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I just wanted to say that this forum is special in that there are some really smart and cool people here.

People such as lilysocks, ponpiri, brightflashes, GreenGirl, martinkunev, ukulele, EyesOpen, Dare and others, who I forgot to mention here or who comment less, so I didn't notice them. You are really great people to talk to.

This is a thought I frequently have when I visit this forum after visiting other sites, on which people don't understand the basic rules of discussion or will misconstrue what you said to get offended, places where no rational discussion is possible.
 

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I have a similar sentiment about this forum. I find that not only is it a relief on a very deep level to find others who think (in general) like me, but the synthesis of ideas here are remarkable. It does feel like a special place to me as well.
 

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It is indeed. It is gratifying to be with people that actually understand you, as it is also gratifying to hold an intellectual conversation with said person. To this day, I have not seen a forum more cleaner, or friendlier than the one I am on now - a true rarity in the modern world (where most of the internet are filled with attention seeking teenagers).
 

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The main reason for this is probably because the forum welcomes people who are interested in a theory which's principle is understanding where people come from. Understanding, interpreting (with the intention to objectively understand and not MISinterpret), and having more insight on other users is what most come here to practice. I personally love it more than other forums too, it's why I joined. You post the wrong sentences on another forum, and get ready to have to explain yourself the way you would in front of an aggressive, media-biased, short-circuited jury.

(You know you are in the right forum when one of the threads is about how exceptional the forum is)
 

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I am afraid I will have to skip the celebration; unless ::


 
(X)-host makes a special offer of (adding Hummus) / spicy, spicy, spicy duck & sweet, sweet, cocktails to the menu.
 

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IT IS! I find this forum very welcoming, structured and I like people here, they all are strong individuals, sometimes we are very different from each other but at the same time- not so much. There is a common understanding... and acceptance. At least, I see it that way.

There's no negative energy here.

It is very nice to come back here, take a break in here. A cafe full of "your people". You go out and go in as you please but find a little bit of peace each time.


Compared to other forums: INTJforum was (is?) disturbing, very toxic place, reddit is a big mess with people I don't relate to and keyboard warriors.
I also never liked other kinds of forums (not related to personality types/psychology) because they're mostly circle jerk-kind-of-thing.

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YEYYY! I'm among the cool ones :puffer:
 

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The main reason for this is probably because the forum welcomes people who are interested in a theory which's principle is understanding where people come from. Understanding, interpreting (with the intention to objectively understand and not MISinterpret), and having more insight on other users is what most come here to practice.
Well said. I do come here to practice learning, understanding and interpreting the different types indeed. And I also find the signal to noise ratio of the forum far above any other forums I have participated in.
 

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Compared to other forums: INTJforum was (is?) disturbing, very toxic place, reddit is a big mess with people I don't relate to and keyboard warriors.
I also never liked other kinds of forums (not related to personality types/psychology) because they're mostly circle jerk-kind-of-thing.

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To be fair, there is occasional "negative energy" I'd say, just much less so than expected in this type of milieu.

I recently joined city-data.com and it seems like one of the healthier places for online discussion. Also, similar sub-forums to PerC, though it's much larger. Or at least, it sure feels that way (haven't checked the actual #s), so I think thread discussions aren't as cohesive. People are more in and out. And I think there's a different age demographic (not as young as here).

I do find this particular sub-forum is sort of a safe haven for me, especially when it comes to other people actually "getting" you at least some of the time. Kind of ironic as I think some non-INTJs on PerC find the INTJ sub intimidating. Which I don't understand at all because for me it's more the opposite, every time I post outside of here I feel like the stakes are higher, that it's more likely all hell can break loose. lol.
 

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I like it. I only participate very sparingly in some musician specific forums, which are fine if you want some detailed technical discussion, but TBH, musicians can be kind of .... hard to get along with, both IRL, and especially online, some real ASD types that I can't really relate to. Basically, musicians are difficult nerds who seem obsessed with petty sniping, personal political or ideological agendas, and general dick-measuring.

And a very small, general interest board basically with only a few other people active -- we just trade jokes, quotes from history and literature, idle chit chat, and talk about movies, at a very slow pace. And Facebook, maybe once a week I'll look at my feed and maybe make a comment or two to the few people among my already deliberately small list of friends who aren't on my "restricted" list. I've taken to posting there only in French lately in an effort to obfuscate my insane idiotic blather, and also to make some vague cultural and political statement -- it's only a second language, but I like keeping up with the kids' chat slang, just for laffs, but I've been thinking about following Beckett's lead and making the switch in writing in that language just to....I don't know, see if I can find something new, or at least play some OuLiPo-style games in making homophonic bilingual puns, or something. Just an idea I had a few weeks ago.

Different user names. I don't know why I picked this one, it just seemed like a good idea at the time. Like taking your clothes off and running into a bunch of cactus plants, but, hey, it's only words.

I like it here because it's low-key, low nerd trivia alpha-poster upsmanship, and, well, being both a very good INTJ, I'm also kind of a bad one, in some way, falling short of my ideals often enough that, while I've learned how to manage balance relatively quickly, it needs improvement. Should have been complete ten years ago, but there were other ponds to fish that ended up not very fishy.

If I may add, the MBTI, which I called elsewhere my "new toy," was a neat discovery. I'd discovered the relative position of my various functions, in some odd conceptual model which I can't remember how I conceived it, but I'm happy to use the clearer model of the cognitive stack, precisely because it mirrors my own understanding, and I don't have to expend anymore effort in fumbling around with various half-baked, home-grown theories. It's good enough for me.

Plus, no one seems to complain about me, probably because the kinds of threads I've seen are pretty clearly delimited, and I don't have any desire to say too much outrageous bullshit out of sheer boredom, confident I can stick to the topic at hand.

I know, tl;dr, but I don't know. In for a penny, in for a pound. "Never get off the boat. Absolutely goddamned right. Unless you were going all the way."
 

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Yeah, for the most part. The INTJ forum is the relaxing forum I post on.
 

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@TheTraveller7 Thank you :)

I like that pretty much any topic is open to discussion in PerC. Well... except for domain-specific things requiring deep knowledge - for these things there are sites like reddit. The advantage here is that you get to see comments from the same people and "know" them in a way. The forum is quite useful for understanding other people's perspective on various subjects (or even for understanding my own).

The tone usually remains civilized even between people that don't like each other (or at least that's my experience).

Every once in a while I see somebody that retired and I'm wondering why these people leave.

I do find this particular sub-forum is sort of a safe haven for me, especially when it comes to other people actually "getting" you at least some of the time. Kind of ironic as I think some non-INTJs on PerC find the INTJ sub intimidating. Which I don't understand at all because for me it's more the opposite, every time I post outside of here I feel like the stakes are higher, that it's more likely all hell can break loose. lol.
I share this feeling. I think it's because of the general open-mindedness of INTJs. Then you know that you can lay out a logical argument in this subforum and people will understand it the way you intended.
 

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Kind of ironic as I think some non-INTJs on PerC find the INTJ sub intimidating.
One can't immediately tell without looking first, but there are a lot of us non-INTJs waiting in the sidelines/bushes with binoculars/hot cocoa, observing how the INTJs interact with each other and the world around them.

Let's just say the cafe next to this one is quite noisy, but INTJs do tend to keep it librarian style, which is always an appealing quality. Special indeed :tongue:.
 

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I have gone through most of my life thinking that I was alone in the world, a freak unable to be like "normal" people. I really appreciate this place, because it gave me the opportunity to find people who are like me, and who I can relate to. It's easier to handle the interpersonal challenges I face when I can be assured that I am not defective or broken in some fashion. I'm just different from most people, and that's alright.
 

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I have gone through most of my life thinking that I was alone in the world, a freak unable to be like "normal" people. I really appreciate this place, because it gave me the opportunity to find people who are like me, and who I can relate to. It's easier to handle the interpersonal challenges I face when I can be assured that I am not defective or broken in some fashion. I'm just different from most people, and that's alright.
100% relatable.
 

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It's quite nice to interact civilly with like-minded people. This forum is definitely a bastion in the madhouse that is the Internet.
 

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One can't immediately tell without looking first, but there are a lot of us non-INTJs waiting in the sidelines/bushes with binoculars/hot cocoa, observing how the INTJs interact with each other and the world around them.

Let's just say the cafe next to this one is quite noisy, but INTJs do tend to keep it librarian style, which is always an appealing quality. Special indeed :tongue:.
 
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