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Discussion Starter #1
Trying this again for the last time:

1) Context:
a) What is your age range and general location (Country so that cultural values can be taken into account)? Do you have any impairments that may affect the way that you answer this questionnaire? Any religious or political beliefs (or anything else along those lines) that also might have an effect?

Late twenties, I'm from Korea but have lived abroad for so long and have a non traditional family, so I don't think that plays a part. I don't think my issues (anxiety) is affecting me at all right now. No, I don't really follow religion and don't really align with a political party too much.

b) Which types are you currently considering? Why are you considering them and why haven’t you decided on one?

ESTP and ENTJ. I've been told to not count xSTJ or INTJ out, so there's that. Also would like to settle my stack, I believe I'm a 3w4/8w7/7w8 sx.

2) What do you deem as your purpose in life?

To be happy, obviously, to get what I want out of it.

3) Of the seven deadly sins, which one(s) do you relate to the most and the least and why?

Sloth. Unfortunately unless I'm into something I'm way too self indulgent, dedicating myself to things that are very interesting/fun, but don't amount to anything.

4) Analyzing your relationships with others, briefly describe:
a) The type of people you are drawn to

Nice (polite, friendly, respectful) people, soft, conscientious, earnest, affectionate.

b) The type of people who are drawn to you

I wasn't able to discern a clear pattern, but generally people who are more passive, much less assertive or outspoken than me.

c) The type of people you are repulsed by

Dishonest, manipulative, self entitled, arrogant, self righteous, selfish, slobs.

5)What are the traits in others that you admire but you cannot emulate yourself? Elaborate.

Long term determination: people who can endure very unsatisfying, unfulfilling present conditions for extended periods of time, for future rewards. Not so self conscious: not agonizing whether you're good enough and just going for it.

6) Describe your relationship with the following:
a) Anger

I'm a pretty irritable person and quite impatient, but I've very rarely have raged. It's hard for me to conceal anger, and I can't stand passive aggressive people: if you have something to say, say it to my face. I hate letting issues fester, let's resolve this right now. I hate when people say "its ok" when it clearly isn't, it makes me mad.

b) Shame

Unfortunately for myself my fear of humiliation for falling short/failing it's the biggest demon I've ever faced in my life. In fact if my life was a movie the theme would be getting over this paralyzing fear. It's weird though, because for a long time now it's very hard for others to shame me, it's mostly that I feel embarrassed on my own, if that makes sense, even if others are praising me.

c) Fear

In the past I used to get incredibly anxious and just jump to the worst conclusions, terrible scenarios. I've been diagnosed with anxiety that for a while brought hypochondria on, so keep that in mind. Weirdly enough (or not) this episodes happen when something specific came up, a possible big problem. But in general my simmering ever present anxiety (about actually achieving my goals, making something of myself) is dealt with through sheer escapism. Both mental (daydreaming) or video marathons, reading on my interests for hours (rabbit holes really), analyzing things and people for fun.

d) Love/passion

Love for life, myself and my favorite thing in the world: music. Passion is everything, without it how can you live? You have to at least be passionate about being alive.

e) Conflict

Don't look for it but also don't run from it. It's something that can't be ignored.

7) What are some of the themes that have played a prominent role in your life (ie. A struggle you’ve been unable to conquer, ect)?

I already answered that, oops. To reiterate: get over my own fear of inadequacy and ridiculous high standards for myself, and actually try to achieve what I've been dreaming of my whole life. Turn a fantasy and potential into a reality. God, it sounds like a Disney thing.

8) Answer only one of the following:
a) [College aged and above] What is your area of work/study? Why did you choose this and would you change it? If so, what would be your ideal?

I'm a translator and interpreter, it happened because my mom suggested it since very few people actually speak English in Korea, or Korean internationally. I do love what I do, it's just not my passion at all. My ideal is to be a performer.

9) When meeting a new person, what do you tend to focus on?

How they come across: everything about their body language, how they talk etc. But it's not a conscious thing, I only realized I did that after many years.

10) How do you feel about humanity as a whole? What do you feel are some of the biggest problems the human race faces and why?

Humanity is good and capable of the most extraordinary things. Unfortunately we have a huge number of human looking soulless creatures creating sufferment for others running around. People are disconnect from their selfs and obsessed with their images, completely ignoring anything that comes within that isn't self indulgence and self entitlement. They don't think for themselves and buy anything the media/celebrities tell them.

11) What are some of your hobbies and interests?

Anything involving music and typology, color theory. I also love photography, movie/literary analysis, fashion and culinary (watching, not really dong it myself).

13) How do you usually “hang out” with your friend(s)? When answering, think about what activities you tend to choose, whether you hang out with one person at once or many, whether or not you initiate the interaction.

I love discussing our common interests, and experiencing together if possible. Like watching our favorite artists and then spending hours talking about it. Also doing things like karaoke, roller skating.

14) What is more important, actions or words? Why?

Actions. Words mean a lot to me and I refuse to accept "I didn't mean that" in my life. But at the end of the day, words are pretty and easy to say, and I only trust deeds.

15) Oh dear, you’ve been cursed by a witch! It’s ok though, you get a choice on which curse you will receive. Will you choose….
a) To never be able to experience the sensation of taste
b) To be immortal
c) To lose your memories
d) To be poor for the rest of your life
e) Or to never experience passion
Elaborate on why!

To be immortal, of course. To begin with, I don't see it as a curse at all. Sure, it's possible I'd lose people I love and that's terrible. But I believe humans were intended to be immortal anyway, and our spirits, which is what we really are, are immortal. To prevail,to see everything happen, that'd be neat. But above else: living my passion forever.

16) What do you hope to avoid being? If it helps, describe a person who embodies what you avoid/you as a villain, ect.

I don't want to be in the future what I am now: just a dreamer. I also would hate to be a bitter person taking out on others my unsatisfaction in life. The world is already full of them.

17) How do you relate to obsession? Do you tend to "merge" with others or your interests? How do you feel about the idea of doing this?

I'm pretty obsessive with my interests, if I find something I like is like a drug, I fall into rabbit holes. I've never merged with others. I want to find a group I belong to and have many friends of all walks of life. But I don't know if that's "merging".

8) Organized or messy? Plans and blueprints or impulse and surprises? What are you preferences and tendencies?

Messy as hell, but very organized in my head (everything has its own category, ranking, priority etc). Plans and blueprints, but a lot of room to change my mind. I can't have all up in the air but also can't feel trapped. I always have a goal and an idea of how to get there, but circumstances change and so I adapt or change course.

19) How do you subjectively view comfort and how do you create comfort in your life and surroundings?

Comfort is what makes me feel good, I know what it is and try to surround myself with that.

20) What makes you feel inferior?

Whenever I fail to live up tom my high expectations, when somebody bits me at my own game or when I lose control and show something I didn’t mean for people to see.

21) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)

The best outcome for me, obviously. I strive for win-win, but if I can’t get it (very rare) I’ll pick the option that offers me the best buy for the lowest price. What will give me the most of what I want with the least of what I don’t? Usually the best option is crystal clear to me because it’s given by my intuition (which is why I consider myself very lucky), but when it isn’t I might have to resort to weigh pros and cons and in the very rare occurance, ask for advice.

22) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else ?

a) That I am so honest about who I am, what I want, what I believe in and I don’t compromise or take any shit regarding all this. I am what I am, and you take it or leave it because I’m sure not gonna change to fit in or please you.

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Is this a questionnaire that is focused on enneagram? I find it very hard to find the MBTI-relevant parts of it.

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I think you may be an ESTP.... I was considering ESFPs as well, but I'm leaning towards ESTP. The reason why these two make the most sense is because the section on fears reminds me of Ni grips, which you can look up and see if they resonate with you. I feel like my ESFP friends absolutely hate conflict and do their best to run away from them as they just don't like to be around that kind of negative energy. From the way you described dealing with conflicts, it seems like you wouldn't be as scared and prone to avoid them as much as an ESFP might.

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Discussion Starter #7
I think you may be an ESTP.... I was considering ESFPs as well, but I'm leaning towards ESTP. The reason why these two make the most sense is because the section on fears reminds me of Ni grips, which you can look up and see if they resonate with you. I feel like my ESFP friends absolutely hate conflict and do their best to run away from them as they just don't like to be around that kind of negative energy. From the way you described dealing with conflicts, it seems like you wouldn't be as scared and prone to avoid them as much as an ESFP might.
Thanks for the useful reply.

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Discussion Starter #8
Do you think there are any differences to how you described yourself and how people actually perceive you? How do you think others would describe you? If there are any discrepancies between these two that are you are aware of; do you know why exactly that is?

I'm way more sensitive than I appear to be. Way less sure of myself.

What in life do you find to be of importance? Why? If you are unsure you can always take the Value Test and post the results here. Do note that it helps if you narrow it down to 20 or ideally 10 values as suggested at stage 2.


Please describe yourself when you are in an enjoyable situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.

This is bizarre question: if I'm having fun than I'm not being super self aware and observing myself, am I? When I'm enjoying myself nay worries go away.

Describe your relationship to socialization. How do you perceive one-on-one interaction? How do you perceive group interaction?

I like both one-to-one and group settings, but the more the merrier. What matters is the company and chemistry is good.

Describe your relationship to society. What are the elements of it you hold important or unimportant (e.g. social norms, values, customs, traditions)?

If you're going to act like an uncivilized asshole then go live isolated. If you choose to live somewhere, you have to abide to those rules to an extent. In Roma do like Romans do. Of course I won't go against important values of mine, but in that case I'll move rather than disrespect a whole culture.

Describe your relationship to authority. How do you perceive authority? What does it mean to you, and how do you deal with it?

I decide who's an authority to me, I don't care about titles or tactics of intimidation. If you want me to listen to you and trust you, than earn my respect. I'm not a brat or anything like that, just not obedient.

Describe your relationship to order and chaos. What do order and chaos mean to you? How do they manifest in your daily life?

I don't like chaos but I can deal with it for some time. Chaos is the opposite of order, no visible agenda or method. The only chaos there is is sometimes the state of my wardrobe. I make plans, I have goals, I prefer things like that.

What is it that you fear in life? Why? How does this fear manifest to you both in how you think and how you act?

Being trapped in a life I hate. It manifests as me being very reluctant to compromise with things long term, and jumping ship when I see it's not my thing.

a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?

It's much easier to say what drains me, because I enjoy very disparate things: hate chores (cleaning, washing clothes, cooking every meal etc) and anything resembling it, like very detailed repetitive manual work. The only exception being video editing, which is a pain in the ass but I enjoy.
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