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I'm sure this has been asked ad nauseam before, but can one change their personality type? I know some believe we are born into our personality types, but some believe it changes based on our life events. I realize this area is sort of vague, at least to me it is. My second question is, if it's possible, how can I develop my thinking>feeling and become more of an INTJ? I hate my Fe and it makes me feel very negative about myself.
 

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What sort of evidence is there to support that you can't do it?
 

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According to the theory, you cannot - but it's not exactly science (not even close.) I find it highly unlikely that even the most experienced MBTI "professionals" could have typed me as INTP while I was growing up - even as late as high school; they'd have probably gone with INFP or INFJ. But now, my "INTP status" is rather indisputable. Of course, I can retroactively try to explain this discrepancy with external factors if I like, but then I just seem to be falling prey to the hindsight bias.

The way I prefer to think of it is that everyone has all 8 cognitive functions with varying degrees of use. Some of your preferences will be in your nature, but also things like maturing into adulthood, life-changing events, environmental pressures, habits, etc. can cause you to develop some and suppress others, causing shifts (usually subtle, sometimes more significant) which can affect your type. But I do think the majority of people fall into their particular type earlier on and don't change much, at least by age 25.
 

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According to the theory, you cannot - but it's not exactly science (not even close.) I find it highly unlikely that even the most experienced MBTI "professionals" could have typed me as INTP while I was growing up - even as late as high school; they'd have probably gone with INFP or INFJ. But now, my "INTP status" is rather indisputable. Of course, I can retroactively try to explain this discrepancy with external factors if I like, but then I just seem to be falling prey to the hindsight bias.

The way I prefer to think of it is that everyone has all 8 cognitive functions with varying degrees of use. Some of your preferences will be in your nature, but also things like maturing into adulthood, life-changing events, environmental pressures, habits, etc. can cause you to develop some and suppress others, causing shifts (usually subtle, sometimes more significant) which can affect your type. But I do think the majority of people fall into their particular type earlier on and don't change much, at least by age 25.
So how do you know your type? I always feel in the dark about this. I have always gotten INTJ on the test, but how else do you figure it out? As you said, we all have every cognitive function. Whenever I look at all of the Ni, Ne, Si, Se, Te, etc. I can see myself using all of them. I guess I use some more than others, but the distinctions of what I am are so blurry. I have no clue.
 

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Are you sure your real question is not how better to adopt a more socially accepted personality (possibly even a collection of personas) conducive to easier socialising?
 

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this is a stupid answer. and no.
 

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So how do you know your type? I always feel in the dark about this. I have always gotten INTJ on the test, but how else do you figure it out? As you said, we all have every cognitive function. Whenever I look at all of the Ni, Ne, Si, Se, Te, etc. I can see myself using all of them. I guess I use some more than others, but the distinctions of what I am are so blurry. I have no clue.
Biology is blurry. We're a continuum. Although I'm an ENTJ, I don't share all the characteristics of the other 2 that I know. There are a couple of ways to know: ask people that you know, share situations and questions with us and we can give you our armchair psychology, have a professional work it out with you, find which subforum seems to jive with you the most.

just some ideas.
 
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So how do you know your type? I always feel in the dark about this. I have always gotten INTJ on the test, but how else do you figure it out? As you said, we all have every cognitive function. Whenever I look at all of the Ni, Ne, Si, Se, Te, etc. I can see myself using all of them. I guess I use some more than others, but the distinctions of what I am are so blurry. I have no clue.
In my view, the only way to know your type with confidence is to (a) know the functions well - by which I mean you should be able to describe them comprehensively and meaningfully without overlapping definitions, and to (b) know yourself well - by which I mean you should be very aware of when you are using each function, and how often you use them. Sometimes the only way to get a good handle on this is to interact with people who use each function a lot, and "see it in action."

Remember, the most important thing to find is your Dom-Aux pair (or your Ego block, in Socionics). Everything else is secondary. If you are indeed an INTJ, then you should be Ni-Te. You can (1) study these functions individually, (2) study how they work together, and (3) read INTJ profiles that explain how these functions affect thought and behaviour. Ignore profiles and systems like Keirsey that just give you stereotypes.
 
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Are you sure your real question is not how better to adopt a more socially accepted personality (possibly even a collection of personas) conducive to easier socialising?
I just don't want to be a feeler, but I know I am. For some reason, I've always wanted to be a logic-based person and not someone so emotionally sensitive. I want to rely on making decisions and actions through logic, not feelings. I guess there's no way to fix it though. I wasn't born with the right personality for me.
 
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I just don't want to be a feeler, but I know I am. For some reason, I've always wanted to be a logic-based person and not someone so emotionally sensitive. I want to rely on making decisions and actions through logic, not feelings. I guess there's no way to fix it though. I wasn't born with the right personality for me.
I don't wish to be harsh, however I have to be honest; in order to become more of a logical thinker or less feelings driven individual you actually have to be more pragmatic in taking the time to put yourself in less common situations to broaden your thinking-decision making-learning-communication styles as your task alone.

Trust me, being less NF minded is not always all its cracked up to be, especially when we each have to find our social-emotional-career fit in life to suit our needs most in this life (I spent several years as the repressed emotionally stoic detached thinker due to life traumas and realising too late that I also felt emotionally stifled amongst computing undergraduates thinking with fewer emotions as doers or 'on the fly' only).
 
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