
So this continues all night. I eventually just stop talking because it's basically like I'm not talking anyway. It continues even after my silence. She is percieving my silence about being extra emotional and sad, which peeves her even more, thus causes more making fun. Our guy friend is getting hit on by this one girl. My best friend is egging it on. But we leave eventually and as she is taking us home, the guy, right in front of me, is like "aw man you should have given me ten more minutes with her, i could have taken her home, blablabla." Again, I understand that he's entitled to do whatever he wants, but is it really necessary to do that right in front of me? I just found the way they were acting incredibly rude.
So when I get home, I cry for a while, and then decided to text her. I feel like she must have thought I was drunk in order for her to treat me so carelessly. I said "so how drunk do you assume I was?" She replies: "I don't know, all I though I noticed was you were way too emotional for my taste.. and you know I have bad taste so... it's really not a big deal". I replied that I hadn't been emotional, that I had stopped talking because every thing I said was made fun of, so I couldn't have a normal conversation with friends. She replied "Lol whoa you're hilarious". And then I turned off my phone.
I never, ever blow up at people, and I feel like I wasn't really that angry sounding in my texts. But I certainly don't usually talk like that to her. I thought she'd appreciate my directness. But whatever, if she doesn't care that I was hurt by her behavior, then I'm done making an effort to always agree with her side of the story.
I guess something that also hurt about it was that she and I usually talk about what has been bothering us about our other friends, and when it's me she's throwing backhanded anger/discontentment/frustration at, it really bothers me. I thought maybe she'd just tell me outwardly what's bothering her.
Anyway, I don't really particularly enjoy being friends with the people in our circle of friends other than her. And she's the only reason I hang out with them, so that wouldn't be a big issue.
I would miss her a lot and it would be hard to find a friend like her. But I don't know how I'll feel about our friendship if she doesn't apologize for being, well, it sounds silly, but a "bully". I don't understand why she feels like I was being too emotional BEFORE she even got to the party. She's like jumping to conclusions or something. It's baffling to me. Maybe she was pushing other annoyances on to me without realizing? Whatever. I'm kind of numb to the idea right now, but it'll probably hurt more as time goes on.
I'm glad that she knows I'm pissed at her, though, usually I just keep it to myself when she makes me mad.
Sorry this thing is so long. It's okay if it was tl;dr. It feels good to get it out somewhere.